Li Meijin: These 6 signs of children suggest that parents raise them well, but 90% of parents ignore them

A mother and I discussed a topic: \”How to judge whether a child is well-raised?\” This fan mother told me: Why do I feel that other people\’s children are good in all aspects, and then look at my own son? Satisfied, naughty and not fond of studying, how can I raise him better? In fact, many parents believe that the criteria for raising a child well are: good grades, good manners, love to work, lively and cheerful, and well-behaved and sensible. But I want to say that that is a secular and incomplete judgment standard. A well-raised child may be naughty, cry, and make trouble. They never suppress their emotions, are full of curiosity about the world, have independent opinions, courage, and affirmation of themselves. Professor Li Meijin, a well-known education expert, pointed out: Good growth can be traced. If a child has these 6 signs, it means that his parents have raised him well. Next, let’s discuss these 6 signs in detail and show them with life examples. 1. Children like to talk nonsense. Children’s free expression at home is an important sign of their emotional health and social ability development. When children talk nonsense, it means they feel safe and accepted. For example, a child might share an anecdote from school or a running thought they had about a topic. This seemingly innocuous conversation actually exercises their language skills and logical thinking, and is also a way for them to connect with their families. Parents should allow and encourage their children to talk nonsense, share more, reason less, communicate more, torture less, have fun more, and push less. Xiaohua would excitedly tell his parents everything that happened at school after school every day, from a joke made by the teacher to the little actions of his classmates. Although these contents may be trivial, parents always listen patiently and sometimes join in discussions, which enhances Xiaohua\’s expression ability and self-confidence. 2. Cry if you want at home. Free expression of emotions is the key to the development of children\’s emotional intelligence. When children feel free to express sadness and frustration at home, it speaks to their trust and security in the home environment. By accepting their children\’s emotions, parents help them learn how to process and express them instead of suppressing them. Crying when a child wants to cry is an expression of emotion. The moment he is accepted, tolerated, and allowed, it will help the child form a healthier personality. Xiaoli made a mistake in an important dance competition and was very disappointed. When she returned home, her parents gave her a warm hug and encouraged her to express her feelings. Xiaoli felt relieved after crying and discussed with her parents how to learn from the experience. 3. Children have independent opinions. Cultivating children’s independent opinions means giving them the ability to choose and make decisions. Not only does this help them build their self-identity, it is also an important step in developing independence and responsibility. When children are able to make choices about small things, they will feel more confident about the big decisions in life. Parents should know how to \”delegate authority\” to their children, allow them to have their own opinions, encourage them to make choices, and help them establish \”self-sovereignty.\” When Xiaogang chose to join the school\’s science club or the sports team, he chose the science club after careful consideration. Although his parents preferred that he participate in sports activities, they respected Xiaogang\’s decision and supported him.He pursues his own interests. 4. Not afraid of being disappointed by others. When a child is not afraid of being disappointed by others, it shows that he has a growth mindset and can see failure as an opportunity to learn and grow. This mentality makes children more resilient and able to face challenges and criticism bravely. Parents must learn to be tolerant to their children and guide them to think positively, so that children can have the courage to \”not be afraid of disappointing others\” and acquire a growth mindset. Xiaoqiang failed to achieve the expected results in a math test, but he did not indulge in self-blame. Instead, he took the initiative to seek help from teachers and classmates, analyzed his mistakes, and formulated an improvement plan. His positive attitude earned him respect and support from those around him. 5. Have a rich range of emotions Emotional richness means that children are able to experience and express a wide range of emotions, including happiness, sadness, anger and love. This emotional diversity helps them better understand themselves and others and build deeper relationships. If parents output more emotional value, say less depressing words, and do less negative things, their children will naturally be deeply nourished and become bright, cheerful and energetic. Xiaofang\’s parents always encouraged her to express her feelings, both at home and with friends. Xiaofang learned how to identify and express her emotions, which made her more sincere and empathetic when interacting with others. 6. Children have love in their hearts When children have love in their hearts, they are more likely to show compassion, kindness, and generosity. This inner love is the cornerstone of their positive relationships with others and the foundation for them to become responsible and compassionate adults. Parents must create a loving growth environment for their children and shape their children\’s strong hearts so that they can hold joy and anger and gain strength. Xiao Li\’s family often participates in community service activities. By helping those in need, Xiao Li learned to care for others and experienced the joy of giving. This experience developed in him a sense of compassion and social responsibility. Through the content shared by Professor Li Meijin, we can see that the six signs of children\’s growth are not only behavioral manifestations, but also a comprehensive reflection of their emotional, social and psychological development. As the saying goes: Parents love their children and have profound plans for them. In short, children have a sound character, a rich spiritual world, are passionate about life, and are full of care for the world around them. These inner virtues are often more important and valuable than those dazzling achievements. If your child has these six signs, it means you are raising your child well and continue to encourage your child to grow. If your child does not have these signs, you can learn to cultivate them as soon as possible.