Is it really difficult for a poor family to produce a noble son?

In July a few years ago, a relative in the countryside called me and told me that his son ranked third in the school\’s science subject in the college entrance examination. It could be heard that he was trying his best to suppress his emotions, but his overwhelming excitement could not be concealed. I also said \”Wow\” in surprise, and was very happy for him. The relative came here to consult on how to apply for his son\’s application. After all, he had not even graduated from junior high school, so he was very confused about this aspect. I don\’t dare to express my position easily. This is a big deal. If the report is not good, I will be blamed in the future. I asked, is it enough for Tsinghua and Peking University? Relatives said, \”It\’s a few points away, but there\’s no problem in getting into a good university. It\’s just that you know my conditions. It\’s best to go to a lower-cost university.\” I thought for a while: Why don\’t you see if there is a suitable military school? Such schools should not charge tuition. Moreover, you don’t have to look for a job everywhere in the future. It would be great to stay in the army and develop after graduation. The relative agreed and hung up the phone happily. Later, a relative\’s child enrolled in a particularly good military school. After graduation, he went to an air force base and worked as a technician. He had a bright future and I was very confident about the future. Some time ago, my relatives came to see me and were full of pride when they talked about my son. They say that neither the couple has much education, and the elderly at home are sick all the time. The couple relies on farming and working from dawn to dusk to run a small business to support the family. They basically do not care about the children\’s studies. Fortunately, the children strive for success on their own, and they don\’t have to worry about school or work, and they don\’t spend any money. , now I have a job and a good income, and I think good times are coming. The relative was a little excited when he said this, with tears in his eyes. Yes, it is indeed something to be proud of. It is not easy to bring up a noble son from a poor family. A poor family means that resources are scarce, not only material, but also time is extremely precious. Time is not only valuable for high-end people, but also for those who are struggling to survive. Although an inch of time cannot be exchanged for an inch of gold, only hard work can ensure the normal operation of a family\’s life. This relative of mine had a mother who died young and a father who was paralyzed. Both of his children were studying. He only relied on farming, and at most he had enough to eat. Over the years, the couple has been doing small business from dawn to dusk, walking around the streets to buy grain, and then selling it to processing factories, earning a penny from the price difference. Some time ago, there was a statistical table on the Internet showing the occupations of the parents of the college entrance examination winners in the past ten years. Among them, teachers accounted for the largest proportion, 35.09%, followed by civil servants, and farmers accounted for 10.16%. The proportion of peasant families is low, which is actually normal. First of all, the innate conditions such as resources are not equal. For children of teachers or civil servants, parents have relatively easy working hours and are able to tutor their children. Even if they cannot tutor their children themselves, they can still send their children to key classes, prestigious schools, and participate in various off-campus tutoring classes or interest classes. And how many rural children ask for tutoring? In recent years, rural conditions have become much better, but the most children can do is attend tutoring classes or something. Of course, what I said are all objective reasons. It is difficult for a poor family to produce a noble son, but it is not impossible. My husband comes from a poor family, and my father-in-law and mother-in-law don’t have any educational ideas. They wish that the children could put down their books and help them do some work. However, the three brothers are determined to escape the fate of facing the earth with their backs to the sky, and open up a new path for themselves through hard study.a passage. The world is so big, you must go and see it. When the value of college was still relatively high, they all entered college and changed the direction of their own destiny. To this day, their brothers are still role models in their hometown and have become a model for many neighbors in educating their children. Around me, there are many outstanding talents from poor backgrounds who have lived a good life step by step and relied on their own efforts. And I know a lot of people who are very good at their jobs but fail in educating their children. I have a classmate who graduated from college and entered an administrative unit. Over the years, I have not seen any achievements in him, only his gaming equipment, which has been continuously upgraded. From the most antique game console to playing \”Honor of Kings\” now, and taking my son to play together. Every time I chatted with him for less than three sentences, he would talk about games and talk endlessly. His wife also has an easy job, and her hobby is playing mahjong. She is known as the \”number one mahjong girl\”. After work every day, she rushes to the market and doesn\’t even bother to cook, let alone take care of the children. Their son took the high school entrance exam this year. Before he took the exam, he said he would go to a vocational school or something. Anyway, there was no hope of taking the high school entrance exam. My classmates were also among the best at the time, with excellent academic performance, but they still failed to educate the next generation. Some people say that now is an era of fighting for fathers. If you have a good father, you can win at the starting line. It is undeniable that parents can provide their children with different learning resources and learning environments, but their own efforts are more important. From ancient times to the present, every person who has achieved success has achieved it through his own efforts. I was reading a book that day and saw a record in \”Chao Ye Qian Zai\” written by Zhang Jue of the Tang Dynasty: Bole ordered his son to draw a picture of the \”Horse Book\” in order to get a horse, but for many years there was nothing like it. He went back to tell his father, and then ordered him to ask for it. He saw a big shrimp and said to his father: \”I got a horse, which is slightly the same, but it can\’t be the same.\” Bole said: \”Why?\” He said to him: \”It has a long head. The eyes are depressed and the spine is shrinking, but the hooves are not as good as tired ones.\” Bole said: \”This horse likes to jump, but it is unbearable.\” The general meaning is that Bole asked his son to take the \”Horse Book\” to find a good horse, but after many years I couldn\’t find it, but later I found a \”slightly identical\” shrimp toad. It\’s so ridiculous. You see, Bole, who is of high status, has not cultivated any outstanding sons. This shows that not all children from wealthy families are noble sons. In fact, no matter what family you come from, hard work is the only way. The real distance must be walked alone. Just like on a long-distance run, someone can cheer you on and applaud you, but you still need to walk the road yourself. Only by going step by step can we pass through the desolation and barrenness and find a lush and smooth road.