Mom who is not defeated by these five words, I respect you as a hero

When I survived the two years of breastfeeding, I thought I could finally let the baby\’s father take over the job. Who knew that Riyaojun would not be able to take charge of the job on his own? Xiaowei still shouted: \”Let dad go to work, and mommy will stay with me at home!\” \”I don\’t want dad to play with my toys, I want mom to play with me!\” \”I don\’t want dad to hug me, mom will hug me! Hug! Hug!\” When Xiaowei finally stopped taking night feeds, I thought I could sleep well. Who knew that this energetic guy would be happy every night until twelve o\’clock (Riyaojun was lucky, at most he would be woken up by Xiaowei with something when he fell asleep; and I had no choice but to sit aside He looked at this guy angrily while chanting a mantra: \”Go to sleep, why don\’t you go to sleep? If you don\’t go to bed, mom will go to sleep\”). Are you relieved when you fall asleep? NO! I still have to sense it all the time and change the diaper pad for him who wets the bed! When I finally made Xiaowei go through three years of separation anxiety through hard work, threats and inducements, thinking that he would no longer go to work with a sense of grievance and unknown anger, who knew that the most serious separation anxiety in kindergarten would start again? . When the separation anxiety in kindergarten that lasted for one or two months finally ended, Xiaowei finally got rid of the curse of \”her grandpa will not cry when she sends him to her, but her mother will cry when she sends her to her\”. We can finally go to the kindergarten together happily and kiss again. , friendly farewell; when Xiaowei can finally go to bed before eleven o\’clock, and can sleep until dawn; when Xiaowei finally stops wetting the bed, and occasionally lets me hold him on the toilet when he wants to pee; when Xiaowei finally can I was finally willing to cooperate in taking a bath and washing my hands, and was able to apply soap and brush my teeth by myself; that day, Yaojun finally had the strength to take care of the baby for a whole day, and I could take time to swim and read a book; when all difficulties seemed far away, we were moving towards infinity When the wonderful and harmonious parent-child relationship is moving forward – Xiaowei becomes ill. In fact, this disease started when he was in kindergarten, but we didn\’t take it seriously at that time. After all, Xiao Wei has been in good health since he was a child. He occasionally has diarrhea, colds and fevers. If it is not serious, he can handle it without taking medicine; if it is slightly serious, he can get through it without taking medicine. If you order it, go to the hospital and prescribe some medicine. Just take it twice and you will be cured. Not to mention me being a big-hearted person, even my grandfather, who would jump anxiously when his child coughed, and grandma, who would sigh with worry, gradually became calmer later on. At first, the main symptom was a cough, so we treated it as a cough and gave him cough syrup. Later, after more than half a month, he still didn’t feel better. When he went to the hospital, he was diagnosed as bronchitis. After taking medicine and nursing for another half a month, he still didn’t feel better. I just found out I had allergic rhinitis. (Regarding allergic rhinitis, many cases I read and heard on the Internet were not accurately diagnosed at the beginning, resulting in children taking a lot of unnecessary medicine and suffering for a long time. In fact, allergic rhinitis and ordinary coughs can be treated The differences are, for example, the child keeps rubbing his nose and sneezing frequently. If these two obvious characteristics are found, parents should pay attention.) This allergic rhinitis has lasted for almost four months, and I have asked for several consultations. During the second vacation, Riyaojun and I sacrificed several weekends together. We left our footprints in four of the best children\’s hospitals in the city, and we went out of our way to coax Xiaowei to take medicine and do allergen tests… (Thanks to Popsicle) With this magical existence, Xiaowei persisted in the allergen test)The funniest thing is that I don’t hesitate to try the folk remedies I found online. In the middle of the night, after I finally waited for Xiao Wei to fall asleep, I pounded the alum and vinegar and mixed them evenly. Then I lay down carefully at Xiao Wei\’s feet like mine clearance, and fixed it on the Yongquan point on the sole of his foot with a small piece of plastic and medical tape. But the strange thing is that this child always notices discomfort in his feet in the middle of the night and asks me to remove them… So I don\’t know if this method is useful. Mothers who are in urgent need of medical treatment can try it. no side effects. These are nothing, the key point is, if you count on your fingers, this illness alone has already cost tens of thousands of yuan. Travel expenses, doctor\’s fees and medical expenses, even if they cost tens or hundreds, they only add up to two or three thousand. The most important thing is that the allergen detected is dust mites, and the most important thing in treating allergic diseases is to avoid them. Prescribe allergens. Therefore, Riyaojun and I did not hesitate to replace all the beds and mattresses in the bedroom that had been used for five years, and thoroughly cleaned them. I originally wanted to replace the wardrobe, but gave up because it would be troublesome to renovate a handmade wardrobe. I also seriously considered the feasibility of moving to a city with good air quality. After all, the air quality in City Z is poor, and there is no guarantee that my child will not suffer from rhinitis again. (I don’t know if it’s luck or misfortune. We don’t have money. If we had money, I don’t know what we would do.) I deeply feel: what night feeding, what coaxing to sleep, what anxiety, what difficulties, in the \”child is sick\” In front of this big BUG, ​​it\’s not even worth mentioning. A child\’s illness is a first-level alarm in a mother\’s life. You must use your time, money, energy, and wisdom to win this battle. In this way, four vigorous months passed. I don’t know what caused it, but the child’s allergic rhinitis finally became less severe. My fragile little heart just settled back into my chest. However – last Friday, the child got herpetic pharyngitis and buccal inflammation again. So on a precious weekend, Xiaowei couldn\’t attend the painting class he had arranged for, and I couldn\’t attend my swimming class either. The child had a high fever, coughed, was clingy, irritable, and cried… I asked for leave, nursed, went to the hospital, coaxed the child to take medicine, and was anxious… I was exhausted mentally and physically. No wonder some people say: When a woman becomes a mother, she is most easily defeated by five words – the child is sick. Mothers here are almost becoming active volcanoes, but Riyao-jun over there is still nagging ignorantly: Look at the pile of clothes you have, and wash what needs to be washed. It’s hard to see how messy the house is. Comfortable? I felt an unknown anger and immediately shouted back: \”Look, do I have time?\” I work during the day and have children at night, and my children are sick on weekends. I am busy until 12 o\’clock at night every day. Where do I have time to do laundry? Riyaojun continued to seek death: I\’m just telling you, why are you so angry? Can you call your home a home if you don’t tidy it up? It’s not like you haven’t tidied up once or twice. Look at my clothes, aren’t they all hung up properly? I almost roared: \”If you don\’t like me, hurry up and change it. Go to the Civil Affairs Bureau tomorrow to go through the formalities!!!\” Mr. Riyao ran away, and I cried in despair. In fact, I didn’t even cry for a few seconds, because Xiaowei was frightened by my tears and he also started crying. I quickly controlled my emotions and held back my tears, and teased him with a smile. So, after becoming a mother, even negative emotions no longer belong to me. Fortunately, two days after the fever, except for the fact that the oral herpes has not completely subsided, Xiaowei\’s spirit has recovered, and my mood has improved a lot. On Sunday afternoon, Ri Yaojun suggested taking the children to see the newly released \”Transformers\”, so I set out with great interest and no grudges, completely forgetting about the divorce. Life is not a gorgeous robe, it is clearly a tattered robe, and it is full of lice. But even so, we still have to wipe away the tears, forget the pain, and muster up the courage to enjoy life. I thought of Romain Rolland\’s words: There is only one true heroism in the world, and that is to still love life after knowing the truth of life. Therefore, every mother who has not been defeated by small bugs such as feces and urine or big bugs such as sick children, come and raise a glass and say that we are heroes.