Interest classes are not an important part of a child’s early childhood stage, so what are they?

An acquaintance sent me a \”bargain link\” with the following message: \”My child wants to attend an interest class. Please negotiate the price!\” \”Bargain links\” like this in Moments are not uncommon, they are merchants. A commonly used marketing method, customers get discounts and merchants promote their popularity, a win-win situation. I clicked in, clicked \”Bargain\”, exited, and replied: \”It\’s off.\” When my acquaintance saw my reply, he immediately replied to express his thanks. He was probably idle at this time, so he started chatting with me and asked me if Jiabao had attended more interest classes. I confess, no. Baoduo has been learning Lego for a while, with one class a week. When he goes to class every Sunday, he always says, \”Can you not go? Why don\’t you, a mother, let your child rest?\” He likes Lego, but he doesn\’t like it. Lego class, yes! Buy a bunch of Lego pieces and play with them at home! He also studied Taekwondo for a while, and he simply thought it was cool, so he begged me to buy him clothes for nothing. The promotional price for ten courses is 99 yuan, and a set of clothing is 280 yuan! As a result, the promotional course is over, so let’s renew it? But I felt aggrieved and said, \”Don\’t learn anymore. The coach always hits my hands. It\’s wrong to hit people!\” have to! \”280 yuan\” has been at the bottom of the box ever since. This acquaintance did not know these inside stories and was an upright person. Hearing this, he was surprised and said: \”Why don\’t you pay so much attention to your child\’s education? You don\’t expect him to become famous and start a family. The most important thing is to have some hobbies.\” Uh-huh, yes. . I nodded my head at the phone screen like a chicken pecking at rice. The truth in this statement is indeed a good truth, but to implement a good truth well, you need to not go astray in your actions. First of all, there are many manifestations of attaching importance to children\’s education. Not attending interest classes does not mean that we do not attach importance to it. Secondly, children must have interests and hobbies, and must they be cultivated in interest classes? Why is it \”politically correct\” that our children must attend interest classes? Interest classes are not an important part of a child’s early childhood stage, so what are they? mental health. According to the psychological activity characteristics of adolescent children in my country, they should possess the following six psychological qualities to achieve mental health: 1. Normal intellectual development, that is, the individual\’s intellectual development level is commensurate with his or her actual age. 2. Stable emotions. Although there will be sorrow, confusion, failure, frustration, etc., it will not last long. 3. Be able to correctly understand yourself, understand the value of your existence, have your own ideals, and be confident in the future. 4. Have good interpersonal relationships. Respect and understand others, learn from their strengths, and get along with others in a friendly and tolerant manner. 5. A stable and coordinated personality, able to effectively control and adjust one\’s own personality tendencies and personality psychological characteristics. 6. Love life, be able to give full play to your potential in all aspects, and never lose confidence in life due to setbacks and failures. These six points cover areas such as intelligence, emotions, self-awareness and interpersonal relationships. And I regard security and emotional management as the top priorities. First, security. Security is a word that is mentioned frequently. What exactly is a sense of security? Sense of security is the psychological need for stability and security. Psychologists call a sense of security \”the human psychological immune system.\” A good sense of security is the basis for the development of a complete personality. The famous humanistic psychologist Maslow believed that securityIt is one of the most important factors in determining mental health and can even be considered a synonym for mental health. People who are insecure will be anxious, unsure of themselves, and distrustful of others. In severe cases, they may have self-doubt and even doubt about life. What\’s the harm? The harm is that, on the surface, it looks like nothing, but in fact, his life will be more difficult than others. So, how to give children a sense of security? An expression of love and quality companionship. The second is emotion management. The essence of emotional management is actually being able to think and control your actions rationally on the premise of understanding and fully accepting your own emotions. Many children cannot manage their emotions. That\’s because parents didn\’t set the right example. For example, I personally saw a child whose mother said so and so, but the child disagreed and immediately screamed \”ahhhhh\”. The mother gave in to the child and let him do whatever he wanted, while angrily accusing him of what he said. What a bad case! Compromising and blaming at the same time is a completely wrong example. If things go on like this, children will learn to get angry and blame others, but they will not know what it means to be calm. Most children will cry when they don\’t get what they want when they are more than two years old. This is normal because people have two sets of thinking systems. One is automatic thinking, which is unconscious, without intentional purpose, natural and does not require effort. One is rational thinking, which is the choice you make after thinking about something. At this time, parents should start to correct, demonstrate how to express emotions correctly, and cultivate their children\’s ability to think rationally. For example, say this: \”Don\’t cry. Speak slowly. What do you want to do? How do you want me to do it…I understand your feelings, but…the reason why I don\’t agree is…\” Another example, once , Baoduo ran to someone else\’s flower bed to play with stones, and planned to take a few away. I stepped in to stop him, but he felt aggrieved and said angrily: \”Mom, you are a bad person.\” I said: \”No, you can\’t destroy public property casually. This is a rule that everyone abides by. I\’m just telling you this rule. Remind you not to make mistakes, how can I be a bad person?\” It is an agreed rule that you cannot take away the stones in the flower bed. It is this rule that makes Baoduo feel wronged and angry, not me. He directed his anger at me, but because I\’m the one who said the rule. This is due to his automatic thinking. The process of my calm analysis is to teach him the simplest rational thinking. I hope that through my analysis and explanation, he will realize this and cultivate his rational thinking ability. With this ability, in life, you can at least avoid angering innocent people. If a child has a perfect personality, then he will have his own unique personality charm. Even if he does not have any outstanding skills, it will not prevent him from becoming an interesting person.