\”Mom, I can\’t hold it in anymore.\” The different approaches of two parents gave their children different lives

The Chinese New Year is almost here, and the children are on winter vacation. Some friends have already started planning where to take their children during the holidays. But when I go out, what I am most afraid of is taking my child with me, either in the car or walking through the crowds of people. Anyway, I am always in a place with no way to reach the village or the back. The child suddenly opens his mouth: \”Mom, I want to Pee! \”What will you do at this time? Some time ago, a jaw-dropping scene occurred on Wuhan Metro Line 2. It turned out that a gray-haired man actually let the boy urinate everywhere in the carriage, and the flowing urine even stained the luggage bags of other passengers. When a passenger pointed out that the uncle was wrong, he was angrily retorted: \”You are so young, he can\’t hold it in, what do you say? Where is the urine?\” Until he got off the bus, the uncle did not do anything to clean up the urine. Xiao Li, a passenger whose luggage was contaminated by urine, was very angry. She filmed the scene and posted it on Weibo, which triggered heated discussions among many netizens: \”You are such a big kid, you should know how to be ashamed. How do you teach it at home?\” \”Of course, many netizens retorted, thinking that people who criticize casually must have never been parents. Some people think that this is not the fault of the child\’s grandfather, but because there are not enough supporting facilities in public places. After all, they are old people and children, so they need to be understanding. In fact, I can quite understand the anxiety parents feel when their children suddenly complain of an urgent need to urinate, but cannot find a toilet for a while. When my son was young, I often faced this kind of grievance and shame. Children are generally born to fight against their parents. Before going out: \”Baby, we\’re leaving soon, let\’s pee!\” \”No pee, not a drop, let\’s leave quickly!\” Twenty minutes later, I took my baby on the bus to the scenic spot, happily on my own. When he wanted to sing a song, the baby suddenly sent out a signal: \”Mom, I need to pee!\” WHAT? ! You just said you didn’t have it! \”I can\’t hold it in!\” At this time, the mood for traveling has disappeared. The key is to quickly find a way for the children to solve the urgent need in a \”civilized\” way! What impressed me most was the time at Dongmen Pedestrian Street. Due to the holidays, there were surprisingly many people shopping, and the queues for the natural toilets were also huge. While we were queuing up, the baby suddenly said that she couldn\’t hold it in any longer and twisted around with her legs crossed. In desperation, I discussed with the girl first in line whether we could let the child go to the toilet first. The girl hesitated and agreed, but the person behind her disagreed and said, \”I\’m not in a hurry if your child is anxious.\” \”You know you\’re taking your kids out, but you don\’t line up early.\” What they say makes sense, and I can\’t refute it. The cleaner aunt couldn\’t help but interjected, \”Is it pee? I have a garbage bag here. You can carry it for the child first!\” At this time, the boy\’s advantage was reflected, and I pulled my son to the corner. Here, using garbage bags solves the problem of children’s hissing. With this lesson learned, when I take my son outside for a long time, I will definitely bring an empty mineral water bottle and a large plastic bag with me in case of emergency. (PS: If you are a little girl, it is recommended to carry diapers with you.) Because of my own experience, whenever I see complaints on the Internet and accuse children of being unable to hold back their bowels in public, I always advocate that you should read it. watch things happenInstead of beating the other party to death with a stick, the parents should directly criticize the other party for being uncivilized and uneducated. Of course I agree that \”children should be allowed to go to the bathroom to relieve themselves\” and \”children should not urinate anywhere\”, but everything depends on the situation. After all, everyone has to have emergencies. If you want others to give you more understanding, you have to make amends after the incident and try not to affect other people. What this old man did on Wuhan Metro Line 2 is inappropriate. His thinking is probably that the child is still young, it doesn\’t matter what he does, and he should be considered by others. This kind of people just don\’t care about other people\’s feelings. Although it can be seen from the picture that the old man is old and it is really difficult to take care of the child alone. It is understandable that he does not have enough strength to hold the child and find the toilet quickly, but No matter what, you should use a bottle, a plastic bag to catch it, or find a mop to clean up afterwards. Ignoring others, urinating everywhere, and refusing to apologize or regret is not conducive to the cultivation of children\’s behavioral habits and the enlightenment of sexual awareness; more importantly, this kind of practice will bring discomfort to children. The influence of good role models. As parents, we must keep in mind that your children’s behavior is influenced by you. Another day at a subway station in Nanjing, a boy also couldn\’t hold it in and peed on the ground, but the way the boy\’s grandparents did it was even more heartwarming. The grandson couldn\’t hold back and peeed on the ground. The grandparents did not just leave. Instead, they quickly borrowed a mop and mopped it carefully. Grandma even directed and bent down to see if the mop was done properly: \”Don\’t let others slip down!\”, Duration 00:10 Grandpa and grandma\’s actions were praised by everyone. As one netizen said, it is human nature for children to be unable to hold back their urine. It is understandable if parents forget to bring plastic bottles and bags for a while. No matter what, everyone should have the consciousness to clean up the mess. This grandfather from Nanjing is really Being so qualified, polite and practicing is the best education for your children! Having said that, all remedies are better than prevention. The Spring Festival holiday is coming, and it is inevitable for us to take our children on a trip. Here are some experiences for you to learn from: Children have weak stomachs, prepare supplies before going out, and bring children\’s antidiarrheal medicine and other necessary medicines. Always have diapers, plastic bottles, diapers, etc. when you go out. If you really forget to bring the above items, food bags and plastic bags from nearby supermarkets and stores can also be used for emergencies. When you go to a strange place, you must first pay attention to the location of the restroom. I tried walking around in a huge shopping mall to find the restroom. When going to large scenic spots, ask your baby in advance if he or she needs to go to the bathroom. If so, take him or her to go to the bathroom first. Finally, if you really can’t find a bathroom, then find a hidden place to solve the problem. Use an umbrella to block the sight of passers-by, or use a large plant to block it near a green belt. Although this kind of thing may not seem like a big deal, the different ways parents handle it may have a profound impact on their children\’s behavior and habits. Raising children is no small matter, good education is hidden in our daily words and deeds.