May our children be treated gently by this world

To be honest, every time we see vicious social incidents, it always makes us feel chilled. Killing people because of a bowl of noodles really happened on the streets of Wuhan. Because of a quarrel, the deceased got angry and hit someone in a fit of rage, and unexpectedly lost his life. From the whole incident, people felt a kind of hostility. And this kind of hostility can be seen everywhere in our lives. I still remember a personal experience a few years ago. That time I took the bus to work. There was a lady in her 40s who got on the bus at a bus stop at an overpass. I don’t know what she said to the driver. Suddenly he raised his hand to hit the driver, and kicked the door with his foot to prevent him from driving. At this time, people in the car shouted that they were in a hurry and urged the driver. Seeing everyone urging her, the elder sister let go of her feet. Or stand at the front door where you get on the bus and argue with the driver. \”It\’s not that I don\’t give money, I only have 1 yuan.\” \”You don\’t have to give it, I didn\’t say anything!\” \”Why do you look down on people? Am I the one who doesn\’t give money?\” The driver smiled bitterly. An old man in the front row also came to mediate. \”The driver told me not to give it. Forget it!\” \”No.\” She still refused and arrived at another station. At this time, the elder sister stood at the door of the car and blocked the car from leaving. At this time, everyone in the car was anxious and angry. A young man carrying a box next to me ran over. \”Get down!\” \”What does it have to do with you?\” The eldest sister raised her head and looked very arrogant. \”How dare you kick me down!\” \”I just kicked you, why not!\” the young man cursed and kicked her several times. Seeing her being kicked out of the bus, the driver quickly closed the door. Unexpectedly, she actually wanted to hold the bus as it started. At this time, two old people went out the back door. I really want to thank these two old people. After they went down, they dragged the eldest sister back. After the car started, I saw the eldest sister struggling there, trying to catch up. After two stops, a few old people told the young man to get off the bus quickly and get another car. \”When you go out, avoid causing trouble and be more considerate.\” Regarding this matter, both the eldest sister and the young man were full of hostility. The driver didn\’t care, he could just use the donkey to get off the slope and solve the problem. And what the young man does will also hurt people. Fortunately it didn\’t make a big deal out of it. Every time I go out with my kids. Whenever there was a quarrel or quarrel on the street, I would quickly hold his hand and walk away. For example, outside the small vegetable market next to our community, urban management officers come every once in a while to clean up the vendors. I bumped into my son several times. They all told him that this was general cleaning, and they tried to keep the children away from any disputes and disputes that might arise. Because hostility is like a stench that will suffocate you all over. It\’s just that those who smell it don\’t know that it smells bad. But the child will eventually face the world alone. This is a world full of sunshine, but also full of hostility. What do we need to do when raising children? In other words, what kind of character do you want to cultivate in your children so that they can better face the world. For example: kindness. When I typed these two words, I felt that I seemed pedantic and old-fashioned. Because the current mainstream values ​​include words such as \”flexibility, power and power, profit and benefit\”. But raising children is not a business. Unfortunately, kindness is a value that is often ridiculed or questioned. For example, the concept of \”A good person is bullied by others, and a good horse is ridden by others\”Yes, the market is huge. Some time ago, my cousin who just started working called me and complained: \”Brother, let me ask you something, do you think it is good to be kind?\” \”Of course it is, don\’t you like kind people?\” \”But, I found Kind people are easily bullied. Just like when I first came to the company, many people told me to do this or that. They thought I was easy to talk to and easy to bully. Is it true that \’people who are kind will be bullied, and horses who are kind will be ridiculed\’? ?\” \”No, you have just started working and you don\’t understand the things in the workplace. What\’s more, you have just started working. It doesn\’t matter if you do more and suffer some losses. You must know that those who play with scheming and power will not have good results. The result. On the contrary, those who are willing to endure hardships and have a kind heart become more and more popular and can continuously improve themselves.\” \”Really?\” \”Of course, I promise you, because I believe that kindness will always be It\’s a quality that everyone values.