Life is a gamble, and parents are the ones who place the bets for their children.

In addition to watching \”Story of Yanxi Palace\” this summer, I spent the rest of the time watching documentaries or TV series based on true stories: \”The Story of Sleep\”, \”Stay with Mom\”, \”Mirror\”, \”Yours\” \”The Child Is Not Your Child\”… The documentary I want to recommend to you today has been hailed by the industry as \”the best documentary on school subjects so far.\” This film is about: In a California high school in the United States, a group of teachers who dared to break the rules turned the school that only focused on test scores into a museum that children enjoyed. This documentary has a very \”attractive\” name – Most Likely to Succeed. From the trailer, it can be seen that this documentary not only reviews a brief history of education over a century, but also challenges the current education system. It also records the secrets of High Tech High, a school founded in San Diego, California, USA. This is a school with no subject-specific teaching, no textbooks, no semester exams, and no special sources of students (public free schools, random enrollment). However, the college admission rate reaches 98%, and the average score is 10% higher than that of the region. The story goes back 17 years ago. At that time, a special school, High Tech High, appeared in San Diego, California, USA. This school abandoned California\’s curriculum standards, gave up the subject-based teaching system for examination purposes, jumped out of the limitation of hiring only professional teachers from the Normal College, and completely adopted project-based interdisciplinary learning. Parents sent their children here full of doubts and full of hopes to break through the 124-year-old exam-oriented education system. With various complicated emotions, they watched their children finally successfully enter college. More than 2 years ago, what happened in this school was made into a documentary. When I saw the English trailer, I was very excited because I felt that the future of my children and my children\’s children might be saved. Maybe one day, our children no longer need to worry about scores all day long and lose the original joy of seeking knowledge. Maybe one day, our children can study like they are on a jungle adventure instead of holding books and chewing. Maybe one day, Parents no longer have to worry about their children not liking school, and can talk to their children about many interesting things that happened in school… Is it possible to achieve equality for everyone in the face of education? High Tech High is a public charter school. Students in the school are admitted for free. The government will subsidize the school. Because the school has a limited number of places and a large number of applicants, the school\’s admission method is to randomly select students based on the gender ratio. Ensure fair educational opportunities. The result of this admission method is that students\’ family economic backgrounds vary greatly, and their previous academic performance varies greatly. Some children may not even know a few words when they enter high school. But even in the face of an uneven student body, the school still allows us to see a group of children who are \”extremely likely to succeed.\” This fully illustrates the greatness of this school. How do you define success? High Tech High used two data to illustrate thatWhat these children are very likely to succeed: The college admission rate of students is 98%, and the average score of students is 10% higher than the regional average. These two data make me feel a little helpless and a little ironic. Because these two data are so \”traditional\”, they are so traditional that they are incompatible with the characteristics of this school. Since these two data cannot define success or failure, why should they be emphasized in the film? ——I think this may be a reassurance for parents who are worried that they will not get good scores if they play. Parents are worried that if their children play every day, they will have poor grades and not be able to go to college. Therefore, High Tech High must first change the minds of parents and let them see that even in such a school with no teaching materials and In a school where there are no exams or bells, children can still get good grades and enter college. More important than success is that there are no exams in Adult High Tech High. No exams means no report cards to report to parents. What used to be an annual final exam has become an annual exhibition. The content of the exhibition is the project carried out by the children, which may be a book, a play, or a model airplane. Or a mechanical device invented by themselves. This exhibition is open to people in the whole community, and children can get recognition from more people besides teachers and parents. The most touching scenes are the two scenes in the documentary: a girl who went from being too shy to speak to becoming a theater director within a year; a boy who worked all night to complete the task but failed in the end; after the failure, he reflected and set out again and succeeded. These stories We can see the true growth of children, which is spontaneous, pure, and non-utilitarian. Do you have the courage and confidence to stand on your child\’s side? Tomorrow is my boy\’s registration day before school starts. As a parent of a primary school student in a public elementary school, although I don’t think I have any anxiety, objectively speaking, I am not completely confident in the face of the influence of the general environment. For example: Do all members of the family hold the same view as me, that learning is more than just doing homework, getting good grades, and getting into a good university? Another example: When I get home from get off work at 19 o\’clock every day, how can I effectively accompany and let go appropriately within 2 hours? In response to the above questions, the responses I receive are often like this: \”When your child goes to elementary school, you must be responsible for keeping an eye on the homework, and you must check the homework.\” \”If the child cannot read well, the piano will not work.\” Okay, no matter what other interests you have, stop them all.\” \”It\’s your responsibility to study your child. If you can\’t manage it well, work overtime and make money for me. If you make money, hire a tutor to teach you.\” Such a dialogue It\’s all too familiar and jarring. Just like what was described in the original book \”Your Child Is Not Your Child\” that I was reading recently: the same education method may create a successful model in the eyes of the world, or it may make a child\’s talent shine through, but No one cares about the latter situation. People in the world often don’t like examples of failure and only want to see educational myths. The targets of their struggle are oftenClose relatives, especially mothers. The mothers in these stories are hateful and pitiful. The hateful thing is that they are all executioners in the name of love. What is pitiful is that most of them have experienced various requests for instructions, neglect, abandonment, violence, and coercion. Carrying these pains, they are also given the task of guarding children, raising children, and making decisions. All responsibilities for the child’s future. Many mothers in the book are always worried that if they fail to improve their children\’s grades, they will fall into the trap of being condemned, indifferent, scorned and abandoned by their husbands and parents-in-law. After working as a kindergarten teacher, trainer, study abroad tutor, and education writer, I came to the conclusion that successful education is based on a sound personality, not on utilitarian scores. We are unable to spend ten years changing the 100-year-old education model, we are unable to choose schools, and there is no need to let our children live according to our life trajectory. We just need to clearly realize that when the external environment cannot be changed, whether a child is likely to gain a foothold in the future depends to a large extent on whether the parents truly love themselves, understand their parents, treat their partners well, Respect your children\’s choices.