Li Meijin: Children are not confident, 5 ways to make children confident

The topic we are talking about today is: how to build children’s self-confidence. A fan’s mother complained to me because she found that her son always seemed not confident enough in school. At a parent-teacher meeting, the teacher said that her son rarely raised his hand to speak in class, and even when called upon to answer questions, his voice was so low that he could barely hear it. After returning home, her mother tried to communicate with Xiaoqiang and found that he was always worried that he said the wrong thing and was afraid of being laughed at by his classmates. His mother realized that she might have criticized him too harshly in the past, causing him to lack confidence in his abilities. Self-confidence is an important quality that allows children to live safely in the world. A confident child will be accompanied by sunshine wherever he goes. On the road to parenting, children\’s self-confidence is one of their most valuable assets. A confident child is more likely to succeed in school and life. The cultivation of self-confidence is easiest to build from family education. Professor Li Meijin, a well-known education expert, proposed: When faced with children who are not confident, parents can take five methods in life to help their children slowly regain their confidence. 1. Take every request of your child seriously. Taking it seriously is the cornerstone of your child\’s self-confidence. When children make requests to us, no matter how big or small, we should pay enough attention. For example, Xiao Ming had trouble assembling a complex Lego model and asked his father for help. If Dad can put down the work at hand and patiently accompany Xiao Ming to solve problems, Xiao Ming will feel valued and supported, and this experience will enhance his self-confidence. 2. Soliciting more opinions from children and allowing them to participate in decision-making is an effective way to cultivate their autonomy and self-confidence. For example, when planning a weekend trip, parents can provide their children with two options and let them choose. When Xiaohua\’s parents decided where to go, they gave Xiaohua two choices: go to the zoo or go to the Science and Technology Museum. Xiaohua chose the zoo, and his parents respected his decision. This sense of participation and respect made Xiaohua feel that her opinions were important, thus enhancing her self-confidence. 3. Don’t compare your children with others. Every child is unique. Comparisons will only hurt their self-confidence. Parents should avoid mentioning other people\’s strengths in front of their children, especially in comparison with their children\’s shortcomings. Xiaoli\’s parents never said in front of Xiaoli, \”Look how well Xiaoqiang does in math tests.\” Instead, they encouraged Xiaoli to develop according to her own interests and abilities. This kind of positive encouragement makes Xiaoli feel her own value, and her self-confidence naturally increases. 4. Let your children do what they can. Allowing children to participate in housework can not only cultivate their sense of responsibility, but also enhance their self-confidence. Xiaogang\’s parents often asked him to help with simple housework, such as watering flowers or organizing bookshelves. Although these are small things, Xiaogang completed the task through his own efforts and felt that he had contributed to the family, which undoubtedly enhanced his self-confidence. 5. Respect children’s opinions. Respecting children’s choices is an important step in cultivating their self-confidence. Whether buying toys or clothes, parents should respect their children\’s preferences. When Xiaofang\’s mother buys clothes for her, she always lets Xiaofang choose by herself. Even if Xiaofang\’s choices sometimes do not conform to her mother\’s aesthetics, her mother will respect her choice. This kind of respect makes littleFang felt that her opinions were valued and her self-confidence was improved. The great poet Li Bai once said, \”I am born with talents that will be useful.\” As parents, when we do our best to cultivate our children\’s talents, the most important thing we should cultivate is their confident and sunny character. In short, cultivating children\’s self-confidence is a long-term and meticulous process that requires the patience and wisdom of parents. Parents need to understand and practice these five methods shared by education expert Li Meijin to continuously increase their children’s confidence! As parents, when raising children, we cannot just wait for the flowers to bloom. Only by working silently can we hope for the future of our children.