[Life and Death] The documentary hurts countless people: After having children, what scares me most is not death, but…

A few days ago, at the \”Qi Pa Conference\”, the guest speaker Qin Bo told a documentary story of \”life and death\”, which made countless viewers cry until they couldn\’t help themselves. During the filming of the documentary \”Human World\”, there was a 26-year-old young mother Zhang Lijun. She was diagnosed with terminal pancreatic cancer, but at that time she already had a 5-month-old child in her belly. Facing the pinch of death and the desire for new life, as a first-time mother, she was already dealt a bad hand. And when her life came to an end, what she was most worried about was, what if the child grows up and has no memory of his mother? She doesn\’t want her child to be deprived of maternal love. So, even though her body was extremely weak, she still persisted and prepared an 18th birthday gift for her child: she recorded what she said to her child for 18 years. Later, I went to watch this \”Life and Death\” documentary. I watched it three times and cried three times. There is a sentence in it that deeply hurts me: I really want to hear my baby call me mommy. This is just the simplest and most common thing for us, but for Zhang Lijun at this time, it has become a luxury. She was once desperate and didn\’t know how to face death? But later, she asked herself, how can she be alive? When facing a child, \”let her see this beautiful world.\” Some people say that you should never try to test human nature, because it is vulnerable. But in the face of maternal love, no test can prevail. After repeatedly confirming that cancer would not be transmitted to her children, Zhang Lijun decided that she must keep the Xiao Long Bao (her child\’s nickname). She said, \”My life has ended, and I should bring my child into this world to see.\” If the tumors in her body were treated externally, the xiaolongbao would probably not be saved. For her, induction of labor was the best option, but she responded firmly: \”If I were asked to induce labor, I would jump in.\” If the baby is given birth before 30 weeks, the survival rate of Xiaolongbao is very low. As long as she stays in the mother\’s body for one more day, it is better than ten days outside the body. But this also means that she will miss the best time for cancer surgery. It wasn\’t until her body reached the limit of endurance that she finally accepted the cesarean delivery of her child. A 7-month-old xiaolongbao weighs just over 2 pounds. Due to unstable breathing, a tube was inserted into his throat for resuscitation as soon as he left the mother\’s body. Seeing this, my heart was pounding. Although reality is cruel, there is always light. Xiao Long Bao survives. The nurse held the child in her arms, pressed her face against Zhang Lijun\’s, and kissed her. At that moment, I cried until I couldn\’t help myself. There is a shadow of every mother here: when we first saw this little person who was created by ourselves with all our lives, we had so many mixed feelings in our hearts. Every mother and son are close friends of life and death. Everyone understands the principle of protecting adults, but only mothers will always instinctively fight for the chance of life for their children. A while ago, the article “Is the guardian still a child? 53-year-old pregnant woman hangs on by a thread with severe influenza” was all over the internet on social media. Different conditions, but the mother\’s choice of life and death is surprisingly similar. Meilin, a 53-year-old pregnant woman from Hangzhou, Zhejiang, was admitted to the ICU due to severe influenza. An adult or a child? This has become a painful decision for doctors and family members. (Meilin’s lungs were almost “white lungs” and her condition was critical.) But at the last moment before her tracheal intubation,She was breathing so hard that she couldn\’t speak coherently. But her firm will was clear: \”Keep this child.\” Due to severe pneumonia, she was injected with analgesics and fell into a coma. But what is touching is that this 53-year-old pregnant woman, as long as she has a little bit of residual consciousness, she will use all her strength to reach towards the abdomen to confirm that the child is still alive. When Mei Lin\’s family unanimously decided to save the adult, Mei Lin was determined to save the child. On the day of the cesarean section, Mei Lin suddenly woke up in a daze and began to become restless and distorted. The nurse was about to increase the dose of sedatives. At this time, the ICU doctor said to her: \”The baby has been delivered safely.\” Meilin stopped immediately, and her whole body relaxed and became quiet. Life is so magical, \”Everything is fine with him\” has become the most reassuring word for Mei Lin. Whenever she becomes confused, this sentence can calm her down. Even ICU doctors who are used to seeing life and death were moved and shocked when they saw such instinctive maternal love. Behind the new life is the courage of everyone who never gives up to challenge their destiny. In the face of my lover, \”The bond between life and death is broad, and I said to Zicheng\” I accept you as my wife. From today on, no matter good or bad, high or low, sick or healthy, I will love you and cherish you until death. Lijun’s husband Han Shijun fulfilled his wedding promise with actions. When Zhang Lijun was diagnosed with terminal pancreatic cancer, her husband Han Shijun suffered an emotional