Kindergarten teacher reveals: Children who don’t cry on the first day of kindergarten mostly come from these three types of families

We will find that every time kindergarten starts, there are always some children crying into tears. Their pitiful appearance can break the hearts of their parents. But some children, as soon as they heard that they were going to kindergarten, left happily without looking back, leaving their old mothers reluctant to leave at the door. What\’s going on? I also asked a kindergarten teacher friend this question, and she revealed that most children who don’t cry on the first day of kindergarten come from these three types of families. 1. Families that provide early childhood education in advance My cousin’s children were sent to early childhood education when they were over 2 years old. By the time he entered kindergarten at the age of 3, he was already familiar with the situation, separated from his family, and did not cry at all. Children who have received early education in advance will not feel strange or afraid of the collective environment when they go to kindergarten. Instead, they have already become accustomed to the classroom environment. When he played and studied with the teachers, he adapted immediately. Because for him, kindergarten is no different from his previous early childhood education life, so he won\’t panic. Moreover, children who attend early education learn the rules and disciplines of the classroom early on, such as sitting on the stool obediently, being engaged when playing games, calling the teacher when going to the toilet, going to bed at noon, etc. The child is already familiar with these rules, and when he enters kindergarten, he will be able to accept them immediately. For children who are over 3 years old and go to kindergarten for the first time, they will inevitably panic when they leave their familiar family environment and come to a strange group for the first time. Moreover, it will inevitably be difficult for children to get used to going from their families to a kindergarten where rules and discipline are required. Children can still act like a spoiled child at home, but at school, teachers may not take care of them. A series of feelings such as loss, strangeness, tension, fear, etc. rush over, and the child may cry non-stop a few days before school starts. However, I would not advise parents to send their children to early education because of this. On the contrary, before children go to kindergarten, they should play more carefree and spend more time with their families, especially their mothers. Only by cultivating more trust and security at home can a child develop stronger adaptability. It\’s normal to feel sad when you\’re separated from your family. Children with strong adaptability can come out faster and transition from family life to campus life earlier. 2. Families that cultivate children’s independent abilities. One of my daughter’s classmates has never cried since she was in kindergarten. The mother of a classmate said that her children have been relatively independent since childhood. In order to cultivate her daughter\’s independent ability, her mother will let her sort out her toys, dress and eat by herself. Although her daughter was very slow at first and sometimes made a mess, her mother always encouraged her patiently and allowed her to solve the problem by herself. By the age of 3, my daughter is already able to do many things on her own. On the first day of kindergarten, despite the unfamiliar environment, my daughter did not show any fear. She knows how to ask the teacher for help when she encounters difficulties; she can dress and fold her quilt by herself when she wakes up from a nap. Precisely because of their strong independent abilities, children can calmly cope with the new environment of kindergarten. Coupled with the teacher\’s praise, she has more confidence and enjoys going to kindergarten. Therefore, even on the first day of kindergarten, she did not cry and adapted quickly. We can also develop more independent abilities in our children before they enter kindergarten. This allows children to face new environments,Able to handle new challenges confidently and calmly. Three: There is another situation in families where the relationship between the child and the mother is estranged. The child will not cry on the first day of kindergarten. That is, the relationship between the child and the mother is relatively distant. Those children who are particularly close to their mothers will definitely feel uncomfortable and reluctant to part with them for the first time. And a day apart is really a long time for little children. And to protest, he would cry. The child cries not only to relieve separation anxiety, but also to retain me in this way – what if my mother relents and takes me home? As for those children who have an estranged relationship with their mothers, they have become accustomed to being \”separated\” from their mothers in space and mind. Therefore, it makes no difference to him whether he can go to kindergarten or be separated from his mother. On the contrary, there are children, teachers, and fun things in the kindergarten. He feels that it is more fun in the kindergarten. Therefore, even on the first day of kindergarten, he acted very calmly and did whatever he was supposed to do, without crying at all. If the child does not cry because of this situation, we must not be happy. We think that our children are so sensible that we do not need mothers to worry too much. We need to get closer to our children and communicate with them more. Listen to their words more and spend more time with them. In this way, our children will be close to us when they grow up. If a child does not cry on the first day of kindergarten, it is usually due to the above three situations. Did your child cry when he went to kindergarten?