Mother walks on the street chasing her daughter to study: Never raise your child to a higher class in the family

Two days ago, I saw a piece of news reported by \”Metropolitan Express\” and I felt mixed emotions. In Taizhou, Zhejiang, a mother knelt down in front of her daughter in the street, crying and begging her to go to class. The cause of the matter was that the girl\’s academic performance was not good, so her mother signed her up for a tutoring class. The teacher called my mother many times and said that the child was not studying seriously. At first, her mother patiently communicated with her, but the girl\’s temper was very stubborn, and her mother had no choice but to kneel down and beg her. The girl scolded her as she walked, but the mother did not stand up, but chased the child on her knees. Onlookers at the scene said that the girl said to her mother indifferently: It is none of my business if you kneel to death. A child who turns a blind eye to his mother\’s good intentions and tramples on his mother\’s dignity is really heartbreaking. Parents who kneel cannot raise children who stand. Guide your children to learn to share reasonably. This mother may not know that it is her unrestricted love for her children that makes her children so cold and callous. I also want to give a reminder to all parents: Never raise your children to be a higher class member of the family. If parents love too much, the higher the child\’s family status, the humbler the parents will be. The final result is that the parents suffer and the children are harmed. 01 There is a terrible phenomenon in today\’s society: there are more and more \”rich second generations\” from poor families. Writer Zhang Ying has a relative, and the couple are struggling to run a small shop. With the development of social e-commerce, it is difficult to do small store business. Sometimes, after a month of busy work, the couple can only make ends meet, excluding rent and utility bills. In order to make a living, the wife kept the shop alone, and the husband changed his career to driving a taxi. The couple has always been budget-conscious, not buying new clothes for a year or two, and eating and drinking very frugally. But when their son saw a pair of shoes costing 1,000 yuan in the mall, they bought them without saying a word. The first thing my son did when he came home from his freshman year was to ask his parents for an iPhone, saying that his phone was too cheap and he couldn\’t stand up in front of his classmates. Then the parents delayed the payment for a month and squeezed out 6,000 yuan to replace their son\’s mobile phone. If there is no bottom line in enrichment, it will become a knife that kills children. This kid has been pampered since he was a child. He didn\’t study hard and got a junior college diploma. After graduation, I worked in a factory. After working for half a month, I felt tired and miserable, so I quit my job and played games at home every day. Professor Li Bo of Nanjing Normal University said: \”This is an era of rich second generations. We accuse the rich second generation of inappropriate behavior, but in fact we are all practitioners of the rich second generation.\” Many parents, no matter how good their family conditions are, They all fall into an education trap: No matter how poor you are, you can’t afford education = No matter how poor you are, you can’t afford poor children. Regardless of the differences in family resources, they save money and spend everything they have so that their children can enjoy the best living conditions. I am reluctant to spend one or two hundred yuan on new clothes, but my child is wearing famous brands. My own phone is stuck and I am willing to get a new one, but my child is using the latest model. I work hard outside and can\’t bear to eat a packed lunch. A meal for my children will cost hundreds of dollars. Anyway, no matter what the family situation is, we must give our children the best things. As a result, ordinary families have forcibly cultivated a \”rich second generation\” who spends money lavishly and is ignorant of the sufferings of the world. The biggest failure in education is that parents from ordinary families raise their children to be vain and vain.\”Rich kid\”. 02 I watched a video that left a very deep impression on me. A courier father in Shenyang was forced to stand outside the door by his 16-year-old son because he did not buy an iPhone for his son. He insulted his father with vicious words for the first time. \”Look at you, you are as useless as you want to be. Why do I have a father like you?\” \” Throughout the whole process, the father remained silent and allowed his son to scold him. Finally, the son said harshly: \”If I can\’t see my iPhone when I go home, you can be my son, do you hear me? Kneel down! \”The father actually knelt down and apologized to his son. Where did this father go wrong? His mistake was that he had been obedient and responsive to his child\’s requests for a long time. In the end, the child was pampered and raised to the point of being lawless. In the end, every A rebellious child is the result of unprincipled pampering by his parents step by step. Some parents always feel that they owe their children because of their poor conditions, so they pamper their children even more. Regardless of family resources, they tighten their belts and spend money on their children, thinking that they can Raising elites actually feeds children\’s vanity. For example, this father in Changsha, Hunan. After his daughter was born, he regarded her as the apple of his eye, and he met all her requests. As a result, her daughter gradually turned into a flower. A shopaholic who doesn’t blink at money. Not only did his daughter spend all her savings, but she also secretly mortgaged her father’s car, resulting in a debt of more than 700,000 yuan. The father was forced to sell the house to pay off the debt for his daughter. The father regretted it : “I bought her whatever she wanted since she was little, which resulted in the bad consequences she has today. She was at fault and so was I. \”There is also the 23-year-old international student who attacked Peking University\’s father online. She dropped out of college, and her father used all his savings to send her to study in Spain. In order to make his daughter live comfortably, the father gave his daughter a monthly salary of 13,000, and he gave her 10,000. He was so frugal that he only had a bowl of millet porridge and a plate of pickles for dinner. After discovering that his daughter had overdrawn her credit card, he just tried to persuade her to be more frugal, but her daughter angrily scolded her: \”Old guy, if you can\’t support me, don\’t have a baby then.