Jiang Ge\’s murder case: Don\’t blame Liu Xin anymore, she is just a giant baby…

More than 300 days after Jiang Ge\’s death, Jiang Ge\’s murder case became popular in the circle of friends again. More than a year ago, Chinese student Jiang Ge was murdered in Japan. She was only ten steps away from her door when she died. Inside the door, her best friend Liu Xin claimed that she \”knew nothing\” about Jiang Ge\’s murder and that she did not hear Jiang Ge\’s cry for help. The murderer of Jiang Ge was none other than Liu Xin\’s ex-boyfriend Chen Shifeng. The reason why Liu Xin stayed at Jiang Ge\’s residence was to avoid Chen Shifeng\’s entanglement. On the day of the incident, Jiang Ge kept Liu Xin in the house and went out to dissuade Chen Shifeng. Unexpectedly, Chen Shifeng took out a long knife and slashed her body more than a dozen times, killing her with a knife. Jiang Ge, who was only 23 years old, finally collapsed in front of his home. On the day of the incident, Jiang\’s mother was devastated when she learned that Jiang Ge was dead. But when she got in touch with Liu Xin, Liu Xin replied like this, \”I\’m sorry, auntie, I don\’t know how to reply to you.\” Three days later, Liu Xin suspected that the news on the Internet that \”the murderer of Jiang Ge was Liu Xin\’s ex-boyfriend\” was posted by Jiang\’s mother, so he blackmailed her; during the Chinese New Year this year, Liu Xin got a perm and changed his WeChat avatar. . In the avatar, her smile is full and there is no trace of gloom, as if Jiang Ge\’s murder never happened. For more than 200 days, Liu Xin avoided seeing Jiang\’s mother. In order to find out the truth of the matter, Jiang\’s mother couldn\’t bear it and posted flyers and advertisements for fresh cowhide on the street, trying to find Liu Xin through human flesh. On May 23 this year, Liu Xin\’s father threatened Jiang\’s mother on the phone, claiming that he would sue her. Liu Xin\’s mother even said rudely: \”Jiang Ge\’s death has nothing to do with my daughter, her life is short.\” By the way, a classic national curse was also attached: \”Poor JB straw thing\” (I believe everyone can understand it). In August, Liu Xin and Jiang\’s mother met and were interviewed under the arrangement of Bureau Chairman Wang Zhian. Xin cried and said, \”I am very innocent and I don\’t know what to do.\” However, in September, Liu Xin posted on Weibo that Jiang\’s mother had affected his life by posting posters before, and referred to Jiang Ge\’s mother as \”that woman.\” Liu Xin\’s behavior once again refreshed our three views. What makes everyone indignant is not her self-protective behavior in the face of the possibility of death at the scene of Jiang Ge\’s murder; it\’s that Liu Xin was as weak and powerless as a child from beginning to end. Before Jiang Ge was killed, Liu Xin was a child who needed protection from friends. After Jiang Ge\’s death, Liu Xin was still like a child, escaping from Jiang\’s mother\’s questioning and the pressure of public opinion. Some people find it difficult to understand Liu Xin\’s cold-bloodedness, but I think Liu Xin sincerely believes that he is innocent. Liu Xin, she felt that she was a child and that no matter what she did, there was nothing wrong. Liu Xin\’s various bizarre performances are not necessarily due to innate evil. She took it for granted that the murderer was the one responsible for Jiang Ge\’s death, and she had no responsibility whatsoever. So it was a sign of affection for her to help Mother Jiang, and it was justifiable not to help her. But is this really the case? After searching for all relevant information on the Internet, I found that Liu Xin did not feel any guilt when facing Mother Jiang. In a sense, Liu Xin is a typical giant baby. Ex-boyfriend said he wanted to expose herNaked photos, so she stopped Jiang Ge from going to the police; before Jiang Ge was killed, she avoided meeting the murderer, hoping that Jiang Ge would come forward to deal with her ex-boyfriend; after Jiang Ge was killed, she hoped that the police would help her expel the media from the funeral hall, otherwise she would She was so emotionally broken that she could no longer give a confession, so much so that the police refused to let her go see Jiang\’s mother. When information began to appear on the Internet that was detrimental to her, her first thought was not to verify the truth of the matter, but to take it for granted. After Jiang\’s mother broke the news, she immediately threatened her, \”If you don\’t stop breaking the news, I won\’t help the police solve the case.\” Jiang Ge died to protect Liu Xin, but Liu Xin told Jiang\’s mother that she had no obligation to assist the police in solving the case. Damn, that’s so ironic. It wasn\’t until some time ago that Liu Xin burst into tears during an interview with Wang Zhijun when he appeared on \”The Game\”. She kept saying: \”I know I made a mistake, but why do you still blame me?\” \”Why are people not tolerant and don\’t give those who made mistakes a chance to change their ways?