Kindergarten teachers can tell the difference at a glance whether a child is taken care of by the elderly or by his parents.

School will start in a few days, and it’s time for children to “put their bones away” and enter kindergarten. Did you know that kindergarten teachers have a very sharp eye – they can tell at a glance whether a child is being taken care of by an elderly person or by the parents themselves. Depending on the primary caregiver, there are some common differences among children. What\’s going on? Today, Parents Hall invites a teacher who works on the front line of early childhood education to talk to you about this topic. Case 1: It’s lunch time. After the teacher has finished the pre-meal mobilization, he asks the children to put small chairs on the seats in groups, then go to the toilet, wash hands, and go to the childcare teacher to get their meals. Niuniu in Group 2 had obviously memorized the steps the teacher had just explained. She quickly lifted her chair and entered the bathroom. He took off his pants, urinated, wiped his butt, and lifted his pants… a series of actions were done in one go, and he even helped another little girl adjust her skirt. Niu Niu took the meal and sat down at her seat to eat seriously. She finished the two bowls of food in about 10 minutes. She used chopsticks to move the rice grains scattered on the table into the empty bowl, and then picked up the rice on the table. Wipe the tabletop of your deskmate clean with a rag. Xiao Shu, who was in the same group, slowly lifted up his chair and walked to the bathroom. Xiao Shu came to the boy\’s urinal and took off his pants with great effort. Because he didn\’t pay attention when peeing, the last bit of pee wet his pants. He didn\’t feel it at all, and the pants he lifted up were always crooked. Xiao Shu went to the nursery teacher and spent a long time choosing a bowl of rice that he thought was the smallest amount. Then he came to his seat, looked away, and sat in a daze with his chopsticks. \”Xiao Shu, why don\’t you eat? \”Teacher, the rice is so hot…\” \”You can blow on it, or eat from the edge.\” After a while, he began to mechanically put the rice into his mouth with chopsticks. But there was a mouthful of rice in his mouth that had never been swallowed. When the other friends had basically finished eating, there was almost nothing left in his bowl. But on the table, under the seat, on his face, on his clothes and even on his pants, there were It\’s all his spilled rice grains… The teacher analyzed the difference in self-care ability. In the above case, when faced with the same thing, the behavior of the two children was very different. Niu Niu, who was raised by her parents, has strong self-care ability because of her parents\’ \”letting go\” , knows what he should do when it comes to \”eating\” and can do it well; while Xiao Shu, who has always been taken care of by her grandma, has a very hard time because her grandma helps put on and take off her clothes and pants at home. Grandma does all the work The food he eats is also very delicate. He has difficulty swallowing if the food in kindergarten is a little bit larger. When eating at home, it feels hot, so grandma will help blow or cool it. In order to avoid spilling it everywhere, grandma almost always feeds it. The reason for these differences is that The reason lies in the difference in self-care ability. Obviously, Niuniu\’s self-care ability is stronger than Xiaoshu\’s. Niuniu can quickly get the key points of each step mentioned by the teacher, retrieve relevant experience from other experiences, and store these in her mind. If you go through it once, you can complete it well and quickly. Children like Xiao Shu can hardly understand what each step of the teacher means. Because they have no relevant experience, it is particularly difficult to complete the task. Case two:After returning from a walk after lunch, the teacher asked the children to find chairs to sit down and talk about nap-related matters. Xiao Xi and Xiao Rui walked into the classroom together. After hearing the teacher\’s request, Xiao Xi found that there were no empty chairs in the classroom. She decisively went outside the classroom to find a chair and sat down with everyone. After listening to the teacher\’s request, Xiao Xi went to the bathroom and found that there was no cup on her cup holder, so she went to the steam sterilizer with the door open, took one out, took the warm water, and rinsed her mouth. Then, she went to the toilet and came to the dormitory. She tried to take off the rubber sutra on her head, but found that she couldn\’t pull it off, so she asked the little girl next to her to help. When taking off her coat, she couldn\’t unbutton it for a long time, so she simply took it off as a pullover, folded the clothes she took off neatly, and placed them at the end of the bed. Then, she straightened the quilt, put down the pillow, got into the quilt, played for a while, and then fell asleep. Xiao Rui, who walked into the classroom with Xiao Xi, kept walking around the classroom when the teacher was talking about the nap requirements, and finally stood aside. It turned out that he did not find an empty chair. After knowing the situation, Xiaoxi told Xiaorui that there were extra chairs in the game area outside the classroom. When everyone went to rinse their mouths, go to the toilet, and prepare to enter the dormitory, Xiao Rui just put the chair he found in place. \”Xiao Rui, why don\’t you rinse your mouth?\” \”Teacher, there are no cups on my cup holder.\” \”The cups are all in the steam sterilizer. Go get one yourself. Remember to wash it after use.\” \”Xiao Rui , why don’t you rinse your mouth while holding the cup?” “Teacher, this water is so cold.” “You can go get hot water from the water dispenser.” Finally, when we arrived at the dormitory, most of the children had already lied down. When the teacher came to tidy up Xiaorui\’s quilt, he found that he had not taken off his clothes and pants, so he covered him with the quilt and got ready to sleep. \”Xiao Rui, why don\’t you take off your clothes?\” \”Teacher, I can\’t unzip my clothes, and my pants are too tight.\” \”Then teacher, come and help you!