Introverted children = worthless, withdrawn, and boring? Big mistake

Sister Bei is my friend and has been conducting research on parenting and family relationships. She has an introverted daughter, and this is an article she wrote on how to understand and care for introverted children after long-term observation and research. After reading it, I felt very touched, because I am a relatively introverted person… My introverted daughter is in the noisy and bustling amusement park. My daughter Guoguo never joins the \”big team\”. Instead, she pulls me wherever there are few people. Walking, sometimes building blocks quietly, sometimes sitting on the ground silently reading picture books, with a faint smile on his quiet face. \”Other children in the community play together, but she never goes.\” \”As soon as she goes to a crowded place, she makes a fuss and wants to go home.\” Every night when I go home, I can hear similar complaints from Grandma Guoguo. , the anger on her face revealed her great dissatisfaction with Guoguo. In this world that praises \”extroversion\” and does not appreciate \”introversion\”, introverted children seem to have low emotional intelligence and are always ignored by others: Elders will say: \”This child hides when he sees strangers, and he will definitely be useless when he grows up.\” .\” At this time, introversion = hopeless. The teacher will say: \”This child does good homework, but is too introverted and often does not participate in group activities.\” At this time, introversion = withdrawn. Classmates will say: \”He is often silent and too boring.\” At this time, introversion = boring. They are all introverts. In the book \”The Competitiveness of Quiet, Introverts,\” author Susan Cain points out that at least one-third of the world\’s population is introverts. They prefer listening to talking, and prefer quiet reading to attending noisy parties; they are committed to creating but unwilling to promote themselves; they would rather work alone than join a group brainstorming . Yes, there are many people who are introverted, quiet and steady, but they have brought many changes to the world. For example, Einstein was famous for his love of solitude. He said: \”Creative thinking is stimulated by the monotony of quiet life and loneliness.\” For example, the introverted Mahatma Gandhi. He said: \”You can change the world in a gentle way.\” For example, the elegant goddess Hepburn. She said: \”I like to be alone, like walking with my dog, admiring the trees, flowers, sky… If I were given the opportunity to be alone from Saturday night to Monday morning, I would be very happy.\” For example, Microsoft founder Bill Gates. He said: \”Introverts can spend several days thinking about a difficult problem, and force themselves to figure out where the edge of the field is, and can read any article that can benefit them.\” For example, J.K. Rowe Lin. She said: When the idea for \”Harry Potter\” came into my head, I was traveling and I didn\’t have a pen to write it down, but I was so shy that I didn\’t even dare to ask someone to borrow a pen. …Even Swiss psychologist Jung first proposed the concept of introversion in his book \”Psychological Types\”. He himself is a very introverted person and has always been focused on his own world. He said that introverts are attracted to the inner world of thinking and feeling, while extroverts are attracted to external life such as people and activities; introverts focus on what they understand to mean the things around them.Extroverts get involved in things; introverts recharge by being alone, and extroverts recharge when there is not enough social interaction. Introverted children have amazing talents and abilities. Susan Cain gave a TED talk titled \”The Power of Introversion.\” When you listen to her passionate speech, you will find that introverts have amazing talents. and abilities have brought amazing changes to the world. So, when you see your child smiling while watching other children playing, when you see your child immersed in his own world thinking, when you see your child alone in the hustle and bustle, please stop using Look at them differently, but see their shining points. Introverted children have a richer inner world and love learning more. They will focus their energy and energy on things that they are really interested in. Introverted children are naturally able to be alone and do not need you to arrange a full schedule for them. , they can also have something to do and enjoy it; introverted children are better at listening and caring about the feelings of others, and they will more easily win the trust of friends… Introverted children have stronger concentration, and introversion allows them to eliminate interference. The best barrier is that they can handle complex problems quietly and alone for a long time, and do things they are interested in from beginning to end; introverted children are better at thinking and more creative. Just like J.K. Rowling, her Harry Potter series created a fairy-tale magical world and became one of the most popular novels in the world. …….Parents should help introverted children grow better. If you have an introverted child at home, please do not deny his personality. You can try the following methods to help your child grow better. 1. Don’t try to change your child’s personality. As the person your child trusts the most, you must fully affirm your child\’s introversion. Please tell him that introversion is an asset and a quality worthy of respect and understanding. Let him understand that introversion also has many advantages. Let him know that introversion is nothing to be ashamed of or uneasy about. The place. Don\’t always think about subversion and change, trying to transform your child into an extrovert. On the contrary, this will cause serious psychological disorders in the child, such as triggering anxiety disorder in the child and so on. 2. Pay attention to children’s emotions and emotions. Introverted children are accustomed to hiding their emotions, emotions and needs in their own psychology and rarely express them directly. As a parent, you should listen more to and understand your children, provide timely responses and attention, and encourage your children to actively express their feelings so that they can express themselves more confidently. For example, \”Today you took the initiative to talk to your mother about your confusion. Thank you for your trust in your mother. My mother hopes that you will communicate with your mother more often in the future. We can find a solution together.\” 3. Be patient and tolerant of your children. Introverted children often show anxiety in new environments or when facing strangers. Parents should be tolerant of their children and do more \”padding\” work to help their children better adapt to the outside world. For example, when taking children to participate in activities, if conditions permit, you can take the children to the event site in advance to familiarize the children with the environment and create a safe and comfortable feeling. You can also allow the children to keep a certain distance from the focus area of ​​the activity and let the children remain silent first. view of the earthObserve and then encourage him to try. 4. Actively communicate with the teacher about the child’s situation. Parents can take the initiative to communicate with teachers about some of their children\’s situations, which will help teachers correctly interpret their children\’s introverted behavior. For example, being silent does not mean that the child is not paying attention. On the contrary, introverted children may be listening and observing attentively at this time. I hope that all introverted children in the world can be respected and understood, and that they can take every step of life firmly at their own pace. Please tell your children firmly: Introversion is not a defect, let alone a disease. It is also worthy of appreciation and praise. Introverts can also shine brilliantly.