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Su Shi wrote in his poem: \”Viewed horizontally, there are ridges and peaks, with different heights near and far.\” The same is true for people. Different positions and different angles will cause deviations in what you see and think. Never judge others by yourself. Only by knowing how to change positions and understand each other can we turn hostility into friendship and resolve all conflicts in the world. 01The most difficult thing between people is understanding. People often say: \”Don\’t put your feet into other people\’s shoes.\” This is true. Many times we are unable to know the full picture of things, let alone judge the truth of things. Moreover, the environment is different and it is difficult to empathize with them; the experiences are different and it is difficult to fully understand them. If you always judge other people\’s lives and define other people\’s words and deeds from your own perspective, you will only make words a sharp sword that hurts others and yourself. In one class, there was a boy who went to school every day with an embroidered handkerchief in his hand. His classmates sneered at his behavior, and all kinds of rumors attacked him. Some people even said that he was a pervert and that he liked girls\’ things and even brought them to school to affect the school\’s atmosphere. After the teacher heard about this, he called the boy to ask the reason. The boy cried and told the teacher that his mother had just passed away and this was her only relic. Only by holding it in your hand can you feel that your mother is still around. Every time you miss your mother, you can use the handkerchief to see things and miss people. When we get along with others, we cannot know the stories behind them. If we evaluate and accuse them at will, it will only bring unexpected pain to others. \”Zhuangzi\” says: \”You are not a fish, how can you know the joy of a fish?\” You are not me, how can you understand my happiness and sadness? In life, what we see and hear is often only one-tenth of the reality. The ups and downs of life, the joys and sorrows of life, only the person involved knows best. Standing on your own side, you can only see the surface; standing on your own side, it will only increase conflicts. As the saying goes: \”What is honey to you is arsenic to others.\” If the burden is not on you, you will naturally be able to guide the country in peace; if the pain is not in your heart, you will naturally be able to talk and laugh with joy. The greatest malice of human nature is to use \”I think\” to evaluate others and accuse others. If you haven’t experienced other people’s experiences or experienced other people’s pain, if you can’t understand each other, please shut up and be kind. 02 Transposition is compassion that extends to others. The \”Tao Te Ching\” says: \”Good deeds have no traces; good words have no flaws.\” A truly kind person knows how to put himself in the shoes of others, think in other people\’s shoes, and can be considerate of others and protect others in subtle ways. The author @南歌 told such a story. Dad often mentioned an experience he had while eating in a restaurant. That day, an old uncle sat next to him. The old uncle finished his meal and was ready to take the bill to pay. But suddenly I found that I couldn\’t find the money. I felt all over my body and took out my pockets one by one, but couldn\’t find it. I started to feel anxious and uneasy. The restaurant owner saw this and came over: \”Uncle, what\’s wrong?\” The old uncle said at a loss: \”The 50 yuan in my pocket… is lost.\” After hearing this, the boss pretended to be surprised and said: \”There was a customer just now. I picked up 50 yuan and kept it here with me. You must have dropped it, so I\’ll give it back to you.\” Then he took out a 50 yuan note from his wallet and gave it to the old uncle. But in fact, thatZhang 50 yuan is the boss\’s own money. Every time my dad brings this up, he always praises the boss for a job well done. But I said nonchalantly: \”It\’s not just the 50 yuan thing. If I were the boss, I would have directly exempted him from the meal.\” Dad shook his head and said: \”The important thing is not the 50 yuan, but the 50 yuan thing.\” The price of a meal is because this boss knows how to leave people with dignity and take care of people\’s feelings.\” As the saying goes: \”Already aware of the vastness of the world, I still pity the green grass and trees.\” The more successful people are, the more they know how to cherish their hearts. Be compassionate and be kind to the people and things around you. This is compassion that extends to oneself and others, and it is the highest kind of kindness in the world. You know: No one’s life will be smooth sailing, and no one’s life will be calm. When others hit rock bottom, don\’t laugh at them, don\’t show off, and silently lend a helping hand. If you have kind thoughts in your heart and know how to change your position when doing things, your kindness will eventually be rewarded, and your sincerity will definitely reap the true love. 03Transposition is the most brilliant way to resolve conflicts. There is such a couple: the wife is cooking in the kitchen, and the husband is nagging next to her as soon as she comes home: The fire is too high, it will burn, put less oil, you can\’t cook like this… The wife can\’t bear it, and shouts \”You get out, I know how to do it, I don\’t need you to tell me what to do.\” After hearing this, the husband said calmly: \”I just want you to understand that when I was driving, you kept nagging me in the passenger seat, and I felt the same way. \”…\” Later, the couple no longer quarreled because the husband was driving and the wife was nagging. You are a parent and hope that your children will become dragons and phoenixes; you are a child and hope that your parents will be more patient; you are a husband and hope that your wife will be more caring; you are a wife and hope that your husband will be more tolerant. No one is wrong, they just stand in a different position. Most of the difficulties and conflicts that people face in this world come from not understanding and being considerate of each other. Being self-centered and always looking at others from your own position will lead to bad conclusions. It will only make you fall into a whirlpool of anxiety and irritability, making it difficult to extricate yourself. It will also aggravate existing problems and worsen conflicts. People who know how to put themselves in someone else\’s shoes put themselves in the other person\’s shoes and truly consider the other person\’s feelings. \”Zengguang Xianwen\” says: blame yourself with the same heart as you blame others, and forgive others with the same heart as you have forgiven yourself. In this world, everything is mutual, feelings are mutual, trust is mutual, and respect is mutual. When encountering problems, learn to change your perspective, be more understanding, tolerant, and considerate, and everything will naturally be solved. ▽The ancients said: \”He who knows others is wise, and he who knows himself is wise.\” Changing people\’s positions means recognizing oneself and understanding others. In this life, people will encounter various problems and there are many ways to solve them, but the most brilliant way is to change places. Think about everything from the other person\’s perspective, take a look at it, use your sincere and kind heart to be considerate and warm to others, and others will respond to you with the same kindness. No matter how difficult the road ahead is, it will eventually become clear. Give it a thumbs up, I hope you and I can understand how to switch positions, choose good deeds, treat life well, and be free and happy.