Joe Chen was arrested for drunk driving: It was childhood trauma that still makes her rebellious.

Joe Chen drunk driving At 9 o\’clock in the morning on January 4, 2018, actress Joe Chen was transferred to the Taipei District Prosecutor\’s Office by the Taiwan Police Department for \”public danger crimes\”. It is reported that she was arrested for drunk driving, and her alcohol test value reached 0.67. The incident was immediately pushed to the forefront. Chen Qiaoen himself posted on Weibo on January 4: \”I\’m sorry for making everyone worried…\” and topped Weibo\’s 24-hour hot search list. In the comment area, some netizens used the term \”Li Xiaolu incident\” to ridicule – Li Xiaolu: Thank you, old man. Does the \”Flower of Idol Drama\” often drink to drown his sorrows? From the heroine in youth idol dramas such as \”The Prince Turns into a Frog\” and \”Destined to Love You\”, to the affectionate and righteous Dongfang Bubai in \”The Swordsman\” who made the audience fall in love with them, and then to the With his uncontrollable dominance of the screen, it is no exaggeration to say that Chen Qiaoen is known as the \”Flower of Idol Dramas\”. △The Eastern Invincible, played by Joe Chen, has countless fans. However, as early as in her autobiography \”Qiao Jian Mei\”, she once mentioned her \”bond\” with alcohol: she once used alcohol to relieve her sorrow due to emotional entanglements; He was angry to participate in the filming of the show; he was out of shape because of heavy drinking; he was put on ice by the agency for half a year because of his drinking. A few years ago, reporters photographed Chen Qiaoen and Chen Zhengfei sitting side by side, eating and chatting. Chen Qiaoen squatted on the chair with his legs crossed and his movements were exaggerated, without caring about the image of a beautiful girl. During the meal, Chen Zhengfei chatted about wine as he liked, and said to Chen Qiaoen: \”You don\’t drink red wine every day…\” Chen Qiaoen showed a proud expression, and picked up a 500ml wine glass and drank a draft beer boldly. The root of drinking to drown one\’s sorrows is here! After the drunk driving incident was exposed, Chen Qiaoen\’s Weibo comment area was still occupied by fans who supported and loved her: Of course, there are also some critical voices: But having said that, a public figure made a mistake, let\’s not be busy \” \”Don\’t forgive\”, it is better to calmly think about the reasons, correct them if they are there, and encourage them if they are not. In fact, people who know Chen Qiaoen\’s growth experience should be able to see to some extent the root causes of her \”drinking to drown her sorrows\” – a childhood that lacked deep companionship, a estranged mother-daughter relationship, and the \”I don\’t know how to deal with it\” seeded since childhood. seeds of negative emotions. △Photo of Chen Qiaoen and his family. Chen Qiaoen was born in Hsinchu, Taiwan in 1979. In addition to her, there are two children in the family. After the age of 35, her mother Lu Jinfeng began to focus on her career. She not only pursued a \”stick-style\” education, but also provided her with companionship and care. It\’s even rarer. While participating in the talk show, Chen Qiaoen also mentioned more than once his \”irrepairable\” relationship with his mother. She dared not talk to her mother; she would rather escape to a haunted house than \”share\” her loss with her mother; \”fierce\” was the only impression she had of her mother when she was a child; because her grades in transferring to another school declined, her mother not only failed to support her emotionally, To help her get through this special period, she was instead violent, making her afraid to speak out about her troubles, and even more suffering. She never held her mother\’s hand until high school, and when she grew up, she took her mother out to participate in activities. , refused to sleep with her; in the celebrity parent-child entertainment program \”Tornado Filial Son\”, Chen Qiaoen and his mother\’s appearance rate is very low, because there is too little interaction between them, and they don\’t evenKnow how to communicate with each other. At the end of the show, the mother and daughter broke the ice and took a group photo, which also seemed particularly awkward. The mother\’s hand holding Chen Qiaoen was in a hanging position. Chen Qiaoen is more afraid of his mother than he loves her. Her mother\’s harshness and coldness gave rise to the fear deep in her heart, and this fear also pushed the distance between mother and daughter further and further. Emotionally, it can be said that her mother pushed her away, unable to convey her negative emotions to her family, and failed to learn the correct way to deal with it from her family. The accumulated pressure pushed her towards alcohol – this kind of harm Wrong reliance on oneself and possibly hurting others. When you push your child away, no one knows where he will go. Before the drunk driving incident, his mother’s lack of companionship and listening has always been regarded as the motivation for Chen Qiaoen to become independent and self-reliant. However, the fermentation of the drunk driving incident once again Let us see the profound impact of childhood \”hidden pain\” on a person. As a parent, when you cruelly \”push\” your child away from you again and again in order to