Kindergarten teacher: Children who don’t cry when they first enter kindergarten usually have three characteristics. Is your child the same?

The couple worked hard for six years to conceive their colleague\’s son, so the whole family loved him very much. When the child turned 3 years old last year, my colleague, like most parents, signed up his son for kindergarten, but he had to withdraw from the kindergarten within a week. When asked why, she said that it was too painful to send her son to kindergarten every day. She cried so much that she felt heartbroken and desperate. She really couldn\’t bear it and so she decided to withdraw from the kindergarten. Anyway, her parents-in-law were watching at home, so she would go again next year. In the blink of an eye, a year has passed by, and there are less than two months until the child enters kindergarten again. My colleagues are once again anxious, worried that their son will not be able to adapt to kindergarten life like last year. To this end, she also consulted many experienced parents as well as kindergarten principals and veteran teachers, hoping to find effective solutions. An old principal with many years of teaching experience said that through his own observation, children who do not cry when they first enter kindergarten generally have the following three characteristics. 01 Children who have been familiar with the kindergarten environment in advance mentioned the children who did not cry when they first entered kindergarten. The old principal said that the one who impressed him most was a boy named Guoguo. From the first day he went to kindergarten until he graduated from kindergarten, he did not cry in one day. I never cried because I didn’t want to go to kindergarten. Because this kind of child is extremely rare, the old principal was also very curious at the time, so he chatted with the child\’s mother. The mother of the child said that her home is in the community in front of the kindergarten. When her son passed by before he was 3 years old, he could always see through the kindergarten fence all kinds of fun slides, sandpits, swings and other game equipment inside. Every time I passed by, the child would hold on to the fence and cry, shouting to go in and play. Later, he was finally able to go in to kindergarten. As expected, he was so happy that when he was sent there for the first time, he didn\’t even look back at his mother. Psychologist Maslow\’s \”Hierarchy of Needs Theory\” tells us that physiological needs and safety needs are the most basic needs of human beings. When children first enter kindergarten and are suddenly separated from their relatives, facing a strange environment, teachers and children, it is difficult not to feel a great sense of insecurity, causing them to cry and make a fuss, rejecting this unfamiliar environment that seems to be full of dangers. Therefore, as parents, if we want to relieve our children\’s anxiety about entering kindergarten, it is best to use our spare time to take our children to understand the environment of the kindergarten in advance, tell them the interesting aspects of kindergarten life, and let them understand the geographical space and Psychologically, gradually prepare yourself for entering the kindergarten. 02 Parents give children a sense of security. The so-called sense of security is an emotional state that makes children feel solid, comfortable and trustful. Simply put, when a child believes that he is in a safe, non-threatening environment and has someone or something he can rely on and trust, he feels safe. Specifically for a child who has just entered kindergarten, when he is sent to kindergarten, he can still feel the love and protection of his parents, and has a safe home. His parents will pick him up on time, so he can confidently and bravely adapt to kindergarten. Life. The old principal said that according to his own observation, those children who do not cry after entering the kindergarten, or who cry for a day or two and then stop crying, all have several things in common in their personalities, that is, they are cheerful and lively, and are good at sharing their own stories. things and happiness, know how to care and help others, and be able to communicate with young peopleBuild good friendships with partners. The above characteristics are manifestations of a child’s sense of “security.” Achieving a child\’s sense of security is a multifaceted process, involving family environment, parent-child relationship, education methods and other aspects. Create a harmonious and stable family environment for children; avoid quarrels or cold wars in front of children; do what you promise your children; encourage children to interact with peers, cultivate their social skills, and provide appropriate support when children encounter difficulties. Help and support can improve children\’s sense of security. 03 Children with excellent self-care ability and social skills. When the neighbor’s youngest daughter was less than 3 years old, she clamored to go to kindergarten. There were no elders in the neighbor’s family to help her, and the eldest daughter happened to be taking the high school entrance examination, so she sent her to kindergarten. I thought that my daughter was just a newbie and might not want to go there in a few days. Unexpectedly, my daughter became a \”child-head\” after only a week in the kindergarten. According to the kindergarten teacher, her daughter is not only talkative and popular, but also loves to help other children. She has watched the teacher feed other children several times, and she has also volunteered to teach the children how to hold a spoon to eat by themselves. One time a neighbor asked her, \”Which is better, home or kindergarten?\” Unexpectedly, the little girl actually said: \”Kindergarten is much more fun than home. There is only my mother at home, and there are many children in the kindergarten. You can also eat, play games and go to school with the children.\” Toilet…\” This type of child is obviously a combination of \”social cow\” + \”super independent and self-care ability\”. For them, going from home to kindergarten does not have the so-called difficulties of eating, dressing, going to the toilet, etc. that other children have. It also has unique advantages that they do not have at home – more children, amusement equipment, multi-player games… They do not I would like to go to kindergarten. It would be strange to cry in kindergarten! The child of a colleague has been pampered by his family since he was a child. At the age of four, he still cannot eat, dress or go to the toilet independently. His social skills are also average, so she still has to work hard on this. [Write at the end] From birth to kindergarten, a child’s main living place is a warm home, and the main caregivers are parents or grandparents. In three years, the children have already become accustomed to this lifestyle. Therefore, when they suddenly go from a familiar home to an unfamiliar kindergarten, the key is that they do not have any relatives to accompany them. Young children do not have a complete sense of security and strong self-care and social skills. It is difficult for children not to feel uncomfortable, even anxious and resistant. Therefore, as a parent, if your child has symptoms of \”kindergarten separation anxiety\”, you may not be too worried, because this condition usually disappears after about 2 weeks.