Mother Holland has an alternative view on children with poor grades. What should I do if my children have poor grades?

\”He\’s mother, what\’s your Hehe\’s final exam score, and did you get a certificate? My little Bing did poorly in the exam this time, and he didn\’t get a certificate. It\’s really annoying!\” \”He\’s mother, did your child get a certificate during the summer vacation? A cram school. My family Yihong has enrolled in a cram school. Don’t think about saving that little money. It’s still useful to study more.” Sigh… Every time my child finishes an exam, people will come over and ask me intermittently. Every time I hear I\’m a bit overwhelmed by this question and don\’t know how to answer it. To be honest, deep down in my heart I really refuse this comparison. no one is perfect. Every child has advantages and disadvantages. You cannot deny all the advantages of a child just because of a score sheet. Maybe some people will complain that I am looking for excuses for their children to fail in the exam, and maybe some people will blame me as a mother for being too irresponsible and looking for excuses for my own incompetence. I remember watching \”Tiger Mom and Cat Dad\” starring Zhao Wei and Tong Dawei some time ago. What impressed me most was the finale: the child was in the green nature, and there was a sky for the child to play freely. That picture is so beautiful. The child\’s carefree and innocent expression really makes me envious. Why do I rarely see such expressions on children’s faces? Should I also reflect on whether there are any problems with the way I educate my children? I accidentally saw a line of text: Why must I succeed every time? Even if I fail, it is my right! This sentence suddenly touched the depths of my heart. Yes, going back to when we were students, let me ask: Were we famous as academic leaders in school? Although we may not all be bad academics, are we still some distance away from being “a top student”? We also thought about studying hard and working hard, but the results may not always be satisfactory. We can\’t figure out those maths and geometry even if we beat our heads, we still can\’t pronounce those English words, and we still can\’t figure out those physics and chemistry. Not sure why there is a reaction? So, every time we sneer at our children\’s scores impassionedly, let\’s put ourselves in their shoes and think about whether we can do it? Should we praise our children without hesitation when they make some progress? How about giving your children some comfort and positive encouragement when they regress or make mistakes? When a child is discouraged and lost, can we give her a big hug and say to her: \”It doesn\’t matter!\” Can we not compare, whose child is so good, why is my child like this? In fact, we just lack discovery. Maybe there is another side of our children that we have not discovered yet, or maybe it has been erased by our words at some point. Of course, I\’m not a parenting expert, and I often get \”nervous\” from naughty children. Recently, I often listen to parenting programs and learn some parenting skills and experiences from them. The old saying \”live until you are old and learn until you are old\” really makes sense. Parenting is really a university subject, and mothers really have a lot to learn! Moms, if you still can’t control your emotions and lose your temper, just say silently in your heart: This child was born by me, and it was inherited from me.She has genes, so she blames me. If she inherited it from her father, then her father was also chosen by me, and I chose it…so she still blames me! Haha…doesn\’t this make you feel more comfortable? As the author said, whether you do well or not in the exam is your own child and your own genes. Grades are not the only criterion for judging whether a child is excellent or not. The editor wishes all mothers and fathers a peaceful mind. Text｜He Xin Ma