Learn to tell your parents about your sufferings

Our parents often tell us about the hardships they faced in raising us as adults. However, because Chinese people like to report good news but not bad news, and because we don’t want our parents to worry about us, most of us choose not to tell our parents or less about our hardships. As time goes by, our parents do not understand our situation very well, and communication becomes less. Secondly, they will think that you are living a good life. Especially if you have a stable job and a decent salary, and your parents have the habit of letting you support the family, they will continue to support the family and ask you for money. But in fact, although you are living a decent life, they often You are asked to support your family, even though you can afford it, but this will make you feel unfair, or in other words, they will give you too much family responsibilities, and they will ask you to solve any problems, which will put you under a lot of pressure. You are not aware of these pressures at the beginning, but over time, you will feel a lot of pressure, because they will look for you whenever something happens, thinking that you are capable and willing to contribute to the family, and they will look for someone other than you. However, you also have your own life, and you also hope that someone can share your pain with you, but your parents don\’t know your pain. When you feel pressure from your parents, you need to learn to tell your parents about your sufferings. Let them know that you have difficult times and don\’t blame you for everything. Also, maintain boundaries with your parents. Although we are a family, family members should help each other when there are things at home, but if you have to bear all the things, it will overwhelm you. Especially when they have higher demands and expectations from you, you can tell them directly that you can\’t do it. You need to figure out which responsibilities are yours and which are theirs. At the same time, you should tell your parents about the pressure and pain in your life, let them know that it is not easy for you, and don\’t rely too much on you or control you. If you are blessed, you should tell your parents; if you are bitter, you should also tell your parents. TIPS If you have troubles from emotions, work, life, interpersonal relationships, etc., you can make an appointment with me to provide you with psychological counseling services. See below for fees and contact information.