take care of other careers, you never know where he or she may go with his or her negative emotions. To train your child to be independent and self-reliant, you must at least use \”love\” to build solid self-confidence in his or her heart. △ Joe Chen\’s newborn period: Changing \”let him cry\” into \”I\’m here\” and \”pushing the child away\”. This wrong approach may have been done when we first became parents. For example, when a baby has no reason, When a child cries, many parents will have this idea – let him cry! Just feel better when you are tired of crying! This is an exercise for him! Still from the movie \”Sex and the City 2\” Charlotte is complaining to her best friend about her crying daughter. In fact, the best way to deal with \”baby crying\” is to respond quickly. You know, before learning to speak, \”crying\” is the baby\’s way of expression. They use crying to express all dissatisfaction. Therefore, when your baby cries, don’t begrudge your response. This does not mean compromising with him or her, but building initial self-confidence for him or her. Tell him or her, “Dad/Mom is here to accompany you. Where do you feel uncomfortable?” I’m trying to figure it out for you.” Research shows that babies who can get natural and appropriate responses when they cry will cry less when they grow up; conversely, babies who have been in a depressive environment for a long time and whose crying is ignored can only cry themselves to sleep. … Such babies will go to two extremes, either they will never cry again, or they will cry all the time and cannot be coaxed at all. Growth period: Change \”Why are you so bad\” into \”I\’ll teach you\” Let me tell you something I experienced personally: I was in primary school when the SARS virus was raging in 2003, and the school required every student to bring their own thermometer every day. Temperatures are taken during morning reading, and classes can only continue if the temperature is within a safe range. At that time, I had the opportunity to use a mercury thermometer by myself for the first time. I was very excited. One night when I was doing homework at home, I saw the thermometer in the pencil case and took it out to play with. As a result, I accidentally dropped it on the ground. Shredded. My mother came over after hearing the sound. I was so nervous that I thought to myself, \”I\’m going to get scolded.\” But instead of scolding, \”Why are you so careless?\”, she asked me to watch carefully.How she handled it and told me about the dangers of mercury. After this incident, I learned the correct way to deal with a broken thermometer, and also developed a habit of not panicking and responding promptly when encountering problems. At the same time, the trust between our mother and daughter was also greatly enhanced. To this day, when I encounter something I did, For uncertain things and things I haven\’t done well, I will also ask my mother – \”Do you have a better solution?\” Nowadays, many parents are eager to establish authority in the minds of their children, but in fact, the kind of calm and trustworthy parents we want to be are not the people who scare our children when they do something wrong. The first person who thinks of asking for help. Rebellion period: Turn \”I tell you\” into \”I want to hear you say\”. Previously, a Thai public service announcement made many people ponder for a long time. In the advertisement, parents who came to pick up their children from school found that their children\’s clothes and pants were covered with mud stains. They were about to accuse them, but they found that the truth made them ashamed: Subjective assumptions are the most common mistakes adults make when dealing with children. We It is actually arrogant and blind to always rely on one\’s wealth of experience and be able to determine the beginning and end of things at a single glance. Change \”I tell you\” to \”I want to hear you say\” and listen carefully to what your children are saying. While you learn the truth and understand your children\’s true inner thoughts, you will also marvel at their growth and take back your ever-condescending attitude. . Finally: Let the emotions that cannot be resolved with words be \”moved\”. There are many negative emotions that we cannot resolve with words, such as the death of loved ones, anxiety about unfamiliar environments, restlessness in adolescence… and so on. But even if we can\’t resolve it, we still need to teach our children the correct way to deal with their emotions, such as exercise. Research shows that the areas of the brain that are responsible for human emotions, cognition, movement and other functions are different. When one area is excited, other areas are relatively inhibited. Physical exercise can calm down the overly excited areas of the brain, and negative emotions will follow. Gradually ease. Therefore, when your child is depressed and unable to comfort him with words, it is the most appropriate way to arrange appropriate outdoor sports and work with your child to resolve negative emotions through exercise. As parents, we hope to shape our home into a haven, not a dead end; if a child always has to face a cold wall at any time, then he or she will naturally turn to other directions, go to other places, and even make It’s a matter of hurting yourself and others. I believe no one wants to see this happen again.