Many families force their children to commit suicide. Parents must be vigilant.

This symptom shows that parents have threatened their children. We will now see in some societies that many children will self-harm or even commit suicide. What are the causes of these? You know, animals have three instincts. When encountering danger, they will fight if they can beat them; they will run if they can\’t beat them; and they will pretend to be dead when they can\’t beat them and can\’t run away. A child is very weak. He needs to rely on his parents to survive, so he cannot leave his parents and he cannot escape. His parents are very powerful but he can\’t defeat them, and he can\’t fight against them or leave them – what should he do? You can only pretend to be dead. If the child cuts his wrist, it must mean that he is in a state of pretending to be dead because he can\’t fight or run away. In the state of pretending to be dead, the child is in great pain. What should he do in the face of this painful state? He needed an outlet. So either cut your wrists, bang your head against the wall, or slap yourself. These self-harming actions will cause him to produce endorphins, or various hormones similar to endorphins. This hormone makes him feel happy, so he does this action. If he was not in this state, it would be very painful for him to cut his wrists, and he would not enjoy this state. So how do we prevent children from cutting their wrists? Lower yourself and don\’t become a threat to your children. Parents should be the support behind their children. In this way, the child can be dissociated from the dangerous state, and he does not have to pretend to be dead. If a child dares to contradict you, congratulations, that\’s a good thing. But what kind of parents would make their children feel in danger? For parents like this, if you don’t get 80 points in this exam, is it dangerous if I break your legs? This is violent and controlling. If you don\’t get into a certain school, don\’t come back to this home! Don\’t tell me you are my daughter! Is this a danger, so in this dangerous state, can the child leave? Children who have courage will run away from home, so children who run away from home are healthy. Because what state is he in? state of escape. There are also some children who dare to go against their parents, who are also healthy. For example, if you don\’t get 80 points this time, I\’ll break your legs! At this time, if you dare to say to your father: Dad, did you have 80 points back then? I heard my mother say that you had more than 50 points back then, but you were embarrassed to blame me! If you dare to challenge your parents like this, this child is healthy. So parents, what should we pay attention to for our children to be healthy? Those who dare to contradict and run away from home. If your child is in such a state, congratulations, your child is still very healthy! But if your child doesn\’t dare to run away from home and doesn\’t dare to contradict you, then what state is he in? He is pretending to be dead. So at this time, he felt pleasure from cutting his wrists, so he had the urge to commit suicide, or worse, hit the wall. Even hitting the wall cannot solve the pain, and he will give up on life. So the reason why a child gives up his life is because he has been pretending to be dead for too long. How can we help these children? Parents should be careful when their children start asking this question. I have seen very doting parents, but their children still hurt themselves. Why? In fact, this is also a kind of abuse, which is called abuse with love. Let me give you a real case. There was a woman who came to me for a case. She said she was guiltyThere is a devil in her heart. I asked her, what voice does this devil have? She said cheating would break this family! I asked her, don’t you love your husband anymore? \”No, we can\’t talk about love, we can\’t talk about not loving.\” I said your family is not doing well? The woman said, \”Our family is a family that everyone admires.\” Psychological counseling usually uses a method called family reshaping. When I was reshaping her family, I discovered that her father had made all the decisions for her since the day she was born. What kind of kindergarten to go to, what clothes to wear, what elementary and middle school to go to when you grow up, what university to take, what major to apply for, where to work after graduation, who to fall in love with, who to marry, even my husband’s workplace is arranged by his father, everything Everything is arranged by my father. In her words, \”In the first half of my life, I couldn\’t decide anything, but everything was fine.\” Her father helped her make the best decision, so they both worked in the best local unit, and she also Married to the most handsome husband with a good temperament. Her son is studying in the best primary school in their city. Very happy, impeccable happiness, but she just felt like a useless waste. So there is a devil\’s voice in her heart, I want to destroy everything and start over again, I want to make a decision for my life. Do you think her father loves her? Love is for sure. Is there any way to just love? Why do some children have such problems despite their parents loving them very much? Because in the love of his parents, some of his value was deprived of him. You know the battle is a little easier with a bad dad. How do you fight against a good father and mother? You can\’t fight. In the name of love, children are deprived of themselves, their right to choose, and their sense of value. So a child who grows up in such a family has no choice, no self, and is not needed. He has only one feeling: I am a waste. When a child feels that he is a waste, this is called a sense of worthlessness. When he has no value, there is no point in his life. So when a child asks the question, what is the meaning of life? In fact, this is also a danger signal. Because a person who lives a meaningful life will not ask this question. Just like when you eat something delicious, you will ask what is the meaning of eating? you will not. Have you noticed that many children ask this question, what is the meaning of life? This means that his life is meaningless. It seems to be a happy family, and a happy family is full of love. What is missing in the family? The sense of value is missing, and the choice is missing. Make up for these while your children are still young.