\”Mom, I wish I were your mobile phone…\” A little girl\’s wish made everyone cry

▲ On January 3, 2017, Ms. Xiao, who was working in Xi’an, took her two children to the Hot Spring World. While Ms. Xiao was watching the children, she played with her mobile phone, but her son, who was under 4 years old, entered the deep pool. From the surveillance, we can see that the child is struggling not far behind the mother. But until the child completely sank to the bottom of the water, the mother was still looking at the phone. ▲ In April 2016, a mother in Lu\’an, Anhui Province was playing with her child in the community while playing on her mobile phone. She completely failed to notice that her child walked to the right front of a waiting car (the driver\’s blind spot). The driver waited until no one saw the child and started the car. As a result, the child was crushed to death. ▲ In August 2015, a father in Dongyang, Jinhua, was only playing with his mobile phone while watching his child. When he came to his senses, he found that his daughter who was playing with toys next to him was missing. After searching, he found that the child had fallen from the window on the third floor. On the 1st floor, life is in danger. ▲ At noon on September 24, 2014, a young mother in Baoan District, Shenzhen was just playing with her mobile phone in her room, but did not notice that her one-year-old and two-month-old daughter ran to the toilet alone to play with water. As a result, she accidentally fell into a bucket and drowned. ………I know clearly that some tragedy has happened, but it can never be undone! But the reality is that many people never leave their mobile phones. They carry them with them wherever they go. If they don’t look at them for a minute, they feel like they have missed out on hundreds of millions. Even though he has become a father and a mother, he still “doesn’t change his nature.” Someone asked on Zhihu: \”What are the consequences of playing with mobile phones in front of children?\” One of the divine replies replied: \”Children will think that the mobile phone belongs to you.\” This reply is heart-breaking and hits the nail on the head! A little girl faced the parents of a patient who was severely dependent on mobile phones and said pitifully: \”Mom, I wish I were your mobile phone. In this way, you will always hold me, smile at me, talk to me, and… You won’t tell me to stop bothering you and go find my grandparents to play with me.” Another 6-year-old child told the doctor during a psychological consultation: “When my parents are playing with their mobile phones, I feel like I don’t The same thing exists. I keep calling them, but sometimes they don’t even look up at me, as if they can’t hear me calling them at all.” After hearing the voices of these children, we just want to ask these parents: Who is the right person? Is it your biological child? Cell phone, or kids? Do you dare to put down your mobile phone, look into your child\’s eyes and say, \”I will stay with you right now\”? There is a friend named Ling. She and her husband are the type of people who never leave their phones. As a father, I am usually busy with business and have many phone calls from clients. Once when I came back from a business trip, my 3-year-old daughter happily clung to her father to play with her, but her cell phone kept ringing. Every time she was enjoying herself, she was always interrupted by a phone call. At first, the child patiently waited for his father to finish the phone call and continued to play. After several times, the daughter started to make trouble and clicked the toys loudly. The father couldn\’t bear the disturbance, so he grabbed the toy and threw it out of the window. At this moment, it exploded: the child started crying, and the mother rushed over to comfort her daughter while blaming her husband. The father couldn\’t make a call on the phone, and they broke up. . As for the mother, although she usually spends time with her daughterMore often than not, but my mobile phone is never left my body. I hold my mobile phone even when walking, either checking Moments or watching Korean dramas. Once, when she was looking at her mobile phone and was fascinated, her daughter called to her side for a long time: \”Mom, come play with me for a while.\” She casually responded, \”Yeah, okay,\” but her eyes still didn\’t leave the phone screen. Her daughter was anxious. She cried loudly: \”Mom, you don\’t love me!\” Then the mother realized that she quickly put down her phone and played with her child for a while. But the next time, Ling\’s hand picked up the phone unconsciously… \”Don\’t I always stay with my children?\” She hypnotized herself. After listening to Ling\’s story, I had to tell her straightforwardly: \”Although you are by the child\’s side, your heart is not with the child. You can only accompany the child without accompanying him. For the child, such absent-minded companionship is actually more serious.\” It\’s a mental harm!\” Actually, I didn\’t say the last part: When you are absent-mindedly accompanying your child and scrolling through your phone immersedly, have you ever noticed that your child is looking at you resentfully? Ling thought for a while and explained: \”I am very tired from taking care of my children every day. Besides, my children are in kindergarten, so it\’s not a big deal to play by myself for a while. Besides, I don\’t use my phone just for fun, I have many things to deal with.\” , when I finish it, I will concentrate on spending time with my child.\” Well, as a friend, I must take strong medicine! \”You can wait, but children can\’t wait. Because we are busy looking at mobile phones, we will inevitably pay less attention to our children. If you search online, accidental injuries to children caused by parents\’ addiction to mobile phones occur every year. And once tragedy strikes It\’s too late to say anything!\” After that, I told her the news at the beginning of the article. After hearing the news, Ling was shocked and couldn\’t help but sigh: \”How will these families survive in the future?\” She made up her mind to never play with her mobile phone in front of her children again, and said she would pass on these words. Give it to your husband and ask him to put down his cell phone and spend more time with his children. Children’s growth is irreversible, it’s not too late to put down the phone now! In fact, in addition to accidents due to negligence, parents treating their mobile phones as their \”own\” ones will also cause great harm to the growth of their children and even the entire family! ① Affects the close relationship between parents and children. When your attention is highly focused on the mobile phone, the child will feel ignored and even think that he is not as important as the mobile phone in the eyes of his parents. In order to compensate for this damage, children may cry, smash things, etc. to attract their parents\’ attention. ② Affects children\’s communication skills. Children who are ignored by their parents are likely to feel lonely mentally, lack psychological security, and tend to be autistic and anxious. When they grow up, they will also have problems in face-to-face interpersonal communication and lack cooperation. Spirit. ③ The second generation of parents who are \”low-headed\” are cultivated and are busy playing with mobile phones. Children will also become interested in mobile phones, iPads and other electronic products, entertain themselves by playing mobile phones and games, and find emotional sustenance on the Internet and TV. . ④ Affects the relationship between husband and wife. If there is a father or mother who never leaves his or her mobile phone, or both of them are busy playing with their mobile phones and complain about each other.If you ignore your children, complaints and conflicts between families will inevitably arise. How can a disharmonious family give the most complete love to its children? I sincerely recommend that parents: ♥ Make an agreement with your children not to use mobile phones at specific times and areas. For example, it is stipulated that during a period of time after dinner, you can put down your mobile phone and chat, play, and have heart-to-heart conversations with your children. So as not to affect the child\’s mood and make the child think that you \”love your mobile phone more\”. ♥ If you can’t get away from your phone completely when you get home, at least try to stay away from your phone during parent-child time such as eating, telling stories, and sleeping. In particular, you should enjoy the precious time before bed, tell the children a bedtime story, and read a book with them. Never tell your children \”go to sleep\” while picking up your phone to play around them. ♥ If you really have something important to do, you can explain it clearly to your child instead of rudely rejecting your child\’s request to accompany you, or blaming your child for annoying you, and pick up your phone to work on your own. Don\’t use \”busy\” as an excuse to play with mobile phones. Such deception will do more psychological damage to children.