Mom is so stupid, teasing the child like this

During parent-child time last night, classmate Zhe started role-playing: \”Mom, I pretend to be Zhao XX, and you pretend to be XX\’s mother, okay?\” I replied: \”Okay, okay.\” The little guy quickly got into the role, He told me very devotedly that today in the kindergarten, Zhao XX was criticized by the teacher for something. Zhao XX shared something good with others. Zhao XX hopes that his mother will be the first to pick him up tomorrow… something happened that day There are also facts and expectations he has for me, such as hoping that I can pick him up early. Suddenly, my head went crazy and I wanted to tease him, so I blurted out a sentence without thinking: \”Let mom hug me, mom likes Zhao XX the most, and I don\’t like other children…\” Before I could finish speaking, Zhe My classmate started shouting loudly: \”I hate mom!\” I didn\’t react and wanted to hug him: \”Why do you suddenly hate mom?\” Classmate Zhe\’s voice became louder: \”I just hate mom! Mom said she likes Zhao × the most ×, he doesn’t like me!” I suddenly understood: Although he likes role-playing, he still can’t think in a roundabout way. Although he took the initiative to say that he is Zhao ××, when I said that he liked this child, he thought straight and felt that his mother didn’t love him. He did. I quickly apologized: \”I\’m sorry, mom shouldn\’t have said that. Mom likes Zhe Zhe the most. Can you forgive mom now?\” The child was obviously extremely uneasy: \”No, I don\’t want to laugh now, I\’m not happy now!\” When it was time to go to bed, the child was still angry: \”I\’m not happy today. I won\’t go to kindergarten tomorrow. I hate my mother. I hate Zhao ××!\” At night, classmate Zhe didn\’t sleep well and woke up two or three times during the night. They all screamed and sat up, and hit people angrily – the unhappiness before going to bed extended into sleep. In the past, I paid less attention to entertaining children. What happened to classmate Zhe yesterday made me realize that for children, teasing can really seriously hurt their young minds! In the community, we often see such a scene. After acquaintances meet, after greetings, one party starts to tease the other party\’s children. It ranges from squeezing the child\’s face and forcing him to hug him, to the more severe ones, snatching away the things the child is playing with or pretending to take the child away. Some even say \”Where is your mother? Don\’t you want it?\” You?\” For a little baby who takes everything seriously, how big is the shadow in his heart when he sees adults taking away toys and hears that his mother doesn\’t want him? At gatherings of relatives and friends, babies often become the center of attention. In order to express their love for their children, they often choose to express love in the Chinese style: Is your father better or your mother better? Mom has given birth to a little brother/little sister and doesn’t like you anymore; your clothes are not as good-looking as your brother/sister’s, take them off and throw them away; call grandpa/grandma and give you big red envelopes/candy/play with cars, otherwise I only give it to others and not to you; sleep with me today and I will give you delicious food; sing a song/dance. Why are you so shy? Have you not learned it in extracurricular classes? Faced with these teases , extroverted children may choose to cooperate, while shy children may be frightened to tears. During the Mid-Autumn Festival, a friend brought his son to visit. Because he wanted to try mooncakes with coconut filling, his uncle deliberately took them away and refused to give them to him. He was so angry that he cried. The other adults added another blow: \”Men are one.\”I just cry over a piece of moon cake. If I’m not ashamed, how can I do big things in the future? \”Obviously, it was a group of adults who made the child cry, and they also wanted to punish the three-year-old child for being too petty. My friend had a hot temper and came out of the kitchen to see his son crying. After asking the reason, he didn\’t give face to the relatives and took his son back to him. Home, while walking on the road, soothe the child\’s injured heart and let him understand that wanting to eat mooncakes has nothing to do with crying and being timid. When others tease the child, you can choose to fight in a simple and crude way like my friend, so as to reduce the harm to the child. to the lowest; you can also choose a more rounded solution – some people say that after you have a younger brother/sister, you will no longer like Dabao. Mothers should quickly stand with their children and tell Dabao that they will always love him/her; when someone asks When a child chooses who is better, mom or dad, and is at a loss, you can answer with a smile: \”Of course mom and dad are equally good!\” \”When a child\’s things are snatched away by an adult, you can take out other items to divert attention, or respond to the baby immediately: \”Baby, do you want to give it to your uncle/aunt?\” How about we both go together? \”When someone says that a child\’s clothes are too ugly, we immediately find out the elements of the clothes that the child likes and let them turn their attention to the details that interest them; when someone threatens not to give red envelopes without calling someone, we can tell the child that it is OK You can choose whether to yell or not, and it doesn’t matter whether you want red envelopes or not; when someone tempts the child with something he likes to eat, let the child know what he wants, and parents can satisfy him appropriately; when someone asks the child to sing, dance and recite poems, they can squat down and Ask your children: \”If you want to sing, you can sing. If you don\’t want to, your grandparents won\’t be angry. They respect children the most.\” \”Kick the ball to the opponent. If the opponent still doesn\’t understand, you can ask the child to ask: \”Grandpa and grandma, please sing me a song first!\” \”Even if there is no malicious teasing, it will never bring happiness to the child. Therefore, a tactful refusal will give the other party a step up; of course, the mother can also find excuses to keep the child away from the \”disaster scene\”. The most important thing is that as a parent, Also be careful, don’t make a mistake like me at the beginning of the article and make your children sulky late at night. If you think these teases are too fussy, you can think about it: at a gathering of relatives and friends, someone suddenly said seriously in the middle of the table, \”You guys last week The house you just sold could sell for tens of thousands more for the same type of house this week.\” When you feel regretful, everyone bursts into laughter and says, \”I\’m just kidding you.\” Do you think it\’s funny?