Liang Qichao: Your upbringing is the best starting line for your children

\”Your upbringing determines the quality of your child.\” The seedlings that break the ground need fertile soil to give them nutrients; the rushing rivers need melted snow to give them strength. A child is a mirror that reflects the parents themselves. Parental upbringing determines the direction of children\’s growth. \”It\’s the father\’s fault if a son doesn\’t teach.\” Behind every naughty child stands a pair of parents who lack education. Parental education is the starting line for children. Don’t let your children lose at the starting line. Teaching by example is more important than words. Parents are their children’s first teachers. Every parent knows the importance of teaching by words and deeds. But have you really done what you preach and do? Many parents keep \”teaching by words and deeds\” in mind, but their children\’s development is not satisfactory. This is because although parents remember \”teaching by words and deeds\”, to a large extent, they pay more attention to words. Parents explain the truth to their children in a clear and concise manner, buy them a variety of books, teach their children to memorize the Three Character Classic, and send their children to moral education classes. These educational measures are not ineffective, but we must know that it is better to do it once than to say it a thousand times. Especially when children are young, children are more willing to imitate what they see with their eyes than to hear information received through hearing. This reflects the importance of teaching by example. Parents want their children to recite the \”Book of Filial Piety\” and teach their children the virtues of respecting the elderly and loving the young, but they do not respect the elderly. In this case, the children will also have conflicts in their hearts. After the conflict, they will become more psychologically inclined to their parents. Start to learn from others. Many parents want their children to be civilized, but they themselves swear and litter in front of their children. We are all talking about civilized travel now, but many young people write graffiti when traveling, making them uneducated? It\’s not that their parents didn\’t set a good example for them when they were young and didn\’t stop their behavior. Everyone knows that Liang Qichao was a loving father and all the children he educated were outstanding. Liang Qichao paid special attention to the role of personal teaching in educating his children. In order to create a happy and loving family atmosphere, he gave his children nicknames and wrote letters to them. Education is a kind of outlook on life. Education is not about material things, money, or academic qualifications. Many people have a lot of money but talk dirty, and some people have a lot of education but are looked down upon by others. Education is an attitude towards life and a positive outlook on life. Although many poor students come from poor backgrounds, they are generous in everything they do. This is because their parents are well-educated and convey the correct direction in life to them. \”You will reap melons if you sow melons, and you will reap beans if you sow beans.\” The subtle and subtle influence is a huge force. If parents are well-educated, their children will have good karma and good results in their future growth. If parents are uneducated, their children will only encounter obstacles in life. If parents are well-educated, they are emotionally stable. Emotions are part of upbringing. If parents are emotionally stable and have a gentle attitude, their children will have a peaceful personality when they grow up. If their parents are emotionally unstable, their children\’s psychology will also be affected, and they may become extreme when things happen to them when they grow up. Parental education is the starting line for children. In order to keep their children at the starting line, parents must control their emotions when encountering problems in family life and avoid shouting to solve problems. Of course, there must be no domestic violence. The child hasWhen you make a mistake, don\’t criticize harshly. It\’s better to help your children analyze it together and let them realize their mistakes. If parents are well-educated, they have foresight. Parents must have a big picture so that their children can grow better. Parents who have a narrow vision and a small structure will naturally not cultivate children who have a big mind or a big picture. Such children usually follow the rules and are timid. Parents are well-educated and optimistic. It is said that parents are the harbor for their children. Only when parents are optimistic and positive can children be influenced by them and develop a positive and sunny character. If parents always complain and live in a negative way, the children will always live in this environment, and after receiving this kind of information, they will also become negative and have low self-esteem. In Liang Qichao\’s letters to his children, there are never dark clouds, as if the sky is always clear. In family life, Liang Qichao always spoke gently to the children, and when the children needed help, he was able to make long-term suggestions. Every child is like a blank piece of paper. Parents are the first to put pen to paper, and this stroke also determines the final pattern. Parental education is the starting line for children. If they want their children to walk steadily and run far, parents must start from themselves. Parental upbringing is the starting line for children. Only after having \”adult\” parents can we have \”adult\” children.