Is habit-forming education for preschool and primary school students really that important?

I have never liked alarmism because it is unnecessary. However, almost all parenting experts have always emphasized that children should develop good habits as early as possible! But I said good habits are not that important. See it clearly, don’t make excuses, I am saying that good habits are not that important, at least not as important as the experts emphasize, and I am not saying that they are useless at all. Habits are useful. Once you have the blessing of habits and people rely on inertia to act, they don\’t need to expend so much willpower. This is where \”habits\” are important. As you can see, I rarely call on parents in my articles to develop good habits for their children as early as possible. why? Three reasons: 1. I have practiced it personally since childhood. I am a typical free-range person. I have not been taught any good habits by my parents since I was a child. I am free and careless and go my own way. I am always late for school (my grandparents and parents are reluctant to wake me up on time). I am often distracted in class and do not like to take notes. , the writing is not correct… However, in the process of growing up, I have developed many good habits: the habit of reading, the habit of studying, the habit of taking notes, the habit of exercise, the habit of neatness, the habit of loving nature, the habit of aesthetics Habits, honest habits, upright habits, kind habits…I\’m not exaggerating. These do not seem to be habits, but the result of my self-education in the process of studying and reading. I think this is what a person should do to make me happy and feel comfortable inside. Over time, it becomes a so-called good habit. Only behaviors that are internalized and recognized during the growth process may become a person\’s true habit. Afraid that my own case would not be representative, I also made a special effort to investigate a few outstanding people among my friends in the past two days, including our eldest brother Qian. I asked them, now that they are more or less people, what good habits have they had since childhood? People say that no one develops good habits. They all grow up by trial and error. From childhood to adulthood, my parents never rigidly developed any great habits. Second, I rarely teach Qian Xiaoya and Qian Xiaoneng good habits. When Qian Xiaoya was in the first grade, I was still working as a university teacher. I didn’t have to sit in class, so I had more freedom. I also knew at that time that I needed to develop good habits for my children. For example, after Qian Xiaoya came to school every day, I asked her to develop the habit of doing homework first and then playing. For this reason, I watched her for a whole month. The child seemed to have developed the habit of doing homework first and then playing. Then she ran all the way and became a college champion. I later reflected that my child is fond of learning and has strong self-discipline. Is it because I gave her 30 days to develop the habit? Certainly not! That\’s because of her nature that loves learning and the good atmosphere of her family. Now, when I think about watching Qian Xiaoya for 30 days, I feel a little regretful. I feel that I am sick. A child has been restrained at school for so long and is not allowed to play when he comes back. He has to finish his homework before he can play. This is Mom is a fascist. Because of my reflection on this matter, I didn\’t deliberately develop any habits for Qian Xiaoneng. I just praised him when I saw good things. 3. I am always vigilant about myself: do not let any concepts or theories constrain myself, and pay attention to my own feelings. Whether it is educating children or doing something, what I am most afraid of is that my mind is filled with other people’s voices and I cannot hear my own voice, and there are still several voices in my mind.Fighting in the sea, I was at a loss all day long, and I was at a loss as to what to do. For example, education experts say that you must develop good behavioral habits, hygiene habits, eating habits, and study habits for your children when they are young. If you see that you have not done well, or missed the opportunity, oh no, you will be confused immediately. , I was scared, regretful, and felt that I was too useless, worthless, and unworthy of being a mother. No need! Anyone’s words are just inspiration to us, not without anyone’s words. Someone said, you said habits are not that important, so what is more important than habits? Qi is more important than habits. All 31 episodes of the children\’s puzzle and emotional intelligence training special search team Dudangman cartoon. The spirit is what I must do and what I must do well. It is a kind of hard work, a kind of morale, and a kind of necessity. Momentum, well, is the power of inner drive. Concentrating on creating an atmosphere and environment for children is more laborious than cultivating good habits, but it is more long-term, freer, and more creative, and it is never too late.