Mom, I don’t want to go to kindergarten. Your answer is very important.

When a child leaves the arms of his parents for the first time and steps into the door of the kindergarten, that little figure carries countless uneasiness and expectations. For children, who have been living with their parents from birth to kindergarten, a sudden separation will inevitably cause anxiety and even crying and resistance. Stanley Greenspan, a famous American child psychologist, said: \”A child around 3 years old will find a close caregiver almost every 15 minutes. After being away from his parents in the kindergarten for a full eight hours, he will definitely feel disappointed and will Resistance, want to be with mom and dad.” Therefore, when a child says, “Mom, I don’t want to go to kindergarten,” the parent’s answer is crucial. 1. On the second day after the child entered kindergarten, separation anxiety struck. Today is the second day of kindergarten for my child. The full day of kindergarten life made the child start to suffer from separation anxiety. Seeing the pitiful appearance of the child, as a parent, my heart is full of heartache and worry. But we cannot be swayed by anxiety, but must take active actions to help our children pass this special stage smoothly. Separation anxiety in children is a normal emotional response. They are accustomed to the warmth of family and the company of their parents. When they suddenly come to a strange environment and face strange teachers and children, you can imagine how uneasy they feel. At this time, we need to give our children more understanding and patience, so that they can feel our care and support. 2. Four Steps to Relieve Children\’s Anxiety 1. Resonate with the child When faced with a child\’s crying, parents should not blindly emphasize how fun the kindergarten is and how kind the teachers are, because these often do not resonate with the child. We might as well say this: \”Mom, I know it\’s not easy to go to kindergarten. Mom is not by your side, and you feel everything is different, right?\” This sentence is like a key, opening the door to children\’s emotions and letting them know Mom understands how he feels. When children gain emotional resonance, they are more likely to confide in their parents. Only when we understand the child\’s thoughts can we solve the child\’s problem in a further way. When children feel understood, their emotions will gradually stabilize. We can listen to them patiently and let them release their grievances and uneasiness. Maybe the child will say: \”There is no mother in the kindergarten, I am so scared.\” or \”I don\’t like playing with other children.\” No matter what the child says, we must listen carefully, respond to them, and let them know how they feel. Being valued. 2. Accept the child. When the child\’s mood is a little stable, we can say this: \”You are not familiar with the kindergarten environment. You don\’t like to eat kindergarten meals, sleep on the kindergarten bed, and don\’t like playing with other children.\” , you just want to play with your mother at home, and these mothers know it. \”As parents, we need to accept our children\’s emotions and understand their insecurities and fears. After we know what the child is thinking, we must also let the child know what the mother thinks. We accept the children and the children accept us. This is the best solution. Accepting our children\’s emotions doesn\’t mean we condone their behavior. we canOn the basis of understanding them, guide them to face their emotions correctly. For example, we can say: \”Mom, I know you don\’t like the kindergarten meal, but we can try to taste it and maybe find it delicious.\” or \”It\’s fun to play with children. We can start with a child.\” Once you get to know each other, you will slowly make more good friends. \”In this way, children can gradually adapt to kindergarten life. 3. Encourage the child. After accepting the child\’s emotions, we must encourage the child and express our expectations. For example, we can say: \”It\’s not easy for you to insist on going to kindergarten. You are really great! If you persist, mom believes that one day you will fall in love with kindergarten!\” After we say these words, the child is likely to Will cry loudly. But we don’t need to worry. It’s not that the child doesn’t want to go to kindergarten, but that he has suppressed it for too long. Finally, someone understands him, and his emotions can be fully vented at this time. Encouragement is the driving force for children\’s growth. When children hear our encouragement, they will have more confidence to face difficulties. We can give our children more encouragement in our daily lives to make them feel their own value. For example, when the child is dressing himself, we can say: \”Baby, you are great! You can dress yourself.\” Or when the child draws a picture, we can say: \”This picture is so beautiful. You are very beautiful.\” Be imaginative.\” In this way, children can gradually build up their self-confidence. 4. Be gentle and firm with your children. We need to tell our children: \”As soon as school time comes, mom will come to pick you up! Do you want your mom to pick you up with snacks or toys? Mom will miss you too. We See you after school!