Mom and Dad, I don’t want to compare…

My cousin has always been a role model that I admire. She is an executive in a Fortune 500 company and has a prosperous career. Moreover, she balances family and career. Her children are what I call the perfect \”other people\’s children.\” \”: Can translate complex English poems into Chinese poems with smooth and beautiful dialogues and neat dialogues; can fully describe and draw various cycles in nature in English, and is scientifically rigorous, lively and interesting; can win national awards in swimming, She can do karate in martial arts, and she can also play the piano fluently;… Whenever she talks about her children, I drool and envy them endlessly. However, last night she posted a video: a nine-year-old boy, holding a red guitar, playing and singing a song he composed – \”I\’m Just a Child\”: \”The next door neighbor Xiao Ming took the final exam again. First place\” \”Aunt Wang\’s grandson has passed the tenth level of piano\” \”Hearing this news, I can only remain silent\” \”I often dream about the question I got wrong when I go to bed at night\” \”There is a kind of child on the earth. Calling other people’s children…but in my heart, I don’t want to compare myself to my parents…\” On the stage, all the guests had red eyes and complicated expressions. They stood up and applauded him vigorously, while in the audience, the children\’s The father kept raising his hand to wipe away the tears from the corners of his eyes. In these tears, there was excitement and pride, but also distress and sadness. My cousin wrote a lot of words from the bottom of her heart, saying that when she saw this video, she couldn’t stop crying, because she had lost her temper with her children because they did not meet the requirements; because she had repeatedly praised others. The children at home, and those words that hurt the children\’s self-esteem; also for the children\’s happy childhood that is gradually drifting away… When I didn\’t have children, I always felt that Miss Yu from the work unit was making a fuss. Every year during the budget and final accounting period, accounting personnel have to go to hotels to work together. But she didn\’t live there anyway. After dinner, she would take things home and said, \”I\’ll work overtime to make them tonight.\” Ask her why, and the answer is either: \”My child is about to take the midterm exam!\” or \”My child\’s grades have been unstable recently, so I have to go back for tutoring!\” In the office, I often hear her calling to ask about her child\’s study status, and sometimes she smiles happily. Sometimes there are clouds of sadness. At that time, I felt that she was really demanding! You\’re just a primary school student, how can you be so nervous? It\’s just a midterm exam, so why is it so serious? And in the blink of an eye, I became the mother of the two young ladies, and I began to understand that mother deeply. Now, I am busy running around after work every day. When I see my sister sitting on the floor playing with the little toys that only two-year-olds play with, I feel unhappy. I bring her over and ask, \”Is it time to memorize English?\” \”Have you mastered the math problems?\” \”Do you still remember the poem yesterday?\” \”Go and practice the piano!\”… And the little spinning top-like figure in front of me is just a child under seven years old. Sometimes I reflect, when did I start to become like this? I still remember the days when she was born. After feeding her, I sat on the bed and did nothing. I just stared at her softly wrapped in the quilt. At that time, she didn\’t even have eyelashes yet. She was like a kitten and slept most of the time. At that time, I was so easily satisfied, and her every smile made me happy.My heart is filled with joy, and every move I make fills me with love. I once made a wish so devoutly: I have no other wish but peace… But in the blink of an eye, the wish I made was forgotten in my mind, and I yelled at her angrily countless times… If health, happiness, excellence and success can only Choose one of the two, I think the vast majority of parents will choose the former without hesitation. After all, the ultimate goal of our pursuit of so-called success is nothing but happiness and happiness. In the arena of life, we really hope that our children can rush to the front, and we really hope that they can get the joy of being a winner. Therefore, we are all on the starting line, and we must go all out everywhere. to this end. We would rather choose to let him suffer for a while and suffer for a while. After all, real life is not a stark choice between the two, nor is it a linear cause-and-effect relationship, but a lot of complex factors that are entangled in it. There may be no result if there is a cause, and there may be no gain if you pay. There are all kinds of life, there are unexpected joys, there are also losses that outweigh the gains, there are blessings and blessings, and there are also things that are spurred on. In this complicated world, we hold the child\’s hand and help him navigate the thorny path and steer the ship. Even if we spend our whole life, we must find the shortest and smoothest path for him, so that he can follow the direction we point out and never look back. Keep walking, I hope he can go all the way to the golden light and the eyes of millions of people. However, children are children after all, and they cannot bear too many expectations: scolding will make them cry, and being compared will make them feel inferior. But don’t forget, they will also be happy because of encouragement and satisfied because of respect. We must learn to recognize each of his efforts and affirm each of his achievements. Life is so long and the end is only a moment. The scenery that passes with him is even more precious. If you listen to what they say from the bottom of their hearts, you may hear: \”There is a kind of child on earth, called other people\’s children… But in the bottom of my heart, I don\’t want to compare myself to my parents…\”