In the journey of parenting, the art of communication is often overlooked, but it has the magic power to rewrite the parent-child relationship. Professor Li Meijin, an expert in criminal psychology, reminded the dreamer: \”If you change the way you talk to your children, the change is so big? It turns out that change really starts with communication!\” This is not only a simple reminder, but also a profound insight. , leading us to explore how to add a bright color to children\’s life pictures by adjusting communication strategies. đŻ Misunderstandings and Influences of CommunicationđŻ â Imperative dialogue* – \”You must…\”, \”You should…\” These words can easily trigger resistance and make children feel controlled rather than understood. â Negative evaluation â âWhy are you so stupid?â, âYou always donât do well.â Frequent negation will severely damage a childâs self-confidence and sense of self-worth. â Ignoring emotions â Ignoring childrenâs feelings and needs and focusing only on behavioral results, resulting in childrenâs emotional isolation and difficulty in establishing deep trust and connection. đ The miracle of changing the way of communicationđ1. Use affirmative language – \”I believe you can do it\”**, replace criticism with positive encouragement, and stimulate children\’s inner motivation. 2. Open-ended questions – \”What do you think about this?\”**, which encourages thinking and develops problem-solving skills while showing respect and trust for children. 3. Expression of empathy – \”You look angry, what happened?\”**, establishing emotional links through empathy, helping children learn to express and manage emotions. 4. I language – **\”I feel disappointed because…\”**, express feelings in the first person, reduce accusations, and promote understanding and communication between both parties. 5. Encourage trying and failure – \”It doesn\’t matter if you fail, what matters is what we learn.\”**, create a safe environment for exploration, and let children dare to challenge themselves. đ Changes in practiceđ â When parents begin to adopt these new communication skills, the family atmosphere gradually changes from tense to warm, the children change from passive acceptance to active sharing, and their self-confidence and sense of responsibility are significantly enhanced. â Deep connections based on mutual respect and understanding are established between parents and children, and children are more willing to seek help and guidance from their parents when they encounter difficulties. â Ultimately, this positive communication pattern becomes the cornerstone of childrenâs social skills, helping them to relate confidently and harmoniously to others in a wider social circle. Professor Li Meijinâs light of wisdom illuminates a new way of parent-child communication. Every gentle word is a kind of careful care for the child\’s soul. Remember, change is not far away, it starts with every conversation we have with our children. Communicate with your heart, love will grow in it, and miracles will happen naturally.
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