Little money! Is this the reason why you don’t want children?

My cousin complained to me on WeChat, saying that she and her husband have been having troubles recently and that they have serious disagreements about having children. \”Now the monthly mortgage payment is 2,500, and the deposit is only more than 20,000. If I have a child, I will have to quit my job and lose my income. And his current monthly salary is only 6,000. Can a family of three only rely on the 3,500 per month to survive?\” She roughly calculated the expenses required for the child from birth to adulthood. Even if the working class raised the child like a pig, without three or four hundred thousand, it would definitely not grow up. Today’s children are all raised with money. In a word: If you can afford it, you can’t afford it. It costs too much to raise a child now, and my cousin will have to wait a few years until she turns 30 before having a child. Her husband\’s opinion is that he doesn\’t want to be a DINK, so it\’s better to do it sooner rather than later. While both parents are still in good health, they can still help take care of the children. Most importantly, both parents are urging them to have children. My cousin came to ask for my opinion. I have always been a practitioner of late marriage and late childbearing, and I thought I would support her. Unexpectedly, my opinion was the same as that of my brother-in-law: you have to have children as early as possible. Lack of money is not the reason. Wait until conditions are good? What does it mean if the conditions are good, enough to save 100,000, 200,000, or 1 million? When you have saved enough 500,000 or 1 million, do you think you will have a child if you want one? Have you watched the TV series \”What Happens to Married People\”? Lin Jun, a career elite, initially insisted on having children after the age of 40. As a result, his father-in-law passed away with regret because he did not see his grandson. Husband Tang Peng gave him an ultimatum: have children or get divorced. Lin Jun agreed to have a baby, but she was too old and suffered an ectopic pregnancy and miscarriage. Later, when she was eager to have a child, the doctor ruled her infertile. Children are not like making money. You can get it whenever you work hard. I also have a very good friend who got pregnant twice during the two years he just graduated from college ten years ago. Because he had no money, he ultimately chose to have an abortion. In recent years, economic conditions have improved, and houses have been bought one after another, but the children have never arrived as expected. In the past few years, the couple\’s life has focused entirely on medical treatment. They have done several in vitro fertilizations, but they all failed. In the end, I had to adopt someone else\’s child. More money or less money is just a criterion in your mind. It doesn\’t matter how much money you have. There are ways to raise a child if you are poor or if you are rich. Don\’t let lack of money become the main reason why you don\’t want children. My friend Xiaoxin has been struggling with whether to have a second child for a few years. Her friends have become mothers of two children one after another, and she has also had this idea, but her husband always says that the burden is too heavy and the pressure is too great to have another child and that she cannot afford to raise it. Five-year-old Dabao often talked about wanting a younger brother or sister to play with her, and finally her husband agreed. It didn\’t take long for her to get pregnant as she wished. When it came to perinatal care, Xiaoxin chose the hospital closest to her home, which was very convenient. Later, Xiaoxin also gave birth in this hospital. She had a normal delivery and was hospitalized for four days. The total cost did not exceed 3,000 yuan. After being discharged from the hospital, Xiaoxin paid great attention to nutrition and insisted on breastfeeding. If there is no breast milk, milk powder will be a big expense. Besides, breastfeeding is not only good for the child, but also good for the mother\’s body. DiapersXiaoxin only uses this kind of baby products when going out and at night in winter. She usually uses diapers at home. I save on milk powder and can only use a few diapers in a month. These two items save a lot of money. Like the clothes worn by children, Erbao can just wear Dabao\’s clothes. They are all girls anyway. There are also some clothes worn by other children given by relatives and friends. Erbao is now almost three years old, so he basically doesn\’t buy them. Got some new clothes. Things like strollers and walkers are all used by Dabao before. Saved too. When it comes to vaccinations, Xiaoxin only takes the basic free vaccines, such as the many self-paid vaccines. She consulted a friend who is a doctor and only gave Erbao a few common self-paid vaccines, including the expensive self-paid vaccines recommended by the doctor. Most refused. Because of my experience in raising children, now when my child has a headache and a fever, I will no longer be as panicked as before. When my child catches a cold, I can now cope with it. After all, the second child has not spent much money in total since he was born until he is almost three years old! A friend has opened a new confinement club. It has not yet opened and only accepts reservations. The monthly fee is 38,000 yuan. Do we feel that the price is too high, but she said that compared to her peers, it is extremely low, and there are others with more than 50,000? Some mothers spend more than 50,000 yuan in five-star confinement clubs, but they may not suffer from confinement diseases, or they may not be able to ensure that the mother has enough breast milk to feed her baby if she eats 6 confinement meals a day. It is the same for ordinary people to find a confinement nanny or mother-in-law to take care of them. Just like many women abroad, they do not do confinement at all. The same goes for when we raise children. If we are rich, we will raise them richly, and if we are poor, we will raise them poor. If we don’t want children or have children later because we have less money, that is completely unnecessary. Now when friends meet, do they want a second child? It has become a commonly used greeting: \”No, I can\’t afford it.\” This sentence has the highest response rate. Do you want a second child? Are you planning to have children now? Money is never the first factor. There are many poor people who want two treasures and three treasures, and there are also many rich people who only want one. As parents, we all want to give our children the best growing environment, the best material enjoyment, and even more, the best education. But all of this is inseparable from money. High housing prices, high commodity prices, and expensive schooling fees have discouraged many young couples who want to have children. Even if you live in a rented house and have a father and mother who love your children, even if you buy a cheap stroller, use free diapers, and wear second-hand clothes worn by the children of relatives and friends, your children will still be healthy and happy. Growing up on the ground. If you feel you have wronged your child, it is only your own grievance, not the child\’s. In fact, if you budget carefully and don’t compare, don’t think about buying the best and most expensive thing for your child. Raising a child won’t cost much at all! Having children gives us more motivation to fight. Whether you have children or not has nothing to do with whether you are rich or poor. Having little money and not being able to support him is just an excuse. Even with little money, you can still afford to raise your children!