With the progress of society and the change of people\’s concepts, more and more people are questioning the fact that their husbands accompany children during childbirth.
The information refers to the article \”Men should stay away from childbirth\” published in the British \”Observer\” by internationally renowned obstetrician Michelle. Auden believed that a husband\’s presence during labor would make the wife\’s labor longer, more painful, and more complicated because the wife would become more nervous because of her husband\’s nervousness. Having your husband accompany you during labor will stimulate the secretion of adrenaline in the mother\’s body, causing tension, thus reducing the rate of oxytocin secretion. If oxytocin is not secreted, the muscles cannot contract powerfully and the entire labor process becomes more difficult. It\’s longer, more painful, and more difficult. 24% of mothers in the UK now require a caesarean section due to the presence of a male. Oden says: The husband\’s witnessing the birth process can destroy the sexual attraction between the couple and make them become more like friends until divorce; some men can also suffer from postpartum depression like the mother; schizophrenia or other mental illness .
Is it okay for my husband to accompany me during the delivery? This is indeed a question worth reflecting on. After coming to the clinic for so many years, I saw with my own eyes a husband accompanying his wife during childbirth, which gave the wife a reliance in a completely unfamiliar medical environment. It also made the husband understand the difficulty of giving birth to his wife, which increased his sense of responsibility and his childlike innocence in loving his wife.
However, as my country\’s current birth population becomes dominated by only children and those born in the 1980s, many problems in the special family environment have become complicated. These husbands often occupy a subordinate position at home. Parents dominate everything in the family. They are emotionally fragile. They cannot decide many things. They have to obey their parents\’ wishes, so they are also relatively fragile when it comes to accompanying children. When his wife is nervous, he is more vulnerable than her. When her wife is more nervous, he will often suggest that she not let her have the baby and simply have a caesarean section. This has led to more and more caesarean sections in the current social factors. Similarly, these mothers are relatively fragile at home, have little courage to overcome difficulties, and are very dependent on doing things, resulting in unbearable contractions during labor. Pain increases the chance of a cesarean section.
We have also seen some pregnant women giving birth with their husbands by their side, and the pain is so painful that even the midwives cannot cooperate. We advised the husbands to go out and the midwives and doulas accompanied them. very smooth.
There will be bleeding during childbirth and bleeding from wounds. This is a thrill for anyone, especially my husband who has never been exposed to medical work and has never seen wounds. Some husbands will vomit after witnessing a bloody side incision, and even more exaggeratedly, they will faint. This negative impression during childbirth will linger for a long time in their later lives. This, as Dr. O\’Donnell says, can destroy the sexual attraction between a couple so that they become more like friends until divorce; some men also suffer from postpartum depression, just like mom; some men also suffer from schizophrenia or other mental illness. The relationship between husband and wife after childbirth and the psychological trauma of the husband cannot be verified in our country. Is it related to the high divorce rate?It is even more unclear whether the husband accompanied the child during the birth.
So, I agree with Michelle. In Dr. Odang\’s opinion, it is best for the husband not to participate in the delivery. In fact, obstetrics departments should promote doula delivery, and midwives with delivery experience accompanying the delivery are the most humane. At Beijing Mary Maternity and Infant Hospital, our midwives are all around 30-40 years old, have experience in childbirth, and have been working in outpatient clinics for more than ten years. They are gentle people and strive for excellence in their work. We combine the musical bed with the Lamaze delivery method to coordinate the rhythm of breathing, contractions and music during labor. The melodious music soothes the mother\’s anxiety and tension, and the vibration massage of the music bed relieves the mother\’s tension and stiffness. Midwives will accompany the mother during the labor process, comfort and guide the mother, so that the mother can successfully pass the most difficult period of her life and smoothly transform from a daughter to a good mother. Some of the women who give birth at our hospital are truly admirable. They overcame difficulties, were willing to leave the best image to their husbands, refused to be accompanied by their husbands during childbirth, and successfully completed the delivery process.
Therefore, I think it is not necessary and should not be advocated for the husband to accompany the child. The husband can accompany the childbirth if he is fully mentally prepared. However, as a hospital, we should promote musical accompaniment and popularize musical Ramaz doula delivery, which is more important for women. Practical, more problem-solving, and more humane.