A mother discussed a question with me: \”How to prevent children from being depressed?\” I first explained to the mother the difference between depression and depression. Simply put, depression is a mental state, while depression is is a disease. For children, they are at a critical stage of physical and mental development and their ability to adapt is relatively weak. When faced with problems such as study pressure, family conflicts, and interpersonal relationships, they will feel helpless and frustrated, resulting in depression. When children develop \”depressed mood\”, they most need their parents\’ understanding and support. However, some parents ignore or misinterpret their children\’s words and deeds, resulting in inadvertently saying words that hurt their children. Professor Li Meijin, a well-known education expert, pointed out that there are five things not to say to children, which will make their depression worse. This article will explore in detail why these five sentences should not be said to children, and provide some positive communication methods to help parents and children establish a healthier parent-child relationship. 1. \”You are just too lazy. Who doesn\’t have difficulty learning, but you have difficulty? This is all your excuse!\” This sentence may make children feel that their efforts are ignored, or even that their difficulties are not understood. . Learning is indeed a challenge, but every child learns in a different way and at a different pace. Parents should encourage their children instead of defining them with negative labels. Positive communication method: \”You have worked very hard. To accomplish something, sometimes you may need some outside support and help. How do you need us to help you?\” 2. \”Don\’t be too pretentious and be strong.\” \”You\’ve been so depressed all day long, and you\’ll be doomed if you continue like this!\” This sentence may make the child feel that their emotions are not accepted, or even think that their feelings are wrong. Emotions are a fundamental part of being human and should be respected and understood. Positive communication method: \”You are already very strong. If you are willing, we can be your listeners. It may be easier to speak out. If you need help, we will definitely support you.\” 3. \”Stop pretending, just You are usually very carefree, but I believe it is impossible for you to be depressed if others are depressed!\” This sentence may make children feel that their feelings are being denied, and they may even think that they have no right to feel depressed. Depression is a serious mental health problem that should not be taken lightly or ignored. Positive communication method: \”Your emotions are real. Thank you for trusting me and telling me. You may need to give yourself more time. I am willing to accompany you whenever you need it.\” 4. \”Don\’t So sensitive, your problems are all psychological, you have to learn to self-regulate!\” This sentence may make children feel that their problems are being underestimated, and they may even think that they should be able to control all emotions. Self-regulation is an important skill, but not all emotions can be resolved through self-regulation. Positive communication method: \”I know you are a little sensitive. It is not your fault. Each personality has two sides. Let\’s work out a way together to see how to make you feel better.\” 5. \”You need to control your own \”Emotions, don\’t be so emotional. What\’s there to be depressed about? What can\’t you get over?\” This sentence may make children feel.My emotions are suppressed, and I even think that I shouldn\’t have emotions. Being emotional is a natural human reaction and should be accepted and understood. Positive communication method: \”It\’s normal to have emotions. It takes time and practice to live with emotions. It doesn\’t matter. Let\’s take it slow. I\’ll be with you.\” Education expert Li Meijin shared the five things not to say to your children above. Parents We should pay attention to it and use more positive words to communicate with our children. Parents’ words have a profound impact on children’s mental health. By avoiding negative language and using positive communication styles, parents can help their children build self-confidence, learn healthy emotion management, and promote their overall development. Remember, love and understanding are the most precious gifts a child can have as he or she grows up.
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- Li Meijin: Don’t say these five sentences to your children, as they can easily lead to depression. How many sentences have you said?