Kangxi family tradition and family motto: If you don’t want to raise a rebellious child, you must let your child suffer these five kinds of hardships

I pity the hearts of parents in the world. There are no parents who don\’t love their children. But blindly doting on a child can only push the child into the abyss. The ancients said: \”To love your children but not teach them is like not loving them; to teach them without being kind is like not teaching them.\” Some hardships must be endured by children. No matter how much you love your children, you must be willing to give them these five foods. Sowing bitterness. The hard lesson of learning is: when a person is childish, his mind is focused and sharp; when he grows up, his thoughts are scattered and distracted. A young man who is a scholar is like the light of the rising sun; a strong man who is a scholar is like the light of a candle. Therefore, you should learn it early and don’t miss the opportunity. Translation: When a person is young, his mind is focused, he has no selfish thoughts, and his learning ideas are smooth; when he grows up, his thoughts are difficult to concentrate and he is easily distracted. Learning when you are young is like the light of the rising sun; learning when you are young is like the light of a candle. Therefore, you should read and study as early as possible and don’t waste your time. Ru Fengjun said: Many children are eager to play and tired of learning, unwilling to study, and only want to play games. Parents must not let this happen. If your studies are wasted, half your life will be ruined. Without academic qualifications, knowledge and skills, it will be difficult for children to gain a foothold in society in the future. When you grow up, you will still make your parents worry. Be sure to warn your children: If you don’t suffer the hardship of study now, you will suffer the hardship of life in the future. If you endure hardship while studying now, you will suffer for a while. If you endure hardship in the future, it may last for a lifetime. The hard lesson of self-discipline is: eat prudently and live cautiously, which is actually a good cure for illness. Translation: Don’t be too greedy for food and drink, pay attention to your daily life, and don’t be too greedy for sleep. This is the secret to maintaining good health. Ru Fengjun said: Self-discipline brings freedom. Many children are sleepy, gluttonous, have poor living habits, and do not exercise. As time goes by, not only does the body collapse, but the spirit also becomes depressed. Freedom is not about doing whatever you want, but being able to control yourself so that you don\’t do anything. Children develop the habit of being strict with themselves from an early age and know how to restrain their desires. Only when you grow up can you have a good quality of life. The bitter lesson of criticism is: Can any mortal be without fault? But people have their faults, and most people don’t let themselves go too far. Not so with me. If someone accidentally forgets and mistakenly blames others in his idle remarks, he must let himself go and say, \”It was my mistake.\” However, this will make others feel moved and feel uneasy. Most of those who can make their own mistakes are adults. Translation: Who can avoid making mistakes in life? But most people don\’t want to admit that they are wrong. That\’s not the case for me. I always admit my mistakes proactively. Others are always moved and disturbed by my confession. In fact, those who can take the initiative to admit their mistakes are mostly people of high moral character. Ru Fengjun said: No one is a saint, and no one can make mistakes. Especially in the growth stage of children, there are many mistakes, big and small. As a parent, you must guide your children correctly and criticize them appropriately. You can give your child a chance to explain, but you can\’t compromise on your principles. Follow the guidance and let the children learn to self-examine and control themselves. Before doing something and after doing something, you can have an overall reflection and introspection on yourself. Only in this way can we continue to correct mistakes and continue to grow. If a child makes a mistake and does not criticize the child, the child will easily develop a selfish and arrogant character. In the future, parents will not even have time to cry when the evil consequences come back. The bitter lesson of labor says: Everyone in the world likes to be at ease and hates to work, but my heart is that people always work hard and know how to relax. If you are content with ease, not only will you notIf you know how to relax, you will not be able to bear the workload. Therefore, there is a saying in \”Yi\”: \”The movement of heaven is healthy, and a gentleman is constantly striving to improve himself.\” From this perspective, the sage sees labor as blessing and leisure as disaster. Translation: Human nature itself is fond of leisure and hates work, but in fact, only after work can a person truly experience comfort; if he is idle all day long and has nothing to do, then what he feels is not comfort, but boredom. Being idle all the time means that they will not be able to do anything in the future. I can\’t bear hardships and stand hard work to accomplish anything big. \”The Book of Changes\” says: \”The movement of the Way of Heaven never stops day and night, and it starts over and over again. It exists and develops in the movement. A gentleman should imitate the Way of Heaven and strive for self-improvement.\” Therefore, the sage regards hard work as a blessing and ease as a disaster. Ru Fengjun said: Ancient Chinese people have always been diligent and thrifty in managing their families. Only hard-working children can build a prosperous family. Xiao He of the Han Dynasty prepared a barren fief for his children. Zeng Guofan always let his children clean and wash their own clothes. Exercise your children more when they are young and let them endure more hardships. You cannot always support them, otherwise you will only raise prodigal children who are indolent and indolent. Exercise your children, endure hardships and stand hard work. Not only can it stimulate children\’s potential and fill them with a positive and enterprising spirit, it can also hone their minds and make them truly adults. The bitter lesson of failure is: when encountering difficult problems, just go forward according to the reason, and you will be worthy of both gains and losses. Translation: When you encounter something particularly difficult, as long as you don’t violate the rules and try your best, then success or failure is not that important. Confucian Fengjun said: Heaven has unpredictable events, and people have misfortunes and blessings. No one has a smooth life, we will always encounter problems, big and small. Therefore, we must establish a good view of failure in our children and improve their ability to resist setbacks. Not everything will succeed if you work hard, and some things are not dependent on human will. Tell your children that as long as you do your best in doing things, it will be fine. In the face of failure, in addition to working hard, we must also be open-minded. Only in this way, children will not compete with themselves or embarrass themselves in their future lives.