breakdown. \”The word \”Happy\” has not been wiped off in my house, and I haven\’t lived in the new house for long…\” When he said this, he cried like a child… When it was diagnosed that Lijun\’s cancer was inoperable, he cried so much His eyes were red with tears, and he blamed himself for being useless and unable to save his wife. He was on the verge of collapse. Han Shijun is not good at words, but if she really loves someone, even if she covers her mouth, her eyes will still come out. After Lijun fell ill, he stayed by her side day and night, taking care of her every step of the way. He used his actions to explain what is meant by a friend in need is a friend indeed. When she learned that she could only rely on chemotherapy to survive, she, who had always been optimistic, suddenly couldn\’t help crying: \”Is there still a chance to grow hair again?\” He quickly said \”yes\”, panicking but calmly comforting his wife, Encourage her, cheer her up, kiss her. In front of his wife, he insisted on being strong and turned the disease into a science fiction film and fairy tale to give his wife confidence. But where his wife couldn\’t see him, he could no longer hold back his tears and choked up several times. \”My heart hurts so much.\” After Lijun received chemotherapy, all her hair fell out, so he also shaved his head. He felt her pain, and he understood her pain. Maybe they can\’t \”hold his hand and grow old together with him.\” But she is still grateful to have such a time to walk with him. She said, my husband is only 27 years old. I can\’t live alone like this for the rest of his life. He needs someone to accompany him when he gets old. \”Thank you for staying with me through thick and thin…\” Thousands of words are buried deep in my heart. Qin Bo said that when we were filming this scene, our cameraman couldn\’t control himself and cried uncontrollably. Your persistence has given me the strongest courage to face death. Facing life and death, \”Because of you, I have become the person most afraid of death.\” I think of Liao Yimei\’s words, which hit my heart: Because of you, I am afraid of death. For the first time in my life, I have a fear of death.. Not because of greed, but because of care. Medicine is still not a panacea and cannot cure all diseases. Therefore, life is accidental and death is inevitable. Life is a one-way line, approaching the end. Reluctance, anger, struggle, and fear are the most direct feelings for everyone, because we have no time to think about the meaning of death. When asking what death is, it is better to first think about what counts as living. Zhang Lijun gave this answer: You have to be grateful for all the beauty in the world. You should be grateful to all the people who are kind to you, and to all the plants and trees you see. This world is so beautiful that I can’t bear to let it go, so I will try my best to live on. Birth and death are a cycle. The birth of Xiaolongbao made Lijun think more about life. At the full moon, Lijun could finally go see Xiaolongbao. This was the first time she saw her child, and she was so excited. Seeing Xiao Long Bao crying, she sang \”Baby\” softly across the incubator: My baby baby, give you a little sweetness so that you can sleep well tonight; my baby baby, I will tease you. Eyes and eyebrows make you like this world… Li Jun has long since burst into tears… I used to live so unscrupulously, but because of you, at this moment, I have become the person most afraid of death in the world. During the days when she was tortured by cancer, Zhang Lijun\’s mentality was positive and optimistic. After Xiao Long Bao returned home, he originally thought that he could enjoy an uninterrupted reunion in his last days. However, Lijun\’s condition suddenly worsened: not only did he develop lumps in other parts of his body, but he also became blind in one eye. In response, Lijun said with a smile, \”It\’s good to have at least one eye.\” \”I think I should cherish all the abilities I have. Now I have to lower all my requirements and be content.\” It turns out that many of the things we take for granted Ordinary is the happiness that others can only seek when they are on the verge of life and death. She said that before I got sick, I always felt that the world was so big that I couldn\’t see it all. But after I got sick, I always felt that the world was so small, and my world was filled with people I loved. When life enters the countdown, I finally find that nothing is more important than the lover around me. Because you are here, I feel very happy to be a mother. Someone asked: Since it is a bad hand, why continue to play it? She said, because you have too many bad cards, it doesn\’t matter whether you win or lose… What you carry in life is not just your own life, but the greater part of its significance lies in the impact it leaves on the people you love in the world. Some people say that every journey in this world has a mission. Even a newborn baby will help its parents understand the love and responsibility of being a parent. So, no matter how bad the hand is, you have to play it for the sake of loving you and the one you love. Postscript: If life is fragile, then the side she showed us is strong enough. But the miracle didn\’t happen, God still took her away. A few months ago, Xiao Long Bao was about to call her mother, but Zhang Lijun could no longer hear her. Love the people you love around you, because we don’t know which one will come first, tomorrow or the accident!