\” Finally lying on the bed, Xiao Rui couldn\’t do anything. I couldn\’t sleep and kept clamoring for the teacher to accompany me. The teacher analyzed the different ways of solving problems. In the case, two children encountered the same problem while taking a nap. However, Xiao Xi was always able to take the initiative to find a solution when encountering problems. If he could not solve the problem on his own, he knew how to seek help from his peers or teachers. Help; while Xiaorui always has only one reaction: wait. This reflects a different family education model. In Xiaoxi\’s family, when she encounters a problem, her parents will not immediately help her, but they encourage her to use her own brain and support her every attempt to solve the problem. Express approval. When Xiao Rui is at home, his grandparents are always \”ahead\” of everything for him: if there is no chair, help find a chair; if there is no cup, help find a cup; if the cold water is too cold, then give him hot water; It doesn’t matter if you don’t know how to take off your clothes. Grandpa will help you take them off… Of course, people will say that these are small things. When the children grow up, who will not be able to put on and take off their clothes or know whether the water is cold or hot? But what we should really care about is the way children solve problems behind these \”little things.\” If the former encounters any problems, he can take the initiative to startThinking with your brain and actively looking for various ways to try to solve it, while the latter is used to having everything arranged instead, and will only \”wait\” when encountering any problem. Case 3: Falling and Injury Preschool children often suffer from bumps or falls because their body movements cannot keep up with their thinking speed. Niuer is a very active little girl in the class. She often tries things or behaviors that she is curious about when the teacher is not paying attention. Often after the teacher asks a question, her answer is very special. When asked why, she tells the teacher \”because I tried.\” Just because of this \”I tried\”, she often hurt herself. The most serious one was when she tried to stand up and cross the back of a chair to the ground, but she did not correctly estimate the height at which her feet should be raised. Because one foot was caught on the back of the chair, her whole body fell sideways. He fell to the ground and his forehead hit the cabinet in front of him, causing a big hole. Xiaoyuan, on the other hand, is a cautious child in the class. Sitting on the small chair behaves well, and lifting the small chair is also on the line, and will never try any dangerous behavior. He has never been injured due to his own carelessness in kindergarten. He knows a lot of things that his grandfather taught him about \”what can and cannot be done\”. He does what he can do in a disciplined manner, and he will never try what he can\’t do. The teacher analyzed that the difference in cognitive habits seems to be just a fall injury problem related to the different behaviors of each child, but the essence is that each child has different cognitive habits. In the above case, Niuer obviously has a cognitive habit of \”learning by doing\”. She is willing to try anything first, and then gain relevant experience or lessons from such attempts. Xiaoyuan, on the other hand, is just the opposite. He has a cognitive habit of \”learning by talking\”. He receives the complete information that his grandfather told him, and then acts on it without thinking or practicing the information at all. Therefore, Niuer often pays the price of injuries for her \”try\”, while Xiaoyuan can spend the kindergarten \”safe and sound\”. Case 4: Making friends In kindergarten, children have to interact with many children in the class every day. Some children always have a group of good friends around them, while some children have difficulty making friends. Xiaoyi has a carefree personality and can always talk about her many good friends. She can play tops with boys and stuffed toys with girls. The other children were playing games in a circle, and she was able to quickly squeeze in and join in with them. She would also quarrel with her good friends because of disagreements. Sometimes she could reconcile with her friends after a while, and sometimes she would ask the teacher to help mediate the quarrel. I often hear her say that she invited so and so to her home last weekend or she went to a friend\’s home to play. Because she has many friends, she is very happy every day in kindergarten. Xiaojia has a strong personality and always encounters many problems making friends. From time to time, children come to the teacher to complain: \”Teacher, Xiao Jia robbed my sticker and said that if I don\’t give it to her, she won\’t be my good friend.\” \”Teacher, we don\’t want to play with Xiao Jia. She Always occupying the little chef\’s hat and not giving him a turn to play with\”… Once, the mother of a child in the class called and asked ifIt was Xiaojia who \”blackmailed\” her own child: He said that he must buy Xiaojia a little love from \”Super Wings\”, otherwise he would not be good friends with her. Because few children in the class are willing to play with her all the time, she is often unhappy. The teacher analyzed that in terms of getting along with peers, she often spends time with her parents, and her parents always get along with Xiaoyi as friends. She has learned a lot of useful experiences in making friends from this way of getting along. When Xiao Jia gets along with her grandparents, her grandparents always pamper her and let her go. Even if she encounters conflicts with other children, her grandparents will help solve the problem and pass the responsibility to the other party. In the above case, Xiaoyi can advance and retreat appropriately in making friends, and can find ways to solve conflicts even if they encounter them, while Xiaojia always imposes her own ideas on other children, and when encountering conflicts, she thinks it is the other child\’s problem. Finally: Although children will show many differences when parents take care of their children and when the elderly take care of their children, the difference itself is the most important characteristic of preschool children. We can\’t ask adults to be perfect in everything they do, so why should we ask children to be the best in everything? Whether the children at home should be taken care of by the parents or the elderly depends on the actual situation of each family, and the best method is the one that suits them. However, parents take care of their children themselves and often exchange experiences with the elderly; when the elderly help take care of their children, they are grateful and calmly adopt the same parenting style. Our ultimate goal is the same: children grow up healthily and happily.