It is difficult for parents with bad morals to raise happy children

On the way to work, I met a mother riding an electric scooter with her two children. The child in the front was a boy, smaller; the child in the back was a girl, older, and she was holding a water bottle in her hand. Seeing that there were only a few seconds left at the green light at the intersection, the woman accelerated and rushed forward. However, she still couldn\’t catch up. The moment she was about to rush out of the waiting line, the red light came on. The woman came to a sudden stop, and the girl sitting behind her whole body rushed forward under the action of inertia, leaning heavily on the woman, and the water bottle in her hand was thrown out, fell to the ground, and rolled forward. . Seeing this scene, the woman turned back and shouted angrily at the girl: \”Are you a dead person? You can\’t even hold a kettle! Go down and pick it up quickly. If you can\’t pick it up, let\’s see how I deal with you!\” The girl got out of the car and ran to the kettle. Where it fell, I hurriedly picked up the water bottle and tried to get back into the car. Suddenly, the woman shouted sharply at the girl: \”Here, let me take a look!\” The girl brought the kettle to her. The woman glanced at it, then opened her eyes angrily and shouted: \”It\’s really useless! Even the lid of the kettle fell off. I don’t even know, go pick it up again, if you can’t pick it up, don’t get in the car!” When the girl turned around and was about to walk forward, the green light turned on, and the horizontal car started to move away. The woman shouted again: \”Get in the car, don\’t pick it up! What bad luck!\” After the girl got in the car, the woman looked angry and cursed as she drove forward. I was waiting for the green light beside me. I was surprised by the woman\’s attitude. Why was she so harsh on her own children? It is undeniable that a woman should love her children, but she must be an unscrupulous and unforgiving person. Otherwise, on the premise that she caused a series of things just to get the green light, she shouldn\’t have spoken harshly to her daughter. Even if the girl loses the kettle lid herself, parents should point out the child\’s mistake gently and firmly, and then tell the child what to do. The timid eyes of the little girl have been lingering in my mind. Growing up with such a mother, the children are either too timid and sensitive, or they learn to be as sharp-tongued and sharp-tongued as their mothers in order to protect themselves. There is a colleague in our unit who is very polite to colleagues, strangers and even unfamiliar people. We all think that she has a good temper and a gentle personality. Until one day, I heard her on the phone, and the gentle impression she left on me was completely shattered. The thing is, when the unit was working overtime, I went to the bathroom and found that the bathroom was locked. Bathrooms in the unit are rarely locked. Someone must have encountered a special situation. I was waiting at the door and heard a deliberately lowered voice: \”Why are you by the river?\” \”What? Fishing?\” The voice immediately became louder. \”How can you go play first? Didn\’t I tell you to do your homework first?!\” \”What, dad agreed? You are stupid. Are you going to be a worker like your dad all your life?\”… all kinds of Disgruntled diatribes followed. I couldn\’t hear what was being said on the other side, but I could hear her getting angrier and louder, and her image in my mind immediately took a 180-degree turn. I left immediately. When I met her again in the office, she still looked gentle and approachable. I remember she asked me for advice a few days ago, why her son is becoming less and less close to her and likes to talk back. The school teacherHe also reported that his son liked to quarrel with other classmates and his words were unpleasant. You know, I often teach my son to be humble, courteous and eloquent. she sighed. I was also puzzled at the time: How could such an educated mother raise an aggressive son. In my mind, I attributed the reason to the influence of other family members or the school environment. But now it is clear that everything has an answer. This mother, who was gentle in society at work, lacked care and patience towards her son because of her deep love, and often scolded and scolded her. She spent all her patience on others, leaving nothing for her family. Under such influence, how can she raise a gentle and gentle gentleman? When Jackie Chan and Wu Qili had a past, their daughter Wu Zhuolin was undoubtedly the most hurt. Since the beginning of this year, the media has successively exposed news about Wu Zhuolin\’s domestic violence, suicide, and hospitalization, which has made people sigh. From Wu Zhuolin\’s birth to the age of twelve, Wu Qili took her to live with her grandmother Zheng Liming in Shanghai. Zheng Liming was dissatisfied with Wu Qili because of her relationship with Jackie Chan. At that time, Wu Qili had no financial resources, while Zheng Liming\’s business was very good. Wu Qili and the others watched Zheng Liming\’s face as she lived her life. Zheng Liming had an eccentric personality and was very harsh on Wu Qili. He would often use sharp words to irritate Wu Qili. She would often say: No one wants your chicken! After she divorced Wu Qili\’s father, she often said: Fortunately you are a girl, if you were a boy, I wouldn\’t want you! She would also scatter the money on the ground and let Wu Qili kneel down to pick it up one by one. So someone asked Qili Wu questioningly: Is she your biological mother? Wu Qili, who grew up in this environment, has an aloof and aloof character, and also inherited her mother\’s strength. Her mother\’s love for her is hard and indifferent, and her love for her daughter is strict and overly controlling. But similarly, neither of them pays attention to the way they communicate with their daughters, and they don\’t pay attention to oral ethics in the process of raising their daughters. Zhuo Lin told the media that her mother reminded her to take medicine for skin treatment, but Zhuo Lin ignored her. Wu Qili immediately shouted hysterically: Either you die or I die. Such words would shock the child\’s soul so much that she chose to call the police. If you love your children but express them in an overly harsh and harsh way, it may cause the children to lack a sense of security and have perverse personalities. Under the influence of the child, this parenting style will be used to harm the next generation. As the saying goes: Talking to good people is as warm as cloth. Hurtful words hurt like a knife. For children, parents who speak harshly can cause even more harm to them. Because they are mentally immature and have not developed great psychological endurance, the harm of verbal violence cannot be underestimated. As for the possible consequences of insulting children, a netizen on Zhihu said this: One is that if you beat them or scold them, your children will have low self-esteem and be ignorant and filial throughout their lives. One is if they refuse to obey when beaten or scolded, their children will be arrogant and indifferent throughout their lives. Both of them don’t know what love is, let alone how to love, unless there are other demonstrations in the process. Child psychology experts believe that children who live in an abnormal environment where they are abused for a long time will develop psychological symptoms such as cowardice and low self-esteem, psychological depression and loneliness, mental restlessness, psychological eccentricities, a tendency to lie, and a bad temper.question. Respect is the prerequisite of love. If we can know how to respect other people, we should respect our children even more. Please believe that no child likes to be scolded by his closest and most trusted parents. A child comes into this world alone, and his parents are his everything and his support. The moment he is scolded by the person he relies on the most, the child still feels so desperate and lonely. The original intention of parents when scolding their children is to care about their children, to educate them, or to hate iron for not being able to make steel, but the words change their taste when they come to their mouths. Therefore, parents should manage their personal emotions well. Before speaking, think about whether there is a better way of expression that can achieve better educational results. Using simple and crude methods to achieve the goal is just a lazy move by parents for temporary convenience, and this must be given up.