Many parents don’t know the four most important words for children’s growth…

When Tete was not yet born, I told myself that I would give him two gifts after he was born: one is confidence, and the other is optimism. I think if a person has these two things in his heart, he will definitely have a happy life. Self-confidence makes people have the courage to try everything and do what they want to do; but nine times out of ten life is not as expected. When encountering difficulties and setbacks in life, an optimistic heart can help us step out of the haze and into the sunshine. . In order to give Tete confidence, I pay more attention to training him in my daily life. When he encounters difficulties and seeks help from his parents, if I feel that he is within the scope of \”you can do it with just one jump\”, I will encourage him to try it on his own. Sometimes this process is not that easy and may even be repeated, but I told myself to be patient and give my child time. When a child succeeds through his own efforts, he will have a great sense of accomplishment, and as these senses of accomplishment increase little by little, they will transform into his self-confidence. One time, Tete and I came to the school cafeteria for dinner. After the meal, he asked for a drink. I pointed to the drink window not far away and said: Drinks are sold there. I will give you the money and you can buy it yourself. Tete had never bought anything alone before, so he hesitated and refused to go, asking: What if there are bad guys? I said: This is the school cafeteria. It is very safe, and mom can see you all the time. I will always follow you with my eyes. Tete still hesitated and said: Mom, I see there is no waiter in that window, who should I buy from? I said: Look, there are two aunties standing next to me. They should be the waiters at that window. You can ask them. Te Te still didn’t want to go and kept mumbling: Mom, just go shopping with me. I said: Now that you have grown up and are about to go to elementary school, mom believes that you can buy your own drinks. You just need to ask the aunt first if you want to buy a drink from her, then you give her the money, she will give you the drink, and then give you change, and that\’s it. I described the whole process, but seeing that Tete was still a little hesitant, I had to \”force\” him. I said: You have two choices now, either you buy a drink yourself, or you don\’t drink. . Te Te thought for a while and said with determination: Okay, I\’ll buy it myself! I watched him walk towards the window selling drinks, but he stopped halfway and looked back at me with another hesitant look. I smiled at him and waved, telling him with gestures to keep going. Go ahead. I know that he is having a fierce struggle in his heart. Shopping is a very common thing for adults, but for children who are not familiar with the world, it is full of challenges. In this process, he has to Walking alone for a while, you have to learn to communicate with strange salespersons, and you have to learn to exchange money for items. I said to him silently in my heart: Baby, be brave. You will encounter more and greater challenges than this in the future. You must learn to defeat yourself and achieve success on your own strength. Mom will always cheer for you! I finally saw him walk to the window and loudly asked the two aunts: Excuse me, are these drinks yours? One of the aunts smiled at him, walked over, and said to the other aunt: The children nowadays are really amazing.You can buy things by yourself at such a young age. I saw Te Te give the money to his aunt, and her aunt gave him a bottle of drink, and he came back with a smile on his face. I asked: Is it difficult to buy things? Tete said: It’s not difficult. I said: Yes, you see you did it easily, and the aunt even praised you! I opened the drink happily and drank it. I knew that this drink must taste particularly good because it contained the taste of success. In addition to cultivating his self-confidence, I also pay attention to cultivating his optimism. When encountering unhappy things, I will guide him to think from the optimistic side, sometimes even with a sense of self-comfort. Gradually, I discovered that Tite had indeed formed an optimistic thinking pattern, and often gave me great comfort and special surprises in my daily life. Once I took Te Te on the subway. There was a barbecue vendor at the subway entrance. The smell was very tempting, and Te Te wanted to eat it. I said: These things are unhealthy and not suitable for children to eat, so we won’t buy them. Tete did not continue to clamor to buy it, but said: Well, mom, I am actually very lucky. At least I can still smell it. Some children can\’t even smell it at all. Tete\’s words made me laugh out loud. For a moment, I really felt that the child was so cute. These were what I was supposed to say to comfort him! Recently, Tite went to elementary school. One afternoon, the grandfather who picked up Tite from school called me and said that Tite wanted to go to a classmate\’s house to play, but grandpa had other things to do and couldn\’t take him there, but Tite insisted on going. , Grandpa asked me to persuade him. I asked Tete to answer the phone. Tete cried on the phone and said: Mom, I agreed with my classmate that I would go to his house to play after school, but grandpa wouldn’t let me go. I was so sad. I said: Mom knows you are sad, but grandpa has something to do and can\’t take you there. Mom will make an appointment with your classmate\’s mother another day to take you two out to play together, okay? Te Te choked and said: Okay. I told him again: You go home with grandpa first. Mom will go home from get off work soon. She will play with you when she gets home. Tete said: OK, goodbye, mom. When I got home and saw Tete, the villain was already in a very happy mood, and he even took the initiative to tell me his journey: Mom, at first I felt sad when my grandpa wouldn’t let me go to my classmate’s house to play, but then I I thought, I will be able to see my mother soon, and I will be very happy. I praised him: Well, you are such a sensible and good boy. I feel very relieved that Tete can adjust his emotions so proactively and quickly. When he grows up, he will definitely encounter various setbacks and dissatisfaction. I hope he can always maintain this ability to be happy, not be influenced by bad emotions, and face everything with optimism! After Tite entered elementary school, he had to do homework after school every day. After completing the homework, it was time to get ready for bed. The time for playing was much less than when he was in kindergarten, but he was still happy every day. Ask him: How do you feel about primary school life? Are you used to it? He said: I think it\’s very good. My father can tell me a story every day before going to bed. I am very satisfied. The children in our class who live on campus cannot see their parents for a week. How pitiful they are. I am much happier than them! Tete doesn\’t care about the play time he \”lost\”, but because of his parents\’ company,And feel happy, what a good state of mind! Thinking about myself, sometimes I worry about my \”lost\” and \”not getting\”, but I often forget the happiness I have, and I can\’t help but feel ashamed. Learn from your children, always think about everything you have, life will be much better! Confidence and optimism are the most precious gifts I can give to my children. I will always work hard to cultivate myself in order to be able to give them to him; I also hope that he can accept them and internalize them into his own character, making him happy and happy. Live a life!