Li Meijin: With just one word, children can become super honest and self-disciplined

As a child grows up, self-discipline is an extremely valuable quality. A child with super self-discipline seems to have his own light. They show amazing qualities in life and study, paving a solid path for their future. But raising a self-disciplined child is easier said than done. It\’s past 11 o\’clock in the evening, and the children are still playing. You say to your child: \”Baby, it\’s time to go to bed soon, go and wash up quickly.\” Ten minutes pass, and the child remains indifferent. You are a little anxious: \”Hurry up and wash up. It\’s getting late. If you don\’t go, you won\’t be able to get up tomorrow morning.\” After another 10 minutes, the child is still wandering around the room. Your fire will come up immediately. \”I\’ve counted it a few times. Do you have ears? What time is it time to go wash up?\” After yelling, the child went to wash up obediently, so you came to the conclusion: this child just has to yell, and if you don\’t yell, it won\’t work. . In fact, we can make our children obedient without yelling or yelling. Today we learn from Professor Li Meijin and teach children to become self-disciplined with just one sentence. This sentence is: \”I know + repeat what the child said + but… it\’s time.\” Now let\’s try to use this sentence. You say to your child: \”Baby, it\’s time to go to bed. Do you want to wash your face or brush your teeth first?\” At this time, the child will say: \”I don\’t want to wash my face or brush my teeth.\” We say: \”I know you don\’t want to wash your face now, so I don’t want to brush my teeth, but it’s very late. We need to wash our faces and brush our teeth now.” The child said, “I won’t sleep, I just want to play.” We said, “I know you want to play now, but we don’t. We have to wash up and go to bed soon.” Some children will be particularly angry: “Don’t repeat what I said.” At this time, we still calmly say to the child: “I know you don’t want mom to repeat what you said. But now we have to wash up and go to bed.\” This is how we actually practice the \”gentle but firm\” education. We are emotionally stable and firmly tell our children the rules with gentle words. Some parents may say that this is of no use to me. I can’t stand it until I yell after three sentences. I can’t treat him so gently over and over again. Let me tell you, if you can\’t be gentle, don\’t blame your child for closing the door to communication or yelling at you. It’s easy to solve the problem, but it comes at the cost of destroying the closest parent-child relationship. Are you willing? You need to understand: Yelling or punishment will not promote self-discipline in children, but relationships will. How to cultivate children\’s self-discipline 1. Create a good growth environment for children. Family atmosphere is very important, and parents should lead by example and show self-discipline. If parents themselves cannot get up on time and keep their promises, how can they ask their children to do the same? In daily life, parents can set some rules with their children, such as eating on time, sleeping on time, completing homework, etc., and strictly abide by them. 2. Help children establish good time management concepts. Give your children a small alarm clock and let them learn to arrange their own time, starting with simple things. Such as what time to get up every day, what time to do homework, etc. As children grow older, time management gradually becomes more difficult. 3. Give children appropriate autonomy and choice. When children canWhen they are able to decide something autonomously, they will be more responsible and motivated. For example, let your children choose their favorite interest classes, arrange weekend activities, etc. But while giving autonomy, boundaries and rules must also be set to ensure that children\’s choices are within a reasonable range. 4. Encouragement and affirmation are also important ways to cultivate children\’s self-discipline. When children exhibit self-disciplined behavior, give them timely praise and rewards so that they can feel the sense of accomplishment that self-discipline brings. Even if the child took the initiative to complete the homework today, or restrained the desire to eat snacks, he must be affirmed. A child\’s growth is a gradual process, and there may be repetitions and setbacks. Parents should not be impatient and scolding, but should communicate with their children in a calm manner, help them analyze problems and find ways to improve. Finally, light up \”Like\”, so that our children can become self-disciplined, confident, and self-improving people, and fly high in the future.