\”Invisible bullying\” is quietly popular in primary schools. Bullying without hands is more cruel. Even if teachers don\’t say it, parents should know it.

There is such data. A survey of 3,108 underage students from 2020 to 2022 by the \”Youth Legal Education Research\” research group of the China Youth Research Center shows that: 53.5% of students have suffered campus bullying, and a relatively high proportion of the phenomena include being bullied by things. Stealing (52.8%), being teased or teased (37.2%), being insulted (33.7%), being physically punished by teachers (28.3%), having things intentionally damaged (20.2%), being discriminated against (19.1%), and not allowed to go to class (15.4%), being isolated and excluded (14.1%), being threatened or intimidated by violence (13.2%), etc. I don’t know if you have noticed that except for corporal punishment, where students are physically harmed, other forms of bullying are generally invisible. This is the so-called “invisible bullying”. What is invisible bullying? To be specific, invisible bullying refers to bullying behaviors that are difficult to detect and detect. The key point of this kind of bullying lies in the \”hidden\” word. It does not use physical violence or verbal insults like traditional bullying, but it can also cause psychological and emotional harm to the victim. Invisible bullying includes many forms, roughly including the following (parents can refer to this to see if their children have encountered similar situations): 1. Social exclusion: the most direct is isolation, such as deliberately ignoring someone in daily life, Teachers and parents cannot correct this behavior when excluding someone in group activities, which makes the victim feel isolated and helpless. 2. Verbal bullying: It is not as intense as directly cursing, but using verbal attacks such as sarcasm, ridicule, and yin and yang. It is not easy to be discovered by teachers or parents, but it will have a negative impact on the mental health of the victim. 3. Property infringement: Intentional infringement of other people\’s property, destruction, stealing or occupation, but the victim has no evidence and can only watch the loss, angry but helpless. 4. Cyber ​​bullying: Using the Internet platform to spread negative information about someone, such as exposing privacy, spoofing pictures, fabricating lies, etc. This not only causes psychological harm to the victim, but also damages his reputation. 5. Emotional manipulation: In current popular terms, it is PUA, which causes others to have negative emotions by manipulating words or behaviors, such as continuing to belittle, compare, or over-control other people\’s feelings. This can lead to a decrease in the victim\’s self-confidence and a damaged sense of self-worth. 6. Excessive interference: excessively interfering in other people\’s lives and daily behaviors on their own initiative, even depriving them of their decision-making rights and restricting their rights of expression. This will make the victim feel unable to be independent and constrained. While these acts may not be considered traditional physical violence, they have serious long-term effects on the mental and emotional health of their victims. Therefore, it is crucial to identify and prevent these invisible bullying behaviors. What should parents do? Because invisible bullying is not as obvious as ordinary physical bullying, adults may not be aware of it in many cases. Therefore, if we want our children not to be bullied, we must do the following: 1. Pay attention to the relationship between the children and the people around them. As mentioned before, invisible bullying is not even a problem.It’s hard for anyone to find out, let alone the child himself, who may not even know he’s being bullied. Therefore, parents must observe more and understand how their children get along with the people around them. They can also ask some guided questions about interactions during daily chats, so that parents can discover problems in time and remedy them as soon as possible. 2. Letting children strengthen their bodies does not mean letting children build muscles all over their bodies, but letting children be healthy so that they can fight back when they encounter bullying to protect themselves. Moreover, a strong body will also frighten children who deliberately bully others. 3. Teach children to refuse whether it is verbal ridicule, emotional PUA, or excessive behavioral interference. As long as they encounter intrusive behavior that makes them uncomfortable, they can directly refuse and express their attitude. If the other party ignores it, then go to the teacher. If the teacher can\’t solve it, go to the parents. You must let the child remember that he is the most important, and his family will always support him. Here’s a little reminder: If you can solve the problem verbally, try not to do it physically. 4. Teach children how to identify \”bullying\”. Teach children to identify various types of bullying and familiarize them with how to deal with different types of bullying. If possible, parents can practice with their children at home, which can strengthen their children\’s self-confidence and courage. The thing to teach is that our children cannot be bullied, but they cannot become bullies either. What should you do if your child encounters invisible bullying? After encountering invisible bullying, there are actually no obvious scars on the child\’s body. In this case, how can parents help our children? 1. First of all, parents should stay calm and understand the details. Is the child being bullied? What exactly does bullying look like? It is best for parents to understand the situation with their children first. During the communication process, ‌ parents should express their support and understanding for their children, ‌ making the children feel comfortable and safe, ‌ and thus more willing to share their experiences. 2. Secondly, parents should contact the school to inform them of the relevant situation. Because parents have communicated with their children in advance, relevant content, such as the time and place where bullying occurred, the feelings of participants and children, etc., can be compiled and shared with the school so that students can quickly understand the situation and take appropriate measures. ‌Parents should also work with the school to ‌formulate an intervention plan, ‌monitor the implementation of the plan, and pay attention to the progress of things. 3. Finally, parents can choose to call the police or seek legal aid. Of course, this is a measure that must be taken as a last resort when the situation is serious or when the school and other departments cannot solve it normally. This is not only to protect the children of the family, but also to rectify the bullying trend in society. In addition, parents must pay close attention to their children\’s emotions when dealing with the incident, encourage children to express their feelings, and provide support to help children deal with emotional problems and reduce psychological pressure. Written at the end: When children enter collective life, there will be conflicts, disputes, and arguments, but only with a clear mind and the awareness to protect oneself can we better repel the abuser. What we need to teach our children is not only to protect themselves, but also not to become perpetrators. Any form of bullying cannot be forgiven.