\” After saying that, turn around and leave without delaying. In fact, after we leave, the children can quickly join the group. The reason why the child does not want to go in is to express his reluctance to leave his mother. Our gentleness and firmness will convey a sense of security to our children, letting them know that although their mother is not around, she will definitely come back. When parting from our children, our attitude should be gentle but firm. Don\’t be discouraged by your child\’s crying, and don\’t show impatience. We can give the child a warm hug and then gently tell him: \”Mom loves you and will pick you up after school.\” Let the child feel our love and trust. At the same time, we must also believe in children\’s abilities and believe that they can gradually adapt to kindergarten life. 3. Tips for alleviating children’s anxiety about entering kindergarten. In addition to accepting children’s emotions, if you want your children to successfully overcome anxiety about entering kindergarten and adapt to collective learning and life in kindergarten as soon as possible, you might as well take a look at the following tips. 1. \”Persist for a long time\” and don\’t \”stop and go\”. Entering the kindergarten for a few days and resting at home for a few days will only make the child fall into repeated tension and crying. Children\’s adaptation process takes time. We must be patient and insist on sending children to kindergarten so that they can gradually adapt to the new environment and rhythm of life. Children\’s ability to adapt is limited, and frequent interruptions to kindergarten life will only make it more difficult for them to adapt. We must insist on sending our children to kindergarten so that they can develop good living and study habits. At the same time, we alsoIt is necessary to maintain close contact with the teacher, understand the child\’s situation in kindergarten, and jointly help the child through this stage. 2. \”Share happiness\” and don\’t \”negatively guide\”. Don\’t ask: \”Did you cry today? Did other children bully you?\” Such questions will make children recall bad experiences and increase their anxiety. You can ask \”Who do you know?\” \”What do you like to do in kindergarten?\” This kind of communication strengthens the child\’s good memories of the kindergarten, helps the child establish a good emotional experience, and adapt to the life of the kindergarten as soon as possible. . When communicating with children, we should pay more attention to their positive experiences and let them feel the joy of kindergarten. We can share with our children their interesting stories in kindergarten, such as meeting new friends, playing fun games, etc. In this way, children can look forward to kindergarten and reduce their anxiety. 3. \”Keep calm\” and don\’t \”get to the bottom of things.\” After your child comes home, don\’t overexaggerate your concern about your child\’s admission to kindergarten. Parents\’ peaceful attitude is an important factor for children to quickly adapt to the external environment of kindergarten. Never say, \”Why don\’t you go to kindergarten? You tell me!\” \”It\’s not okay not to go to kindergarten!\” \”Okay, I won\’t go, stop crying!\” \”Kindergarten is so fun, there are so many toys and children. \”Did the teacher criticize you? Did the children bully you? Did you miss your mother?\” These words either repulse the child or give him an excuse not to go. The child\’s emotions may increase the child\’s fear of kindergarten. When the children come home, we can communicate with them in a peaceful manner and learn about their day in kindergarten. Don\’t ask too much about your children\’s situation in kindergarten, and let them have enough space to adjust their emotions. If children are willing to share, we can listen carefully and respond to them; if children do not want to talk, we should not force them. We should tell our children: \”Teachers help you just like mothers. When you want to go to the toilet, are thirsty, haven\’t eaten enough, peed your pants, a child is bullying you, or if you need any help, you can tell the teacher!\” \”Let children know that in kindergarten, they are not alone, and they have the care and help of teachers. At the same time, we must also encourage children to be their bravest selves, bravely face new environments, bravely make new friends, and bravely explore unknown worlds. 4. Accompany your child\’s growth with love. The growth of a child is a long and challenging process, and anxiety about entering kindergarten is just an episode. As parents, we must accompany our children through this stage with love and patience, so that they can spend a happy time in kindergarten and reap the joy of growing up. After the children enter kindergarten, we can prepare some small gifts for them, such as a warm card, a small toy, etc., to let them feel our care. At the same time, we must also believe in children\’s abilities and believe that they can gradually adapt to kindergarten life. Every child is unique and grows at his or her own pace. We must respect children\’s individuality and give them enough space and timeTo develop yourself. I believe that with our joint efforts, the children will be able to successfully adapt to kindergarten life and shine with their own brilliance. Let us accompany our children to grow up with love and witness every wonderful moment of theirs.