Let children take the initiative to ask questions [5 steps of demonstration + guidance + imitation]

Who is Daqi: A cute and handsome boy who has just turned 3 years old. With the hard work of his parents, he can already speak and his abilities in all aspects are steadily improving. Recently, Daqi\’s father has an issue. Although Daqi can speak, he still can\’t \”ask questions\” and responds passively in most of his words. \”Questioning\” is a key milestone in children\’s growth, which means that children can use language to initiate \”active communication\” and \”express emotions.\” Active expression is very important for children with language delay, especially children with spectrum disorders. Below, Daqi’s father and I will have some exchanges and guidance on how to guide children’s questioning abilities, and I hope it can help you on the same journey. Daqi’s father: My mother and I also know that asking questions is important, but we feel that the child’s ability has not been reached. Does asking questions require some prerequisite abilities? Teacher Tiantian: Yes, asking questions definitely requires some prerequisite skills, otherwise the children will simply imitate the words instead of truly forming cognition. The following are some relatively basic prerequisite abilities. If you have not achieved them, you must first possess these abilities and cannot develop by leaps and bounds. Dad Daqi: Children already have these four basic abilities, but some abilities are not enough: 1. Good parent-child attachment relationship: Currently, the relationship with the mother is very good, but the relationship with the father and grandparents is average, so the parent-child relationship is a one-dimensional relationship. During the transition period of the dyadic relationship, it is considered a 1.5 yuan relationship, so the parent-child relationship can only be considered good. 2. Able to understand some instructions: His ability to listen to instructions is actually pretty good so far. He can understand and execute most of the daily instructions, but sometimes he doesn’t cooperate when he is not willing. However, we can understand him in these situations. 3. Basic speaking ability: Currently, passive responding is quite good, and passive imitation is also good. I can imitate long paragraphs, and I can probably understand the meaning after imitating. But I don’t have the ability to speak actively. I can only speak out when the need is strong enough, such as: I want to drink grandma, give my mother a hug, etc. 4. Simple rule awareness: This ability is weak. In some cases, the person does not understand the rules. In other cases, the person does not follow the rules. There are many cases where the person does not understand the rules. The only awareness of rules should be when playing with him, such as chasing games. Therefore, the awareness of rules should be relatively weak. Teacher Tiantian: Regarding children, this prerequisite ability is considered to be average. It doesn’t matter if the awareness of rules is weak. They can be guided by “questioning”. Dad Daqi: Okay, then I am most eager to know the practical method. At present, I feel that I have no way to start, because every sentence I say is imitated by the child, which makes the guidance very chaotic. Teacher Tiantian: Well, the next step will definitely focus on how to do it. \”Questioning\” is actually to express needs and emotions, so it is more difficult to simply demonstrate one-on-one language. The children must first withdraw from the Q&A and become bystanders. Only children who truly understand the general process and meaning of this question can participate in the question and answer session. Let’s take a look at the following practical process: Dad Daqi: In this process, 1, 2, and 3 are the demonstration links for parents. This link feels like it will last a long time. Then the child may imitate, right? Teacher Tiantian: Yes, 1, 2, and 3 require great patience from parents. Of course, the premise is to use the correct concepts and methods, and use \”positive intervention\”” model can stimulate children’s true instinctive wishes, so as to speed up the process. Here are some things that parents need to pay attention to during the 123 process. By the way, we will also sort out the model and practical model of \”positive intervention\”: Dad Daqi: Yes, the concept has always been \”positive intervention\” in practice. I believe it It is a child\’s instinct, and we parents also need to look beyond the label to see the problem, but this process may be quite tiring, hey, there is no way. Also ask a weak question: how to ask a question, give some examples. Teacher Tiantian: This is primary school Chinese knowledge. However, I still sorted out the outline. This knowledge mainly depends on your self-study. 1. First review primary school Chinese. What are the interrogative sentences and see if they sound familiar: 1) True or false questions: Ask questions in the affirmative or negative, and the answer is only affirmative or negative. The answer can be verbal or non-verbal (such as nodding and shaking the head). . Sentence pattern: declarative sentence/word + interrogative mood/interrogative modal particles. Interrogative modal particles generally include:? Bar La Ya Wow etc. Example: Is this grandpa? Shall we go out and play? Dad goes to work? Do you want this? Shall we eat noodles today? Dad open it? 2) Specific question A/fixed answer: it must be a specific answer content, and cannot be answered in the affirmative or negative or non-verbally. Sentence pattern: Sentences dominated by interrogative words, such as \”…what…\” \”…why…\” \”…who…\” \”…which…\” \”…how many…\” etc. Example: Where did grandpa go? What\’s for lunch today? What is this? Why are blueberries blue? How old am I? B/Unfixed answer: The answer does not need to be fixed, and there may be multiple answer choices. Example: What happened to dad? Why is mom unhappy? 3) Choice question: Use a question tone to ask a choice, and the answer can only be one of the questions. Sentence pattern: Mostly use the tone of \”is… or…\”. For example: Should we take the bus or drive when we go out today? Is today’s morning education a thinking class or a painting class? 4) Positive and negative questions: Use a questioning tone to raise the choice of right or wrong, and the answer can only be one of right and wrong. Sentence pattern: Use \”is it…\” \”(is)…isn\’t\” \”whether…\” \”…is it not\” \”…no…\” \”…no\”. Example: Is that dad in the photo? Do we go to the supermarket? Is my brother still eating? 2. Then, I compiled some real-life question materials to make the questions richer. CCTV recommends over 500 high-scoring documentaries. After watching it, the child becomes addicted to self-discipline. Daqi’s father: Okay, thank you teacher. Now let’s start practicing. Everything is difficult at the beginning. I believe it won’t be long before the child can take the initiative to ask questions. . Teacher Tiantian: Yes, come on. Come on. Parents should wake up and step out of labels. Every child has his own pace of growth. Trust the child\’s instinct.