Kindergarten teacher: Two very important things when entering kindergarten, but 99% of parents don’t know

Hello, kindergarten is about to start again! Whether it is a 3-year-old child who has just entered kindergarten, or a four- or five-year-old child returning to kindergarten after a summer vacation, adapting to kindergarten has become a very difficult thing, and you have to put some effort into making it smooth for your child. Go. Regarding preparation for kindergarten and precautions in kindergarten, many parenting websites have actually mentioned this. But what different things will Maodou Mama bring to you? That\’s why I want to tell you from the perspective of a kindergarten teacher, which methods are particularly good at dealing with separation anxiety (in other words, there is a particularly effective one, waiting for me to teach you); which small problems are actually particularly important Yes, it’s just that most people can’t think of it. Okay, without further ado, let’s get started! When you go to kindergarten, you have to wear the right clothes. Some people say, what, Maodou Mom, I don’t know what clothes my child should wear when he goes to kindergarten, do I need someone to remind me? In fact, I deeply felt in kindergarten that when girls wear certain clothes to kindergarten, it is actually not conducive to their development. First of all, many girls like to wear gauze skirts like those from princess cartoons, or those that are uncomfortable and breathless but look good and have a bling effect. Some parents like to dress their girls like little princesses, and some parents agree because their children are clamoring for it. What\’s the harm in wearing this kind of clothes? It makes it difficult for children to move around. Kindergarten is a place that helps children develop gross body movements, fine finger movements and teamwork. Bounce, jump, climb, swing and play dirty with mud and water play a great role in promoting children. Wearing this kind of clothes, first of all, it is not easy to wash after getting dirty, and secondly, part of the flexibility of movement is sacrificed for the sake of appearance. I once witnessed a group of children working together to play the game of \”rescuing animals\”. Those \”little princesses\” wearing gauze skirts couldn\’t run fast or catch up behind them, so it was difficult for them to concentrate on playing. Secondly, girls wearing this kind of clothes may be unwilling to engage in \”dirty play\” activities because they value their clothes too much. In some high-end kindergartens with good development concepts, sand, water, mud and wooden stakes will be prepared for children, so that children can feel nature with their bodies unscrupulously and integrate their minds with the surrounding environment. But when a girl is very concerned about whether her clothes are dirty, it is difficult for her to fully engage in this kind of game. I often see girls like this in kindergarten: they are carrying white gauze skirts, and they dare not play with this or touch that, for fear that their new skirt will be stained. This is actually a pity. If you are giving birth to a girl, the best thing to wear in kindergarten is pure cotton, linen and other comfortable clothes that are easy to put on and take off. Pure cotton clothes make children comfortable and can concentrate on playing. You can choose beige, pink, yellow, light blue and other lively colors. In short, don’t sacrifice other aspects of your child’s development for the sake of beauty! When a child is still young, he can love beauty all his life, but in the years of kindergarten, the most beautiful is the unrestricted mud girl. Some mothers said: \”What should I do if my daughter takes the initiative to wear gauze skirts or princess clothes?\” My opinion is: try to let your children wear them on weekends.It doesn\’t matter how you look in the mirror and imagine she is a princess. But kindergarten is a place where you can express yourself to your heart\’s content, so don\’t wear a gauze skirt. Let’s talk about an extreme example. There is a little beauty named Little Q in our kindergarten. When I first came to the kindergarten, I was amazed by Little Q’s outfit. She was forced by her mother to become a little model in the pictorial every day! I couldn\’t help praising her: \”Little Q, you are so beautiful!\” Then I said to the teacher next to me: \”Her mother must spend a lot of time matching her every day!\” The senior teacher works longer in the garden, and she He smiled and didn\’t answer. Later I discovered some problems with Xiao Q. She is too concerned about whether she is \”pretty\” and whether \”her beauty can attract other people\’s attention.\” Little Q\’s clothes are basically the same every day, and his braids are also the same. As soon as he appears in the kindergarten, he will attract the attention of all the teachers and other parents: \”Wow, little Q, your blouse and these leggings are really amazing. How did you braid your hair?