\” I was not wrong, everything was other people\’s fault. I have no way to solve the problem. It is only natural for others to help me, so I don\’t have to be grateful. Why do others blame me? Why won\’t others forgive me when I\’m sad? From beginning to end, Liu Xin\’s focus was always herself. In her eyes, she is the center of the world. Jiang Ge\’s life and death, and Jiang\’s mother\’s more than 300 days of suffering and tears, are never greater than her own reputation and feelings. Giant babies have a lot of terrible psychology, the two most important traits of which are \”omnipotent narcissism\” and the belief that they are omnipotent. This is a very destructive pathology. It causes a person to regard the whole world as his own, to be unable to treat others equally, and not even to treat other people as living beings. This kind of psychology is actually a kind of psychology that exists in early childhood. It is called \”self\” in education. centralization”. The second is \”paranoia and schizophrenia\”. They are content with their own imaginary world and are divorced from reality. People with a giant baby mentality are very strong on the one hand, but very fragile on the other. The inner strength is to protect their fragility, so they cannot accept doubts, and will strongly resist once they are questioned; they cannot accept treatment that is not what they expected, and will be depressed once they encounter this situation; they cannot accept setbacks, and once they encounter setbacks, their hearts will be broken. Liu Xin\’s performance undoubtedly proved that she possesses these two qualities. She lacks the ability to empathize, and can never treat others as equals, nor can she feel the pain of others. Liu Xin\’s character development may be inseparable from the family environment. Liu Xin\’s parents, in the melee of public opinion, completely forgot that Jiang Ge died to protect their daughter, and hurriedly cursed the victim who asked for the truth. From their actions, I felt their suffocating love: as long as they can protect their children\’s fragile self-esteem, they can ignore anything else. In matters where life is at stake, parents still protect their children without reservation. This shows how protected Liu Xin has grown up. In the same case, there is a tomato scrambled egg advertisement that hit the screen some time ago. In order to gain face with classmates, the international student in the advertisement sent a WeChat message at 4 a.m. to ask his mother to teach him.I made tomato scrambled eggs. When my mother couldn\’t explain clearly, she even lost her temper. At that time, people were saying that such international students were useless and could do nothing. Although as an advertisement, the story of scrambled eggs in the middle of the night is of course fictional, it actually reflects the same social problem as Liu Xin\’s incident. Over-protection of children is a true portrayal of many family education. My classmate Xiaomi also grew up with the pampering of his parents. When I grew up, I followed my family’s wishes and took the civil service exam. When she failed in the exam for the first time, her parents comforted her that \”it was because she did not perform well\”; in the second year, she failed in the exam again, and her parents said that \”the test paper was too difficult\”; in the third year, she failed in the civil service exam again and became a public figure among those around her. The laughing stock. But she and her parents still felt that she was not wrong, it was the world that was wrong. Some people say that the person who deserves the most attention in this case should be Chen Shifeng. He is the real murderer. But I want to say that Liu Xin also needs to shoulder his own responsibilities. As Jiang Ge\’s friend, as a roommate who had been taken care of by Jiang Ge, and as the woman who involved Jiang Ge in the murder case. She has an obligation to tell Mama Jiang the truth about what happened that night; she has an obligation to bear Mama Jiang\’s blame and try her best to win Mama Jiang\’s forgiveness; and she has an obligation to actively testify in court to help Mama Jiang so that the murderer receives the punishment he deserves. I can’t imagine that if she hadn’t chosen to escape and hide in her ivory tower again and again, and if she could be more mature and take the initiative to deal with the remaining issues of the previous relationship, Jiang Ge would not have to pay the price with her life, and she would not have to pay the price with her life. Will he not be severely punished by public opinion? There is a saying that is particularly good: \”Just because you have no legal responsibility does not mean that you are not responsible for the mistakes in your life.\” From a legal perspective, Liu Xin is indeed a victim, but in this incident, Liu Xin really True justice is not innocent. Just now, I saw a more detailed anatomy of this matter on Wang Zhijun\’s official account. Although his parents were still trying to stop him in every possible way, Liu Xin still chose to meet Jiang\’s mother with hesitation and confusion. I hope that this incident can be an opportunity for Liu Xin to grow, although I think it is very difficult for her. In fact, there is not so much hostility and malice in this world. Even Mother Jiang endured the pain of losing her daughter and communicated with her properly at the beginning. But repeated attempts at communication failed, which finally led to Mama Jiang\’s outburst. Liu Xin doesn\’t know how to cherish the beauty in human nature. Mother Jiang\’s tone at first was almost pleading, and she could even understand Liu Xin\’s choice to protect himself in that situation. She took Liu Xin\’s feelings into consideration in every word she said, but what did Liu Xin give in return to Jiang\’s mother? Liu Xin has always been well protected by others, so she puts herself in the position of being harmed and regards people who hold different ideas from her as evil people. This time, I believe public opinion is with some kind of good intentions. Those unkind remarks were just to make her realize her responsibility and not to make the same mistake again and again. I hope Liu Xin understands: This world is not that bad. As long as you are willing to step out of your lonely narcissism and establish a truly meaningful connection with the outside world, you will find that there is no malice and love in places that are not under your control. The presence. But at the same time, I also secretly hope that, our children will never meet a good friend like Liu Xin.