Interest classes may be destroying children’s interests step by step…

On Friday, after classmate Jie Zhe’s English class was over, I heard a few mothers discussing enrolling their children in interest classes – “I don’t know what class to enroll my children in, and I’m worried that if I enroll my children, they won’t be able to continue studying…” “I want to know more. Sign up for a few classes and try to see what his interests are and then focus on cultivating them.\” \”The cost is not small. It would be a pity if you don\’t learn halfway.\” \”The main reason is that you don\’t know what your child likes. If you ask him, he will say that he wants to learn everything. , but that’s not the case if you really sign up for the class…\” In order to enrich the children\’s \”spiritual world\” and give them some \”skills\” that they can use, everyone is really worried. But how can we get to the child’s points of interest? This is probably a question shared by many parents. A friend who is the same age as me can be regarded as someone who has half of the experience of interest classes. When they were in the fourth grade of elementary school, a notice was posted at the door of their school, saying that a violin teacher from the county would be selecting students in the auditorium at 8 p.m., and interested students would be invited to come for an interview. In a small town in the 1980s, the violin was a god-like existence. The news spread quickly, and everyone was eager to try it. The friend also ran home and asked her father to take her for an \”interview.\” That night, there was a long queue at the door of the school auditorium. For those children who are said to be selected, the parents\’ faces are filled with glory, as if they already hold the future violinist in their hands; for those who are not selected, the adults will directly complain that the children have no future. Her palms began to sweat when she saw that she would be scolded if she didn\’t choose. Dad touched her head and asked: \”Do you like the violin?\” She nodded without hesitation. She had seen violin players on TV before and thought she looked so cool standing in the center of the stage! Her father smiled: \”Do you like those who stand on the stage playing violin, or do you like the sound of the violin?\” She didn\’t know how to answer, and it was her turn to go in for the interview. In the end, she was able to take the retest because her “fingers were long and flexible.” My friend was a little excited when I was chosen, but my father had a calm expression and didn\’t mention the violin again. During the retest the next day, the teacher played a piece of music and asked my friends to listen to the sounds of several musical instruments. She still remembers how she felt at that time: She was such an idiot. A voice was just a voice. How many different types could it be? The teacher played the piece of music three times, but she still got nothing. Finally, the teacher waved his hand and said, \”Go back.\” She walked out holding her father\’s hand, ashamed and disappointed. Her father did not show any dissatisfaction. He bought her a bag of rice krispie treats at the school gate and said, \”It\’s normal that you have never touched a musical instrument and can\’t distinguish those sounds. Dad also hopes that you have your own specialties, but we have to choose.\” Do what you like, so that you can do it for a long time and persist even if you encounter difficulties.\” That was the first time in her life that she faced the topic of \”interest\”. As she chewed on that experience repeatedly, she I have my first understanding of \”interest\”: something that I like, neither follow the trend nor blindly worship; something that I know something about, is not a whim, nor will I give up lightly. Fortunately, when I was a child, I was treated with the same respect by my father: I liked reading extracurricular books. In that era when \”idle books were a scourge\”, I was very grateful to my father for taking me an hour\’s bike ride to take me to a street stall in the county movie theater to read little books. days. Perhaps, it is because I looked at villains when I was youngBecause of my interest in books, I persisted on the path of writing. Therefore, I especially appreciate my friend H’s approach in searching, discovering, and following children’s interests. H is a piano teacher and runs an art training studio. His son Binbin is 4 years old and is one of classmate Zhe’s friends. The main business is piano training, but H’s studio courses cover musical instruments, painting, dance, and hosting, and are very popular with parents. With such a professional mother at home, Binbin is in the right place and at the right time: She must be able to take courses in her own studio casually, right? In fact, Binbin has not taken any interest class so far and has been \”playing silly\” at home. Some people even think that H is not attentive enough to his own children. To this, H said: \”Actually, I have been teaching Binbin, but I teach him in the most suitable way for his age and condition.\” When many children listen to saliva nursery rhymes, At that time, Binbin was listening to Schubert, Mozart, Bach and some trendy electronic music; while many children were watching Pleasant Goat and Bear, Binbin was watching Hayao Miyazaki and DreamWorks; while some children were busy in the children\’s amusement park. Sometimes, Binbin and her best friends go to zoos and botanical gardens to have close contact with nature… Trying to give children sensory experience is H\’s favorite \”immersion education\”, which is commonly known as \”edification\”. Yesterday, a friend complained to me on WeChat that her daughter, who is three and a half years old, likes Xiong Daxiong Er and asked me how to make her child love reading. Did the children choose to watch Big Bear 2 from the very beginning? Definitely not, an adult must have allowed them to see it. Whatever type of information we provide to children, children will accept and become accustomed to this type of information. If you want your children to fall in love with reading, you should create an environment as early as possible for your children to see high-quality picture books anytime and anywhere. If you want your children to love drawing, create an environment where they can easily graffiti, so that they have a place to draw and art to touch. As H said: \”Children are learning every moment in the first three years of their lives. Whatever you show them and listen to, they absorb it. The key to learning is not who learns early, but who learns early. Who is the most persistent? A child must first experience as many beautiful things as possible before he can find his own interest in them. After he has completed the accumulation of various experiences and finally begins to become obsessed with something, he will find something he can Continuously investing enthusiasm to learn and benefiting him throughout his life – interest.\” Every mother must have this experience – I clearly have not taught my children things, but he has learned them unknowingly. Just like a few days ago, classmate Zhe was scribbling with a paintbrush and suddenly wrote the word \”上\”. I was shocked because I had never deliberately taught him to read words, let alone write them. I only told him which words to pronounce when I read picture books at his request. What makes children master skills that we have never taught them inadvertently? Ms. Montessori called children’s self-learning ability the “absorptive mind.” She believed that “when a child comes into contact with a certain environment, most of the knowledge in the environment will be absorbed by the child. This ability is related to biology. Come together.\” That is, children learn by feeling and experiencing the environment.Interest is when they experience a process from accumulation of knowledge to explosion of interest in the process of continuous and in-depth contact with one thing. Even as parents, it is impossible to do this for them. This often happens in life – a child shows great interest in something at a certain stage, and the parents immediately send the child to an interest class, but it doesn\’t take long for the child to lose interest in learning. Parents are very anxious: the tuition cannot be paid in vain, so they force their children to learn. By the time all classes are completed, the children have completely lost interest in this matter. Painting, dancing, playing the piano…the sprouts of many interests disappeared in the interest classes that I hastily selected. When you find that your child starts to like something, whether it is a musical instrument, graffiti or sports, don’t rush to let him learn it under restrictions. The correct approach is to accompany your child to get in touch with and learn about it as much as possible until the child becomes involved in it. Found the fun and slowly transformed the initial enthusiasm into lasting action. For example, if you find that your child likes listening to music, you can take your child to watch more concerts, feel the beauty of music, and observe whether the child\’s interest is heightened; if you find that your child likes playing basketball, you can take your child to more basketball games and tell them more stories about the stars; If you find that your children like painting, take them to places with a strong artistic atmosphere and take them to art exhibitions. Older children can try to understand the works of painters in different periods and styles, as well as the stories behind these works; discover that children They have rich imaginations, so I prepare more books for them to read and encourage them to express their thoughts… I found that children are sensitive to English, so I don\’t show them more original cartoons and listen to English children\’s songs more to sharpen their ears… The initial enthusiasm, It is just the seed of interest; long-term immersion and edification are the nutrients for interest to blossom and bear fruit. Only when you understand something well can you like it. Only something you really like can make people continue to work hard with enthusiasm, and have the courage to persevere even if they encounter difficulties.