\” At this time, Little Q and her mother laughed proudly (Little Q\’s mother is a full-time mother, taking care of Little Q and taking her to kindergarten every day). Not only me, but other teachers will also unconsciously focus on Xiao Q’s appearance when she comes to the kindergarten. Well-trained kindergarten teachers are like this, not to mention the neighbors, relatives, passers-by in the park, and supermarket salespeople around Xiao Q. Everyone likes to praise little Q for being \”beautiful\”. Xiao Q knows that \”getting everyone\’s praise\” is a good thing, so she cares too much about maintaining her clothes. Little Q doesn\’t like playing in water because it will stain his skirt. Little Q also doesn\’t like playing in mud because it will stain his white pants. Little Q also doesn’t like to climb high with his companions because it will get his shoes dirty. When she wakes up from her nap every day, she is always very annoyed because her complicated bun is flattened. I knelt down and said to Little Q: \”Little Q, do you like playing in mud and water? You can join your companions!\” Little Q hesitated for a while, then shook his head: \”I want nice clothes!\” When someone When Tian Xiao Q doesn\’t get everyone\’s attention, she will be angry for a long time. Her mother said: She will ask her mother to have her hair styled the way she likes. Even if her mother tells her that she has no time and she will be late if she insists on combing her hair that way, she must still present the most perfect image. . Really, little Q is only four years old. Of course this does not mean that it is not good to dress girls beautifully and neatly. But there is an old saying: \”Excessive advantages are disadvantages.\” Excessive pursuit of wealth will turn you into a miser. If you are too helpful, you will lose yourself. Paying too much attention to the child\’s beautiful appearance will make her rely on the evaluation of \”others praise me for being beautiful\”, causing her to lose a lot of things that a four-year-old girl should pursue. For example: attaching importance to hard work, cooperation, growth thinking, selfless investment, etc. Although beauty is a resource, it is extremely perishable and unstable. However, the tenacity and diligence required for girls to grow up become more and more important as time goes by. Don\’t think that a four-year-old child doesn\’t understand anything. How much time do you spend on something every day? Can your children see it?That’s weird! As a kindergarten teacher, I hope parents can spend more time cultivating soft skills. Of course we want our children to value their clean and beautiful appearance, but when you spend too much time on your child\’s appearance, you have to be wary: will your child become \”addicted\” to others\’ compliments on her appearance? So, every night when you are sorting out the clothes your child will wear for the next day, please take away those clothes that are not conducive to your child\’s development! What is the most effective way to reduce separation anxiety in children? How to make your child go to kindergarten every day without crying or fussing? The answer is: Stop dreaming. impossible. We tried many methods, such as playing hide-and-seek in advance and telling the children \”Mom will be the first to pick you up in the evening!\”, but none of them worked particularly well. But there is a particularly effective method that has been tried and tested in our kindergarten. Basically, children can stop crying quickly! This method is: ask the teacher to help the child write a letter to mom/dad/grandpa. The amazing effect of this method is: every time the child cries and asks the teacher to write a letter for him, it says \”Mom, come pick me up early, mom, I will I want to play with you…\” I cried less and less as I wrote. I stopped crying when I was writing the signature and went to play happily. Let me give you a demonstration sample, which is basically like this (I have written hundreds of letters to the children in our class, can I say this casually?): △I imitated Maodou’s tone and wrote one, which is to write the child’s Just speak your mind. Why does writing a letter work wonders? When a child has an outlet to talk about his emotions, and a letter can reconnect the child with the person he is most attached to, he will know that he is not that far away from his dearest mother, and he will know that his voice can be heard. heard. This method of appeasement is the fastest, almost none of them. So before going to kindergarten, this method can be practiced at home. The mother took the initiative to guide: \”Shall we play a little game? Write a letter to mom and tell her what you want to say.\” In this way, the children develop the habit of talking. Some mothers would like to ask: \”It\’s okay if the kindergarten teacher is willing to write letters for the children. What if there are too many children to take care of and they are unwilling to write?\” In fact, I understand that in some kindergartens, there are many children and few teachers. Can\’t write it. Then you can ask the teacher to hold the child and say gently: \”You want to say everything you want to say to your mother. Can the teacher help you remember it and then tell your mother?\” As long as you talk it out, the child will feel that your mother can know your feelings. In my opinion, the essence of this method remains unchanged. Children who are not yet old enough to enter kindergarten and have trouble speaking can also express themselves through drawing. Okay, when it comes to kindergarten and children, my chatterbox mode starts. After talking so many words, I just talked about two points. First, pay attention to children\’s clothing and aim to maximize their development; second, pay attention to children\’s clothing. The second is to use letter writing to reduce separation anxiety. Don’t worry, everyone, I will explain it to you slowly in the future. As a kindergarten teacher, let everyone know what real kindergarten life is like!