Long live \”bad moms\”

Curing procrastination? It would be great to have a baby! Five alarms can\’t wake you up from bed? It would be great to have a baby! Do you want to be a literary and artistic young man without touching the spring water every day? It would be great to have a baby! Are you afraid of getting fat and have to count the grains of rice when you eat it? It would be great to have a baby! When I was a child, I had great respect for the virtues of \”mother\” such as nobility, selflessness, gentleness, and dedication. I never expected that I would discover the role of \”mother\” and \”maternal love\” only after I became a mother. The word actually kidnapped countless young girls who were forced to grow up overnight by their babies\’ cries. Being a mother means being strong, but in my opinion, I am exhausted. Under the world\’s standards of judgment, a mother means giving unconditionally and willingly. She should smile and be grateful whenever she mentions her children. At the same time, she should have ninety-nine and eighty-one unique skills, from being a cow to making complementary food, from sleeping with her to being with her. Play, from bathing and changing clothes to spiritual baptism… Creatures like Mother King Kong must have a plan in mind, be sure of victory, and strive for life. However, which mother was not a single girl in the past. The girl was pregnant, spoiled, rebellious, lost her temper, and bought bags and bags. She should have been in line with the emotions of a \”female personality\”. Once she is labeled as \”mom\” Label, the colorful girls immediately retreated, and a batch of uniformly standardized \”moms\” produced on the assembly line were born. What’s even more maddening is that as mothers, we unknowingly accept the secular standard of giving mothers 100 points or zero points. This perverted self-punishment starts as soon as the baby is born: breast milk is not enough for the baby. , I am such a useless mother! My baby\’s height and weight are still a bit lower than the kid next door who is half a month younger than her. I am such an irresponsible mother! The baby would crawl around the house and hit his head. Oh my God, I allowed this to happen. I was such a bad mother! At the work meeting, the leader made a long speech about not daring to leave early in order to make money. As a result, when I arrived at the kindergarten, the teacher told me that I was not careful enough. I was really a bad mother who was useless and irresponsible! There happens to be a movie called \”Bad Moms\”. Amy, played by Mila Kunis, is just like you and me, trying her best to be the 100% mom that people say she is. Amy\’s day is like this: preparing breakfast for her two children, driving her car to send her children to school, rushing to the company to start her day as a white-collar dog, working in front of the computer after lunch, driving her car after work to pick up her children from school and sending them to their respective places. After attending extracurricular interest classes, I go home to prepare dinner for the whole family and help my children complete some of their homework. Throughout the whole process, my father was in a state of facial paralysis + Ge You paralysis. I have seen a joke that the so-called father\’s love is as stable as a mountain, no matter how chaotic the family is (playing games, playing mobile phones, watching TV, drinking coffee, eating potato chips, petting cats and dogs…) Even like Ai in the movie Mi’s husband can also chat and pick up girls online! Kiki, played by Kristen Bell, is a stay-at-home mother of four children. She focuses all her energy on her children and husband. She lives a completely selfless life and deeply believes that this is what a good mother should be. Finally, she had some free time to have afternoon tea with her friends, and by sheer luck, she bumped into her husband. Her husband asked, \”Why are you here?\” Qiqi panicked. Quick, quick, quick, the title of good mother is not guaranteed, so why don\’t you go back?The family serves four little devils! Every good mother pays the price of overwhelming housework and drowning herself. Amy said her biggest wish was to have a quiet breakfast by herself; while Qiqi fantasized about being in a minor car accident and resting in the hospital for a week, eating jelly and watching soap operas. What a small and pitiful wish. It’s not that mothers can’t do it, it’s that mothers who carry the golden brand of “good mother” can’t do it. Being a mother requires a lot of care and obedience. Naturally, you will feel anxious, have repeated doubts, and fall into a vicious circle of self-denial. Amy said that almost every once in a while she would break down, cry loudly in the car, and then drive herself back to the corner of her heart, pretending to be a good mother. We are constantly killing ourselves trying to be the perfect mom. The perfect mother who is forced to be, but cannot be recognized by her children. How about just being a bad mother? ! Does your child not appreciate the carefully prepared breakfast that you wake up early every day? Sorry, I\’m on strike. Does the child take it for granted that his mother will help him with his homework? Sorry, bad moms don’t think so. I left my four children