It’s snowing heavily on WeChat Moments, but I want to swipe these three words! It can warm a person and even a home

These days, the north has become a snow country. It\’s freezing cold, but Qinglan\’s parents posted a WeChat Moments message from a fan, which made Qinglan feel a deep sense of warmth. A simple \”Thank you for your hard work\” can deeply move someone. This reminded Qing Lanjun of a scene he saw when he visited a friend\’s house a few days ago. Not long after I sat down, my friend\’s husband brought a plate of fruit. Before I could say \”thank you\”, my friend said to her husband: \”Thank you, dear.\” I was surprised at how polite they were to each other, when my friend\’s husband immediately replied naughtily: \”You\’re welcome. , willing to serve the goddess.\” My friend\’s face immediately burst into laughter. Not long after, our friend\’s daughter sat down next to us and drank milk. As a result, the milk spilled to her mouth and she became a \”little cat.\” Instead of scolding her, our friend gently wiped the child. The child said with a sweet voice: \”Thank you, Mom!\” This warm and harmonious family atmosphere moved me so much that I couldn\’t help but say to my friend: \”I used to think that there was no need to say \’thank you\’ between close people. \’, today I have finally realized the magic of these two words.\” My friend said with a smile: \”Actually, I didn\’t like to say it before, until I shaved my husband\’s hair once. After shaving, my husband said: \’ Thank you, wife! This shaved head is really handsome. Looking at his uneven hair, my heart feels very warm. Since then, I have learned to say \’thank you\’ to my family.\” Many people feel: Strange The politeness of people you know is politeness, and the politeness of familiar people is called shengfen. In fact, \”thank you\” is not polite. It has a unique warmth between close people. A \”thank you\” conveys respect, understanding and gratitude. The more family members like to say \”thank you\” to each other, the closer the relationship will be and the happier the family will be. Say thank you to your children, and your children will be more cooperative. Saying thank you to your partner makes couples love each other more. The female writer Liu Jirong once told this story: A friend occasionally had breakfast at my house, and my son served porridge and peeled eggs for the guests as usual. The friend actually held his son\’s hand and thanked him profusely. My son and I are not used to it. On weekdays, some people praise my son for being well-behaved and sensible, while others praise me for being a good teacher. However, my friend was the first to express my gratitude to a child in such a serious manner. I smiled and tried to dissuade him: \”Okay, you are an elder, so you don\’t have to be so polite.\” My friend disagreed. When my friend was about to leave after dinner, I sent him downstairs, and my son suddenly caught up with me. He shouted, \”Auntie, you forgot to bring your document bag!\” My friend thanked me again, and I saw him squat down and hold his breath. The panting son said: \”Baby, do you know how important this document is to me? Please accept my gratitude!\” The more I read, the more outrageous I felt. But after his friend left, his son\’s changes were even more surprising. In the evening, I answered a phone call from a friend and chatted for a long time. I hurried to the kitchen to cook, and my son actually took the initiative to wash the rice. Now, he was humming while washing vegetables, the dimples on his face looming. I touched his head and said, \”The teacher gave you a little red flower?\” He smiled and shook his head. I asked again: \”Did you get perfect marks in dictation?\” He still shook his head mysteriously. I became more and more curious: \”Is there a red flag in your class?\” But my son raised his head and asked me with a smile: \”Mom, when will Auntie come back again?\”Come to our house? Looking at my puzzled eyes, he said softly: \”This morning, when my aunt said thank you to me, I was so happy that I wanted to fly.\” \”Why are children so happy after being thanked by their elders? Because it is the first time for children to be so respected. We often think that children should do something for their elders and never say thank you. But children are also independent individuals, and they desire To be treated fairly, we hope that children will know how to be grateful, and they have been looking forward to their elders saying \”thank you.\” And what will they do when children are thanked? Liu Jirong later tried to say thank you to her son, and her son became more and more considerate. She listened more and more to her words and often took the initiative to help share the housework. When Liu Jirong asked her son why, her son smiled and said: \”I used to do housework because I was afraid that my mother would be angry. In fact, I really didn\’t want to do it, but now I feel happy doing it.\” I just did it because after being thanked, I felt that the fruits of my labor were respected. \”A \”thank you\” to the child conveys respect, and in return is the child\’s cooperation. The parent-child relationship becomes better and better with the \”thank you\” one after another. Chinese people are not good at expressing in close relationships I feel grateful and feel that saying \”thank you\” to close people is disgusting, and even take the contributions of my loved ones as a matter of course. Xiaolin is such a husband. He is a senior project manager of a large company with a high income, but the work pressure and intensity are high. Very big, because his job is a type of work with more work and frequent business trips. His wife used to work as a copywriter in an ordinary company, and after giving birth to a child, she returned home to be a full-time housewife. Xiaolin thought that he was tired from running around outside, and his wife took care of him at home. It is natural for him to have children and do housework, so he does not help his wife with any housework, and he has never said a word of thanks to his wife. Moreover, he feels that his wife’s life is easy, so he always likes to complain every time he comes home. To say that he is tired from a business trip means that he is under great pressure from work. His wife is afraid of quarrels, so she ignores him every time and just does her own thing. Gradually, the relationship between husband and wife becomes more and more indifferent. Until one day, something happened in my wife’s hometown. , he had to go back to deal with it for a few days. It happened that Xiaolin didn\’t go on a business trip, so he had to take annual leave to stay at home and take care of the children. After only three days, he felt as if a year had passed. Facing the crying children and the messy home, he He was helpless and almost mentally collapsed. Only then did he realize how hard his wife was. When his wife came back, Xiao Lin treated her to a big dinner. During the dinner, he toasted her with a glass of wine and said with a blushing face: \”Thank you.\” You, I didn’t understand your hard work before. \”My wife cried after hearing this. From then on, the relationship between the two was frozen, just to say \”thank you\”. How many lovers and family members gradually become unhappy just because they have been together for a long time and their feelings are deep, and they lack the basic respect and consideration. A heart of insult and resentment arises. The ancients said, \”Meeting each other is like acquaintance for the first time, and there will be no resentment until the end.\” \”No matter how close the relationship between two people is, they should not look down on each other at will. Maintaining the admiration and respect they had when they first met is the long-term way to fall in love with each other. Scientists once did a study, and they summoned 47 people For couples ranging in age from 24 to 40 years old, they were then divided into two groups. One groupThe task was to thank each other in the conversation, such as \”Thank you for washing the socks yesterday\” or \”Thank you for picking me up from get off work yesterday\”; the other group\’s task was to chat about what happened the previous day in the conversation. The two groups were asked to complete the dialogue tasks 4 to 6 times a month. A month later, the scientists again measured the couples\’ relationship satisfaction and found that the group that expressed gratitude more often felt their relationship became stronger and they argued less with each other. A \”thank you\” to your partner contains respect and valuing. No one loves you for granted. The more you cherish, the more love you will receive. When talking about how to maintain the relationship between husband and wife, director Ang Lee once said: \”We are always grateful to each other. Chinese people are really good at making words, affectionate affectionate, love comes only when there is kindness, sometimes even kindness is more important than love.\” \”I love you\” is A word that speaks directly from the heart, but \”thank you\” uses every specific and subtle thing to convey respect, understanding and gratitude to the other party. If you love your family, say \”thank you\” more often. You will find that your family is cuter and you are happier.