Mom, being your child is so tiring

In my heart, I feel that my son is more like my husband\’s son than mine. My husband has always reviewed his mother\’s education methods and complained that he was not allowed to do this or that due to my mother-in-law\’s strict discipline, which resulted in the indecision in his character today. We all know the common sense that people are products of the times. Everyone cannot choose their birth date or what kind of parents they are born into. Many things in their personality are innate, and acquired things are created by understanding. My husband is an excellent father. He studies logic, mathematics, and scientific terminology with his children, not to mention English, even Chinese. He did not learn it when he was young. My son adores his father, but my mind is completely on work. Work excites me. But I think in fact, my husband has unknowingly become his mother\’s second best. He has strictly disciplined his son, and as a result, his son has become a carbon copy of him. Last Friday was the first time in three years that I attended my son’s school sports day. Today we went to pick up a classmate who came to my house to play for the whole day. Speaking of the little guest who came to my house today, he said that his father\’s blood pressure was 240 in the hospital, and his mother was with him. He asked if he could let his son go to his house, so I took the initiative to call his mother and asked to let his son go and pick him up in the morning. In a child\’s home, if it is a big house, there is only one old nanny. Seeing our car, the child waved his little hands from a distance and ran happily… I sent him home at night and he asked if he could stay at our house? I said tell your mother next time. He replied that it didn\’t matter. Mom had to go out to have dinner with friends in the evening and then go back to the company. She came home very late… Look at these parents, they are just busy with their careers and working hard to create wealth. But to an 8-year-old child, what does it mean to have a villa next to a golf course, an indoor and outdoor swimming pool at home, and a beautiful garden? If he had to choose, I think he would prefer a father who can run with him on the grass and in the park… The other day, a friend mentioned that his wife was worried about her son\’s further education, so she didn\’t think about food or drink, and couldn\’t sleep at night. He has his own difficulties, and my depression is not inferior to his! Last night, the child was scolded loudly by his father: \”You have been playing the piano for several years and you can even play quarter notes wrong! Don\’t cry, your tears are not worth anything…\” When he climbed into bed, I asked him: \”Are you hurt?\” Talk to your mother about your grievances?\” He said, \”Yeah! Mom, I don\’t want to talk anymore.\” I only stayed with you for 10 minutes, and he had already fallen asleep. It’s already 10 o’clock when I finish the piano. The workload is so huge that even I can’t compare with it! I went to piano class today, and my dad asked him to review Science in the car. He asked me to take a test on him. Oh my God, I didn’t understand any of those difficult English scientific terms. He answered questions very quickly, one after another. The following is an excerpt of a conversation between the father and son: I asked: \”Will you come back with all over 90 in the midterm exam next week?\” The boy replied: \”Dad, I got 90 points or above last time, this time you want to get 100 points.\” Right? I want 100 plus 105 additional questions next time?\” I laughed loudly, but I couldn\’t laugh at all. I plugged my ears with headphones so that I could immerse myself in the wonderful music to avoid blurting out inappropriate words…Really, as a parent, everyone consciously or unconsciously wants to shape a child who surpasses himself and actively gives us what is missing in our memory. \”Naively\” thinking that this is the best way to love your children! I thought my children would be happy… I don\’t think so. Looking back at my youth, I still have to overcome all difficulties in the most difficult moments. It is precisely the hardships I suffered when I was young. In the third grade of elementary school, I was already responsible for taking my sister to kindergarten. I had lived in school since kindergarten. On the other hand, today\’s children are rich in material things, but they don\’t have childhood… Reading day and night, learning this and that, is miserable. As parents of our generation, what kind of life do we want our children to have? I believe that letting children grow up healthy and happy in body and mind is the right way in the world!