\” \”But you still need to continue to strengthen yourself and become a strong and kind person, so that no one will bully you, and you can help many people in need.\” She felt Chicken soup for the soul. But I think people with a kind heart will not attack others for their own benefit. For her growing up, it was a bowl of chicken soup to protect herself and become stronger. Everyone has such a weak growth period. The same is true for children. Parents might as well give their children more kind education. Why is bullying happening in many schools now? What kind of growth experience did those little bullies go through? It\’s impossible for someone to be a bully from birth. It\’s definitely a problem with his upbringing. Too many of our parents teach their children to calculate. To select class cadres, one has to win over people\’s hearts and even bribe votes. When giving gifts to teachers, you also need to calculate which teacher has a greater effect and which one has a smaller effect. When visiting relatives, I only take my children to visit rich relatives and never visit poor relatives. When children compete with other children for things, they are never allowed to lose and are taught to win by any means necessary. It is such a powerful and calculating education that ultimately leads to selfish and violent children. Even when I buy books for my children, I always choose stories about how to use tricks to win, and I don’t dare to let my children read fairy tales. The reason is that fairy tales are all lies. However, at the age when you should believe in fairy tales the most, it is really cruel for you to tell your children that fairy tales are false. I would rather my children believe that fairy tales are true and keep their innocence forever. Isn’t the emergence of the above educational concepts worthy of parents’ deep thought? Of course, many parents say that they did not do this and that their children learned it on their own. In \”Nobody Knows\” by Japanese film master Hirokazu Kore-eda, he tells how children change without their parents. Many children will make some \”bad\” friends, teach them to defraud their parents of pocket money, and even go to supermarkets to steal things, play in arcades outside, skip classes, and stay up all night. Parents often don’t know yet. Isn\’t this the responsibility of parents and a lack of education? You know, kindness and weakness are never brothers. It’s just that many of our children are too weak and not strong enough. Such children are easily bullied and do not dare to take responsibility. Therefore, in addition to cultivating good character, we must also cultivate children\’s strong heart and inner strength.Children \”don\’t cause trouble, but they are not afraid of trouble when they encounter it.\” A gentler way of saying it is to \”nurture Haoran\’s righteousness.\” Take the matter of children fighting as an example, because at this time people often act according to their nature and are not restricted by rules. We will find that children who are often bullied have one characteristic, that is, they are weak and submissive. I remember that in our childhood circle, there was a boy who was often bullied because he cried every time he was bullied and then went back to complain. His mother went to find out the reason at first, but in the end, many other parents said Let the children solve their own problems, it’s no big deal. So his mother didn\’t care. But he also longs for everyone to take him to play. So he became the victim of a prank. But when he was in middle school, he suddenly changed. Physical exercise made his body stronger, and his rapid improvement in academic performance doubled his confidence. Whenever someone teases him, he will fight back hard. In the end, everyone stopped teasing him, and all the nicknames given to him disappeared. In the picture book \”Don\’t Try to Bully Me\”, a little girl is often bullied by boys in the class, and she always begs for mercy at first. In the end, she overcame her fear and fought back boldly, which calmed the naughty boys. When a child has a sense of righteousness, his whole person will be different. We all want our children to be treated gently by the world. First of all, let your children be kind to the world and the people around them. Even if you are a passerby, you should speak well. Don\’t think you can hit the other person just because he is short. Don\’t be aggressive just because you are justified. When there is kindness in the heart, hostility will lessen. And what should you do when your child encounters a very aggressive person? Then stay away from such people and run as far as you can. Not everyone can be your friend. It\’s really important to protect yourself. Because you only have one life, cherish it. What\’s more important is that only by cultivating children\’s strong hearts can children be successful in their future lives. Even if you encounter adversity, you can face it calmly without being controlled by anger.