\”Mom, I went to heaven, I\’m so tired here!\” Shocked parents across the country

I read an article some time ago, and I couldn\’t calm down for a long time after reading it: After writing so many parenting articles, I suddenly realized that maybe I am not a good mother either, and sometimes I force my children to become excellent. Like most parents, the fact I least want to admit is that there is a high probability that my child will be an extremely ordinary and ordinary person! Even if you are vaguely aware of this from your heart, you must overcome all difficulties and create conditions to cultivate children into geniuses. But we have to admit: our children will eventually be ordinary! Today we will share this article with parents, maybe you will be touched. It is the common wish of parents to hope that their daughters will be successful and their children will be successful, but will the path you choose for your children make them happy? Holding her cold daughter in her arms, Susu\’s mother, Liu Yu, completely collapsed. How much effort the mother has put into sending a \”stupid\” daughter to a well-known university in the country and then letting her enter a well-known law firm in Dalian! But it has only been a year since my daughter graduated, and she repays her mother’s deep kindness in this way! Zhou Hong appreciates the education case video original full series 6VCD+mp3 outstanding couple, who spares no effort to make his daughter smart. Liu Yu, 50, is one of the few full-time undergraduate graduates among his peers. After graduation, he stayed in school to teach. Because of his teaching achievements Outstanding, he received exceptional promotions along the way, and was promoted to professor at the age of 35. She served as deputy director of the Business Administration Department of a university in Dalian, and was the youngest professor and mid-level cadre of the school at that time. My lover Liang Jun is a civil servant and now he is in a high position. The career achievements of the couple make many people envious and even jealous. In 1984, Liu Yu gave birth to a daughter, named Liang Susu. She told her husband that the children in our family must be better than those in other families. However, her daughter\’s performance surprised Liu Yu: She was 1 year and 7 months old, and while other people\’s children already wanted to run away, Susu was still unable to walk steadily. Other people\’s children can already call \”aunt, mother-in-law\”, but Su Su can\’t even say \”dad, mother\”. Liu Yu was very angry at her daughter\’s performance. Liu Yu\’s real disappointment started when Su Su went to elementary school. Every time she takes an exam, Su Su always gets no marks for those questions that require a little bit of thinking. In order to make her daughter smarter, Liu Yu became a loyal fan of various brain health products, forcing Su Su to take various supplements every day. However, the academic performance did not improve, but the child matured prematurely and had menarche in the fourth grade of elementary school. In the end, Liu Yu stopped the \”brain strengthening project\” on her daughter after the strong suggestion of her doctor friend. But she did not stop building her daughter\’s \”excellent projects\”. She filled her daughter\’s spare time and hired tutors in various subjects to give her daughter one-on-one tutoring. The results of hiring a tutor were remarkable. In the first semester of fifth grade, Susu topped the class for the first time. Susu was chosen by her teacher as the \”dark horse\” in the class to participate in the district-wide intelligence competition. During the competition, Susu didn\’t even press the answering machine once, because the other students already knew the answer before she understood the question. In a diary she wrote later, Susu recalled this incident with deep emotion: I was slow to react and was always the one lagging behind in team activities. However, my mother is unwilling to admit thisPoint, she always thinks that she and her father are both elites. According to genetic inheritance, how could I not be smart? Therefore, having capable parents is not necessarily a good thing. I am not happy, but they are also living in hardship. The bully took advantage of her, and the nerd went to a prestigious school. In the summer of 1997, Susu finally entered junior high school. Liu Yu spent all her family\’s savings to hire some of the best tutors in Dalian City for Susu. In the end, Susu was trained to know the solution to the question as soon as she saw the first half of the question. Therefore, Susu can get the top five results in the class every time she takes the exam. Liu Yu was finally satisfied. The moment she got her daughter\’s report card, she said to Susu: \”Your intelligence was forcibly discovered by your mother.\” In 2000, Susu was admitted to Dalian No. 24 Middle School. In her first monthly exam in high school, Susu failed in everything. To this end, the head teacher and Liu Yu had a serious dialogue. When the teacher casually said that someone suspected that Susu was admitted to the No. 24 Middle School by knowing the test questions, Liu Yu became furious: \”I can sue you for defamation based on this sentence!\” After saying this, she dragged the teacher to the principal There was a heated exchange of words in the room, and finally Su Su\’s head teacher apologized to Liu Yu. Liu Yu took the opportunity to point out to the principal: \”The head teacher who is so prejudiced against Su Su is not suitable to be my daughter\’s teacher. I don\’t have to report this matter to the Education Committee, but the premise is that Su Su is transferred to the first (sixth) class of high school.\” \”The first (sixth) class of senior high school is a top class, so Su Su, who couldn\’t keep up with the progress, was transferred to a top class. Within a week, Susu, who had always obeyed her mother, told her: \”I want to drop out of school.\” Liu Yu\’s eyes almost popped out when he heard this. Susu was quite determined: \”I couldn\’t understand what the teacher said at all. The high school courses were really difficult for me. I want to go to a vocational school to study as a nurse and work in a nursing home in the future.\” Susu almost said that. The child did not choke Liu Yu to death. Liang Jun tried to persuade Liu Yu to respect the child\’s choice, but Liu Yu\’s reaction was very strong: \”Children who are 10,000 times worse than us can go to college, why can\’t she? I tell you Liang Jun, unless I do it tomorrow If I die, otherwise, I will definitely go to college with Su Su, and it will be a famous school!