Mo Yan: The biggest danger in education is blindly expecting children to become conscious

In the long journey of educating children, we often fall into a beautiful fantasy, which is to expect children to become self-conscious. However, is this really the case? Mo Yan once profoundly pointed out: \”The excellence of children is soaked in the sweat of their parents.\” Indeed, the growth trajectory of each child is actually a true portrayal of the original family. When we naively expect children to be self-conscious, we often overlook an important fact: children\’s minds are not yet fully mature, and they lack sufficient self-discipline and self-management capabilities. Just like a child who has just learned to walk, he needs our support and guidance to walk more steadily and further. Children are like seedlings. In the early stages of growth, they need their parents\’ care like sunshine, nourishment like rain, and norms like fences in order to thrive. Imagine what would happen if the learning task was completely left to the children themselves, without the supervision and companionship of their parents? Perhaps at the beginning, children will show a certain degree of enthusiasm because of the novelty, but as time goes by, faced with difficulties and setbacks in learning, they can easily lose interest and motivation, and even develop an escape mentality. For example, when doing homework, children may be distracted by TV, mobile phones, etc.; when reading, they may give up easily because of difficulty in understanding. Without timely reminders and help from parents, these problems are likely to accumulate gradually, affecting children\’s learning effects and habit formation. Children\’s consciousness is not born with it, but needs to be gradually cultivated as they grow. This training process is inseparable from the careful teaching and active guidance of parents. This is like lighting a bright light for children in the dark, guiding them in the direction forward. The influence of the original family on children is profound and lasting. A caring family environment with clear rules can provide a solid foundation for a child\’s growth. Parents’ words and deeds are the best role models for their children. If parents themselves cannot be self-disciplined, how can they expect their children to be self-disciplined? There is a parent who lies on the sofa and plays with his mobile phone after coming home from get off work every day, but requires his children to concentrate on their homework. Children will naturally feel unfair and find it difficult to develop good study habits. On the contrary, another parent would quietly read or do work while his child was studying every day. Under the influence of this atmosphere, the child naturally developed the habit of focusing on learning. This stark contrast tells us that parents’ behavior has a subtle impact on their children. Furthermore, parents’ companionship and encouragement as their children grow up are also crucial. When children make progress in learning, timely praise can enhance their self-confidence and enthusiasm; when children encounter difficulties, patient guidance and encouragement can help them overcome difficulties and move forward. Education is a long-term investment and cannot be expected to be achieved overnight. We can\’t just pay attention when our children are not behaving well, but we should always pay attention to our children\’s needs and changes in our daily lives and grow with them. Every child is unique, with their own personality traits and interests. As parents, we need to understand them carefully and discover their shining points,Teach students in accordance with their aptitude and stimulate their potential. For example, some children have a strong interest in music, and parents can encourage them to learn musical instruments and participate in music activities; some children like reading, and parents can accompany them to the library to explore the ocean of knowledge together. In this process, parents are not only their children’s guides, but also their partners and friends. We must understand that children\’s growth is a step-by-step process and we cannot rush for success. Sometimes, we may be anxious because our child failed a test, or we may be angry because of a bad habit of our child. But none of this should be a reason for us to give up guiding and educating our children. On the contrary, we should remain patient and confident, believing that under our care and guidance, our children will gradually grow into responsible and self-disciplined people. The biggest danger in education is blindly expecting children to become conscious. A child\’s growth is inseparable from his parents\’ hard work and wise guidance. We abandon such unrealistic expectations and use love and responsibility to pave a path to excellence for our children. I hope that every child can thrive with the company of his parents; I hope that every family can gain full happiness and hope on the road of education. In the days to come, let us participate in children’s education with a more positive attitude and more scientific methods. Let us witness every progress and every growth of our children together and lay a solid foundation for their bright future. Because children are our hope and the future of society, and their growth is worth all our efforts.