It is better to teach your children this ability than to leave them with gold and silver.

My nephew, Xiao Xiong, had excellent grades since childhood. After the college entrance examination, he successfully entered a key northern university. His family was very happy and thought that everything would be worry-free from now on. But not long after entering, a new problem arose. Little Bear discovered that the school is really full of talents. There are many top students with good grades, versatile talents, and popular students. Little Bear is very motivated, but unfortunately he did not get the first place in the results. , and failed to win the student union election, so I called my parents every day to complain. It’s all my fault that you were reluctant to give up money and didn’t let me participate in interest classes and tutoring classes since I was a child. I spent all my time studying. In the past, others could do everything, but I couldn’t do anything except grades. Now it’s better. When I come to the big environment, I can’t even do it. The results are gone. Little Bear complained, and Big Bear, as a father, also began to blame himself, blaming me for being stingy back then. If I had sent him to learn the violin, he might have had a talent that would have won him in the student union. After hearing this, I shook my head. Running for student president does not just require special skills. It also requires the candidate\’s extraordinary speaking skills and leadership cooperation skills. Could it be that the children running for the election have signed up for so many interest classes since they were young? When Big Bear asked about the selected candidates, Little Bear said sheepishly, \”His family background is not as good as ours, but he doesn\’t know why he knows everything. Maybe it\’s his talent.\” After hearing this, I asked Little Bear, are you studying well? Little Bear said of course it was good. Although he didn’t rank first, he still ranked in the top ten. How good is your learning ability? I asked him, and now he was silent, and so was the big bear beside him. Because they ignore the ability that not only children, but even parents should possess, that is, excellent learning ability. Many of our parents have certain misunderstandings about the word \”learning\”. It seems that learning is just knowledge points in school books and test scores. However, they forget that learning should not be limited to cultural knowledge. It should be a child\’s continuous improvement of his or her own culture. , life and interpersonal skills. When some parents see their children struggling with complex math problems, they will joke with the teacher, why do they have to learn so complicated math? When their children grow up, they won’t need geometry and mathematics when shopping for groceries. The teacher smiled and explained that the knowledge points that children learn now may not have much to do with their actual life or even career in the future, but it cultivates their thinking and exercises their ability to learn and solve problems. The ultimate goal of learning in school is to cultivate children\’s ability to solve problems when faced with difficulties. Not only do you need to learn the ancient poems in the Chinese language books, but even how to peel an apple, how to tie your shoelaces, how to greet strangers politely, and how to be popular when playing with children, all require children to observe and learn. Parents can sometimes remind their children to learn these skills, but more often, they need their children to slowly observe and experience them as they grow up and experience life. So how to develop children\’s excellent self-learning ability and create irreplaceable core competitiveness? Start with the simplest home appliance instruction manual. Modern life is inseparable from electronic products, and children are also full of curiosity about novel things. When buying new appliances at home, parents can open them with their children and then ask them how to use the appliances, such as How do you turn on a vacuum cleaner, and what do you do if it suddenly stops? Inquiring patientlyAfter asking the child\’s opinion, you can take out the instruction sheet and read it with the child. Praise the correct parts, let the child read the instructions for the wrong parts, and then lead the child to use it together. Children will understand that things they don’t understand and cannot do in real life can be solved through reading knowledge. Cultivate children\’s ability to observe and summarize. Children like to share interesting phenomena they see with their parents when they go to school. Parents should take their children to delve deeper into the phenomena to discover the essence. For example, a child tells his mother after school that there is a classmate in the class who everyone dislikes. The mother asks the child, why don\’t they like him? The child said that it was because he was not fun, so the mother assigned the child a task that day to observe the specific reasons why the child was not fun. The child came home the next day and told his mother that this child always liked to grab everyone\’s snacks but did not share his own snacks with everyone. So what was the reason why he was not fun? Mom asked. The child thought for a while and said that it was because he did not respect other people\’s ideas and did not know how to share. Cultivating children with good exercise habits and good physical conditions is a guarantee for children to be energetic when studying on their own, because maintaining observation at all times requires a high degree of mental concentration. A frail child is already good if he can study well in cultural classes, but he has no time to observe what life teaches him. Therefore, parents must cultivate their children\’s good habits of loving sports and achieve their children\’s all-round development. After listening to the story, Xiao Xiong expressed his willingness to develop excellent learning ability from now on, and no longer attribute his weak abilities other than academic performance to his parents\’ refusal to enroll in interest classes. Soon I received a call from him and relied on Observing those students who have good speech skills, he can now speak on stage even though he has never been to a speech class, and he even taught himself to play guitar and sing. I originally thought that no matter what I learn, I have to rely on teachers. But since I improved my learning ability, I discovered that teachers are everywhere in life. Excellent learning ability is the best gift that parents can give to their children. It is a powerful ability to adapt and survive. We believe that children with such abilities will shine wherever they go.