\”Kindness\” is not a weakness of character, but an armor to protect children

The so-called kindness means knowing how to consider others. When Xiao Fu was leaving English class, he said he was hungry. I opened his bag and found that the biscuits I brought for him were not eaten. I asked him why he didn\’t eat biscuits when he was hungry? He said that the biscuits were durian-flavored and other children found them smelly, so he endured them and did not eat them. On a rainy day, Mr. Unhappy was stuck in traffic and was late picking up Xiao Fu from kindergarten. Seeing all the children in the class being picked up one by one, Xiao Fuqi was so nervous that his whole body was shaking. As soon as there were footsteps, he would stand at the door of the classroom and look anxiously. But when the teacher was about to call me, he suddenly stopped him and said, \”Don\’t call mom. She\’s at work. Call dad.\” He was obviously worried to death, just because I said, \”Mom might be here.\” It’s a meeting, so don’t call mom casually.” He was willing to put himself in my shoes, think about me, and swallow all these worries and fears alone. I was touched and heartbroken that such a young child already knew how to consider others. Parents have to ask about cultivating children\’s \”kind thinking\” from an early age. So, what exactly should be done to cultivate a \”kind\” child? In fact, there is no need to teach, children are naturally kind. Today\’s children have not experienced turbulent and poor times. They have grown up in an era full of love and material abundance, so they are more compassionate, sympathize with the weak, and love others. For example, when walking on the road and seeing a beggar, a child will be a little unable to move forward. He will hold his mother back as slowly as possible. In fact, he wants his mother to donate some money to the beggar. It can be seen that the level of moral judgment of children today is much higher than that of our generation. What parents need to do is to carefully guard their children\’s kindness and firmly cultivate their children\’s ability to think kindly. How important is it to think kindly? Let me give you an example: when children are learning to walk, they will inevitably bump into tables, chairs and benches. If parents use the method of \”beating benches\” to \”revenge\” their children, they will treat the world The \”malice\” is conveyed to the child. Let your children learn to \”blame others when they are unhappy\”, and over time they will become intolerant and aggressive. But if when the child is hit, the parents change their approach, first go over to comfort the child, and then empathize with him and tell him that the small bench will hurt, then the child will be able to say \”The small table will also follow me if it is hit.\” It hurts just as much\” empathy is brought into the situation of getting along with other people around you. This point was also mentioned in the famous educational treatise \”Emile\” by the French thinker Rousseau. When talking about the formation of people\’s moral outlook, he believed that the perceptions received by people in the first moment, that is, when they are still in the period of innocence and purity. , will have an indelible impact on his life. If children are kind-hearted by nature, then what’s wrong with not being grateful? Some parents may be dissatisfied with saying that children are naturally kind. If you look through the news, you will find examples such as \”Student studying in Japan stabs mother at airport\” and \”81-year-old man abandoned by his children at US airport\”. Such cases are not uncommon. Then why, when you act like a cow and a horse, eating, drinking, and eating, the children are not only unappreciative, but they are all raised to be \”white-eyed wolves\”\”? On the surface of the incident, the children are ignorant and do not know how to be grateful. But parents have to reflect on whether they have given their children a chance to be grateful? I know that it is not easy for every parent, but I am even more afraid that the difficult real life will It brings pressure to children. So we are used to giving everything for our children, and over time, children are used to enjoying the efforts of their parents as a matter of course. In fact, if you cannot protect your children for a lifetime, it is better to let your children experience the joys and sorrows of life earlier. To achieve this specifically, It’s not difficult: don’t do everything your children can do instead of doing it instead, which will make them take everything for granted. Over time, it will be difficult for children to thank their parents for everything they have done. Don’t leave all the good things to your children. If a child is used to being given, it will be difficult for him to consider the feelings of others in his future life. A person who does not know how to care for others and his parents will have a hard time becoming a caring person in the future. Don’t let your child get what he or she wants. If things come too easily, they will not know how to cherish them. When a child gets what he needs through some hard work, he will know that he is happy under the love and protection of his parents. Lead by example and be a role model for your children. You want to teach For children to be grateful, they must first have a grateful heart, be filial to their parents, and be kind to friends and family. Consciously guide the children to say \”thank you\”. I am not happy that Mr. is doing better than me. When the prepared meals are served, he We will teach Xiao Fu to say \”thank you\”. If Xiao Fu helps to get things, we will also say thank you to him. Even the closest relatives and loved ones around us cannot just ask them to give without saying anything in return. Now Xiao Fu has delicious food If you have more fun, you will want to keep it for your father, and if you have more, you will want to share it with other people in the family. If a kind-hearted child goes, no one will bully him. If a child is too kind, will he become a \”baozi\”? , being bullied at school? There must be many parents who are worried about this. One mother told me worriedly that her daughter’s personality was too “baozi” and she never competed with others for anything delicious and fun. If others want it, they will give it to them. The mother is worried that her daughter will be bullied in the kindergarten because she is too kind. But through my observation, I feel that the mother\’s worry is actually completely unnecessary. That little girl is a little blessing that she always talks about. My favorite female classmate is NO. 1. Once I took Xiao Fuqi to attend her birthday party. I was shocked when I walked in. Almost all the children in the class came. And every child rushed to her when they first saw her. Go up and hug her warmly. Children may not be able to explain why they like someone, but if there is a little girl with a cheerful personality who is friendly to others and willing to share, who wouldn\’t like her? There are so many people who support her. Good friends, mothers naturally don’t have to worry about their children being bullied casually. The kind side may be the weakness of the child’s character, but the other side will also become the armor to protect the child. Kind people are the ones with the least friction with the world. It is easier to become a happy person; a child who is not harsh in mentality will have a more comfortable attitude when he grows up, his interpersonal relationships will be more harmonious, and he will receive more help and opportunities. As the philosopher Fromm said , loving neighbor is not a transcendenceIt is a phenomenon above people, but something that is inherent in people and bursts out from their hearts. It is people\’s own power. With this power, man connects himself to the world and makes the world truly his world. Therefore, no matter how the world changes, please try your best to keep your children kind, because no one will bully a kind child wherever he goes.