It is precisely this kind of \”smart\” children who suffer the most! A warning to countless parents

On the way to pick up Xiaoyou from school, I met a mother and daughter. The daughter took out a pear from her schoolbag: \”Mom, look, other children in the kindergarten don\’t like to eat it. I said I would eat it, and the teacher gave it to me!\” The child showed off to her mother proudly. Mom: \”Good boy, that\’s great. If you like the things distributed by the school, you can ask the teacher for them after you finish them. If you don\’t like them, bring them back to your mother to eat. These are all things we paid for!\” \”Remember! \”The child who was \”praised\” by his mother jumped up and down happily. Looking at the couple\’s backs drifting away, Youma didn\’t know whether she should be sad or sad for this \”smart\” child. I don’t know when a saying became popular: Never be an honest person, honest people suffer the most! Many parents are always worried that their children will suffer a disadvantage and hope that their children will learn to be \”smarter\”. But many times, it is precisely this kind of cleverness that causes children to suffer big losses and even ruins their future! He is too smart and has no friends. A female classmate who transferred from high school is very pretty. When I first transferred here, I was very popular, especially boys. Later, everyone gradually stayed away from her and no longer liked to make friends with her. The reason turned out to be… One time, we went to the canteen to buy food together and we had just finished ordering the dishes. She suddenly came over to me and asked: \”I\’m sorry, dear, can you lend me 1 yuan? I don\’t have enough money to buy soup.\” \”What\’s this? You don\’t have to pay it back, I\’ll treat you!\” Nothing happened after that. , I almost forgot about this incident, but later I heard from several people that she and several classmates had \”borrowed\” something like 50 cents. At that time, most people were students living on campus, and their families provided enough living expenses. Everyone was \”not rich\”, so it was inevitable for some students to make comparisons. Her roommates in the dormitory spread the word about her \”little problem\”. She often borrowed soap, washing powder, and even hot water from others, with the same excuse every time. Later, everyone avoided her and no one liked to make friends with her. To put it into detail, these are all trivial things, but the details reflect a person\’s character. Sometimes it’s better to be a more honest person. Don’t always teach your children to be so-called “smart people” and always think about scheming the friends around you and playing tricks. The reason is very simple, everyone is not stupid. The consequence of being too smart is that your friends will leave you one by one. This may mean that you will suffer big losses if you take advantage of small things! Be stupid, be stupid, and don\’t resort to any means. Once when Youma was doing an interview on education, she heard a university professor tell the story of one of his \”smart\” students. The professor often gave lectures in the school, and this was the only student who caught his eye. Not only did he pay attention to the lectures, but he was also the only one who would write him a long letter of reflection after each lecture. The professor looked at him with special regard, and he treated the professor with great respect. During every holiday, I would go to the professor’s place to sit and bring a small exquisite gift. One day, the student told him that the school was recommending a few places to go to a domestic university for postgraduate study. It was a rare opportunity, and he hoped that the professor could write a letter of recommendation for him. With the recommendation letter from the professor, he entered a certain university for further study as he wished. However, there has been no news since then, not even a text message. The cause and effect of the whole thing, couldn’t be more clear. Such \”smart people\” plan carefully and step by step. Once the goal is achieved, they immediately discard those who have lost their use value. This is what we often call \”burning bridges across rivers\”. Such people may gain short-term benefits, but in the end they lose the bottom line and overall pattern of life and work. The ugly face will be exposed one day, and the consequences can be imagined. Is this the kind of children we want to educate? We spend money to let them learn knowledge and learn the principles of life, is it just to make them watch words and emotions, and to seek their own interests and use other people at all costs? Such children, once they gain power, will probably become the black sheep of the entire society. The damage they cause will definitely be much greater than that of a \”stupid kid\” who is not tactful and sophisticated enough. A person who lacks ability can use more experience, but if his character is not up to par, he will eventually harm others and himself! Character is a reflection of your life. What a person\’s character is like, his life will be like. When educating your child, don’t just tell her to be a “smart person”. There are many things in life that are 100 times more important than being smart. Kindness is the way out. Many people misunderstand kindness as weakness. Kindness means being kind to others, knowing how to care about others, and being weak are completely different things. When others need help, be able to lend a helping hand instead of adding insult to injury; when others are sad, know how to comfort others instead of watching indifferently; when getting along with classmates and friends, know how to be humble and understanding instead of being aggressive…kind people make the world better. I can\’t bear to let you down. Kindness is the only way out. With a child like this, what else do parents have to worry about? Know how to be grateful and sensible. Once Youyou felt unwell and was hospitalized, a particularly heart-warming thing happened to her. A little boy, about eleven or twelve years old. The parents have just gone out, and the child wants to drink water, but he is not feeling well and needs help. I saw it, so I took the cup, took a glass of water and sent it over. The child thanked me repeatedly. I had forgotten about it at first, but then I received a postcard from my child and I still remembered what happened. I think such children are not only the pride of their parents, but also the result of their parents\’ education. The best education is probably like this, teaching children to be grateful, to thank everyone who has helped them, and to always have warmth and kindness in the world. A child who knows how to be grateful will not have a bad life. Every parent hopes to give their children a bright future, but after all, their children\’s lives are their own and we cannot predict or interfere too much. I think, as parents, the most important thing we should do is to cultivate a good attitude in our children and teach them how to behave. Because what kind of quality a child has will determine what kind of life he will have!