\” God paid off, and in 2003, Su Su was admitted to the School of Civil, Commercial and Economic Law of China University of Political Science and Law. The first lesson of the school year, safety education content, Lebi Yoyo\’s complete collection of popular science knowledge, all 52 episodes, Liu Yu burst into tears the day he received the admission notice. Liang Jun was even more grateful to Liu Yu: \”If it weren\’t for you, my daughter would be dead.\” The university life opened another window for Su Su. She hoped that without her mother\’s arrangements, she would be able to live as much as she wanted. Enjoy college life. However, reality quickly extinguished Susu\’s hopes. At the end of the first semester, Susu was the only person in the class who failed high math. As a result, Susu\’s college life was still like high school, except studying. She used \”poor\” to describe herself and her mother in her diary: It\’s pitiful for a smart mother to give birth to a child who is not smart and refuses to accept the reality. An unintelligent child has a smart mother, but is forced to grow up, which is pitiful. During the breakup dinner in her senior year, Susu drank a lot of wine and it was her turn to give her final speech.During her graduation speech, her speech made many classmates blush. \”After graduation, what everyone is most happy about is that they can finally go into society and be self-reliant. What I am most happy about is that I finally don\’t have to study anymore. These 16 years of studying have been so tiring that I didn\’t want to live many times… …\” Liu Yu used various connections to get Su Su into a Dalian law firm specializing in maritime litigation. Susu\’s master is a well-known lawyer in the industry and has very strict requirements for his subordinates. On her first day at work, Master gave Susu a task: to send an email to a client in Canada to inform her of the progress of the lawsuit and to ask the other party to provide a new piece of information. This task may be a trivial matter for others, but for Su Su, it is really a bit difficult. Because her foreign language proficiency was average and \”Maritime Law\” was not her major in college, she was not sure of many of the terms in the email. Seeing that Master was very busy, Su Su asked other colleagues for help, but the reply she got was: \”I am very busy, you should know that you have to do your own thing.\” In the evening, Master came back, and Su Su had to tell the truth to Master. At that time, she was a little angry: \”You can\’t do it, why don\’t you ask others for help? Do you know how much commission you will lose if you are delayed for one day?\” When Susu told Master that her colleagues refused to help, Master became even more angry: \”You usually don\’t pay attention to your interactions with others. Why should I help you? Do you want me to teach you how to ask others for help?\” Susu\’s tears couldn\’t stop anymore. She could feel that many colleagues were outside watching the room, and an idea came to Susu\’s mind. : No one in the unit will look down upon her anymore. Back home, Susu said to her mother: \”Mom, I don\’t want to work in this unit, I\’m not qualified at all.\” Liu Yu became angry when he heard this: \”You are a graduate of China University of Political Science and Law, and you have only worked for one day. Don\’t you feel embarrassed to say such things?\” As usual, Susu had to obey her mother\’s arrangement even though she was unwilling. On December 25, the office held a Christmas Party. Many people saw it as an opportunity to showcase their talents and enhance their connections, and they all used their special skills. However, when the host called on Su Su, she stood awkwardly on the stage, unable to think of any special skills she could show off. In the end, she solved the problem by reciting a Tang poem for everyone. Susu clearly felt that from that day on, she was completely reduced to a dispensable person in the company. What’s the point of living a “dispensable” life? She thought about quitting her job again and wanted to be a teacher in a rural primary school. But her mother once again stopped her thoughts: \”You can find a partner with better conditions if you stay in a good company. Don\’t worry, as long as you don\’t resign, this company will never be able to take you out because of your father\’s favor.\” Get out.\” Finally, one afternoon, Susu flew down from the 21st floor of her unit and died on the spot. A few days later, Liu Yucai found in his mailbox an email Susu had sent before she committed suicide. The content was very brief: Mom and Dad, I always hope to be the kind of person you want me to be, but I can never be that kind of person. people. I am very tired. I have been living in a circle that does not belong to me. The excellence of others is used to highlight my stupidity. too tired,I just want to rest, maybe I can find my kind in heaven, not smart, but live happily. These words made Liu Yu unable to calm down for a long time. When being interviewed by the author, the mother said with tears: \”I just wanted to use my daughter\’s life to make other parents aware of my family scandal.\” There is a Turkish proverb: God has prepared a short branch for every stupid bird. . This is a sentence I saw in Susu\’s diary. However, I just let her reach for the high branch that did not belong to her at all. As a result, she eventually fell down from the high place that did not belong to her. Looking back, didn\’t I just want her to be happy? Measured by this standard, grades and prestigious schools are not important at all. As long as she likes the life of eating branyan vegetables, what\’s wrong with it? How to love our children? The story of this mother and daughter makes us very sad. The lost daughter, the sad mother… How should we love our children? Is it strict or kind? Is captive or stocking? I believe everyone has his or her own answer. As a parent, if you really have the hope that your child will become an extraordinary person, or at least hope that he can live a happy life, then don’t sacrifice the good and the bad, but go back to the roots and teach your children how to be ordinary in the ordinary world. Get happiness! Postscript: This is a heavy topic that every caring parent can feel. But this is also a problem, and most parents are unaware of it. 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