with my father and went out to have a date with my best friend, but my husband kept calling me to ask for help? I\’m sorry, sister just ignored me today. The school held a fake cake sale again to show how good my mom’s baking skills are? Sorry, I can only top up by buying a box of ready-made donuts from a gas station convenience store. If being yourself is a bad mother, I think there should be many good mothers who dream of getting rid of the burden, and would be willing to be a bad mother even for a day. The amazing thing is that by finding yourself, falling in love with yourself, cherishing yourself, and making yourself shine, bad mothers who are \”selfish\” in the eyes of the world will be more loved by their children, and will gain the upper hand in family relationships and the workplace. Amy\’s children have learned to make breakfast by themselves and can complete their homework without their mother urging them. Qiqi\’s husband understood the difficulties of being a stay-at-home mother and learned to take the initiative to share the worries of his wife. Before becoming mothers, we must first be our shining selves, fall in love with ourselves, and be loved by others. A good mother is a fake mother to show to the people around her, while a bad mother is the real mother who lives for her family and herself. One of my cousins ​​is what people call a perfect mother. After her son was born, she completely became his shadow, humble but happy. Once when I went to the mall, my son, who was in the fourth grade of primary school, said he was tired and asked his mother to carry him on his back. My cousin squatted down and carried him on her back without saying a word. She looked at the boy on her back, swinging his long legs that were about to drag to the ground, and looked at her cousin\’s thin body. Her body was bent and her back made me feel a little sorry for her. Once again, I went to the beach with my cousin, my nephew, and Liuliu. The children were having fun on the beach. The boy said to his cousin, \”I want to eat instant noodles. Now go back to the hotel and cook them for me.\” The hotel is two steps away from the beach. Ten minutes later, my cousin actually happily agreed to this unreasonable request. The good mother went back to the hotel to cook instant noodles for her son, leaving me with Liuliu and my nephew on the beach. Liuliu whispered in my ear: \”Mom, I feel so pitiful for my aunt.\” There was also a friend beside her. , heartless, and definitely a bad mother in people’s eyes. Dinner will be served at a certain time, but I won’t eat if I get angry.Just withdraw. If you are hungry, wait until the next meal. After dinner, the task of washing the dishes was also handed over to my daughter. The little girl stood on the stool and washed the dishes happily. When you enter kindergarten, you should first say hello to the teacher: \”I don\’t know how to bake, and secondly, I don\’t know how to do handicrafts. I probably won\’t be able to hand in the homework that needs parents to do for me in the future.\” When I\’m in a bad mood, I leave my daughter to my husband. I bought a plane ticket and went on vacation in Sanya. Such a bad mother actually captured her daughter\’s heart unwantedly. The little girl always praises her mother as the most beautiful and the best person in the world when she meets people. There is a line in the movie: These days, being a qualified mother has become impossible. (Being a mom is impossible these days) No matter how hard you try, if you make a small mistake, someone will say that what you did is wrong. No matter how many hundred percent of your enthusiasm you put in, as long as there is a slight flaw, heroes from all walks of life who stand up and talk without pain will immediately slap you with the big label of \”not loving children\”. No matter how low you put yourself, you can hardly find it in the dust. As long as you go to see a movie and drink coffee, \”Why waste time when you are a mother?\” \”Child\”, \”Who will I buy so many new clothes for when I become a mother?\”…are you drowning in minutes? Since we are not qualified no matter what we do, why should we act like a good mother just to show others? Amy said that every mother is a bad mother. Because we can\’t be perfect. A bad mother\’s love for her children will not diminish one iota. Take a look at the inner monologues of these self-proclaimed bad mothers in the movie: \”I know we make fun of our children, but I really love them.\” \”I could die for them at any time.\” \”Children are the same to us. What a gift.\” \”When I think that these little idiots will leave me and enter college one day, I will cry like a little kid.\” In fact, at that magical moment when life is connected to the mother\’s umbilical cord in the womb, my mother An unbreakable bond with the child is formed. Our love for our children is as pure and beautiful as their children\’s love for us. We hope that our children can live independently and independently. Similarly, children also hope that their mothers can have their own space, friends, and hobbies. We know each other well, so why should we be afraid of the colored glasses of the outside world? Life is already so difficult, so let us show our true colors and be cool bad mothers.