Kangxi family tradition and family motto: No matter how much you love your child, you must let him suffer three kinds of suffering

Parents all over the world love their children, but far-sighted parents know how to push their children. In the long run, children must bear some storms and experience some hardships. Huang Zongxi said: \”To love your son but not teach him is like not loving; to teach but not be kind is like not teaching him.\” Doting is not love. No matter how much you love your child, you must be willing to let him suffer these three kinds of hardships. The Difficulty of Studying Kangxi said: When a person is childish, his mind is focused and sharp; when he grows up, his thoughts are scattered and scattered. A young man who is a scholar is like the light of the rising sun; a strong man who is a scholar is like the light of a candle. Therefore, you should learn it early and don’t miss the opportunity. Translation: When a person is young, his mind is focused, he has no selfish thoughts, and his learning ideas are smooth; when he grows up, his thoughts are difficult to concentrate and he is easily distracted. Learning when you are young is like the light of the rising sun; learning when you are young is like the light of a candle. Therefore, you should read and study as early as possible and don’t waste your time. Recommended books on scientific parenting. I really wish my parents had read this book. Download the electronic version. Interpretation: When I was young and ignorant, I thought reading and studying was the most exhausting job in the world; later I realized that reading is the smooth road to walking in the world. Reading one volume will bring you one volume of benefit; reading one day will bring you one day of benefit. The benefits of reading cannot be known unless you are a dedicated reader. No matter how much parents love their children, they must be willing to let them suffer the hardship of studying. Give your child a push when he wants to give up, and teach him not to give up halfway when he is playful and lazy. One day, the child will understand that the hardships he endures for studying today will pave a broad road in the future, guiding him to live the life he longs for. The suffering of labor Kangxi said: The sage regards labor as blessing and leisure as disaster. Everyone in the world likes to relax but hates to work. My heart is that people always work hard and know how to relax. If you are content with ease, not only will you not know how to relax, but you will not be able to bear the burden of work. Translation: The sage regards labor as a blessing and the enjoyment of ease as the cause of disaster. People in the world are eager for comfort and hate working. I believe in my heart that only by persisting in working can a person feel real comfort. If you blindly pursue comfort without thinking about progress, you will find it intolerable when you engage in labor, and naturally you will not deserve to enjoy it. Interpretation: Loving children starts with being willing to use them and starting with daily housework. Some parents feel sorry for their children and are reluctant to let them work because they are afraid that they will suffer hardship. Some parents think that their children have a heavy learning burden and many work tasks, and do not want housework to take up their children\’s precious time. Over time, children develop the bad habit of reaching out for clothes and opening their mouths for food. They have poor common sense and weak self-care ability. Children should be made aware that the comfortable life they enjoy now was bought by their parents through labor, sweat, and calluses on their hands. Only in this way can we inherit the Chinese nation\’s fine virtues of hard work and hard work and exercise their ability to withstand setbacks. The hardships of life. Kangxi taught: To cultivate one\’s moral character and govern one\’s nature, one should be diligent in daily life. The hall where I live is now covered with carpets and other items that have not been replaced for almost thirty or forty years. I am honest by nature and do not want to spend extravagantly. Translation: The virtue of frugality should be cultivated from daily life. The carpets in the palace where I live now have not been replaced with new ones for thirty or forty years. This is because I advocate frugality and do not dare to be too extravagant in food and clothing. Interpretation: a lotParents would rather suffer themselves than let their children suffer, and raise their children to be the little emperors and princesses of the family. However, in a real imperial family, parents do not raise their children to be hothouse flowers, but choose to let them go and let them experience the suffering of the world. We always complain that our children are not sensible. In fact, it is their parents who pamper and spoil them and prevent them from being sensible. Today\’s children grow up in a happy era and have never been hungry since childhood. Therefore, they should learn to cherish and cherish blessings. Only by being willing to let your children taste the bitterness of life can you teach them to cherish the sweetness they have.