\” Not only that, she also posted a message calling on netizens to bully her biological father. Shala, a researcher at the Shanghai Academy of Social Sciences, said: The love that Chinese parents give their children is not too little, but too much. Arsenic can be used as medicine, but too much sugar can cause harm. People. Children who have been raised in wealth are accustomed to a life where they have clothes to eat and food to eat, and they think that everything they get is natural. In the end, they will be like vampires, possessing their parents and sucking their blood. , gnaw their bones. 03 Good education is never about letting children soak in honeypots, but about letting them recognize the truth of life as early as possible. Only by letting children truly feel the hardships of their parents, will they not let them down. A lot of hard work. A teacher showed the students in class how their fathers were working. Some of the children’s fathers were carrying dozens of bricks on their shoulders, bending their backs and moving carefully. There were also fathers who were shaking off With his arms, he hit the wall with a sledgehammer, and every blow was very strenuous. There was also a father whose face was covered with dirt, and he was having a meal. Their food was just a few steamed buns and a bowl of porridge. After watching this, many children felt that their father was not easy. , cried into a ball in the classroom. The child had never seen his parents working.If you don’t have a good environment, you won’t be able to appreciate the hard work of making money. If parents filter and shield their children from all the difficulties and hardships in life, and deliberately create a carefree living environment for their children, how can they expect them to feel the kindness of their parents? Zhong Pengchen, who was admitted to Peking University, his mother is a cleaner at Tianzi Mountain Scenic Area in Zhangjiajie. During holidays, Zhong Pengchen would help his mother with work. Because he truly understood the difficulties of his mother, in order not to burden his parents, he did his own laundry, cooking, housework, and study arrangements, never letting his parents worry about him. Moreover, Zhong Pengchen studied very hard. At that time, he was determined to be admitted to Peking University to give his parents a reputation. He gets up at 4:30 every morning, takes 5 minutes for breakfast, 9 minutes for lunch, and 7 minutes for dinner. Even when he goes to the toilet, Zhong Pengchen takes a book with him. This is how he realizes his dream of Peking University. Yu Minhong once said meaningfully in a speech: \”Chinese children have been given too much and are so accustomed to being given that they take being given as a matter of course. When they are no longer given, You will feel great pain.\” As parents, especially parents from ordinary families, we must always remember: while paying for our children, we should also not forget to teach him to be considerate and caring for others. Children are not born knowing how to empathize with their parents. Only when they truly understand the hardships faced by their parents will they feel grateful and use their understanding and hard work to give back to their families. 04 An educationist put forward a point of view: \”Good education is the construction of the soul, not the accumulation of money. Rather than giving children gold and silver, it is better to give them excellent qualities.\” Compared with material wealth, the quality of children , personality is more worthy of parents\’ efforts to cultivate. Teacher Fan Deng has a friend who has always encouraged his daughter to be independent. When she was 14 years old, her daughter packed her bags and flew alone for 27 hours to study abroad. After getting off the plane, I learned that children under the age of 15 are not allowed to fly alone, and my daughter was detained at the airport. She called her parents, but instead of asking for help, she calmly said, \”Let me try to solve it myself.\” The girl showed the police a series of documents proving that she was here to study. Customs cleared her smoothly. The captain admired her courage and took photos with her. Parents cannot always stay with their children and be their lifelong protectors. To truly love a child is to give him an independent personality and strength so that he can take over his own life. Xia Shihe, a professor at Wenzhou University, bought a house after working. The house was not decorated much and there were not even a few decent pieces of furniture. But there is a large study room at home with thousands of books in it. Under the influence of Xia Shihe, her daughter fell in love with reading when she was in elementary school. My daughter’s world has not become narrow and impoverished because of material scarcity, but has become broader and richer because she has read more books. The daughter laughed at herself and said that her father did not give me any wealth, but he trained me to be a \”rich second generation with knowledge\”. Hugo said: With matter, that is survival; with spirit, that is life. True enrichment should fully cultivate and irrigate the spiritual world of children. A father once took his 4-year-old daughter from Dongguan to Lhasa after more than 70 days on a bicycle. He took his daughter to climb Jade Dragon Snow Mountain,I hope that children will understand the greatness of nature and the insignificance of human beings, and learn to respect nature. They were helped by many villagers and strangers along the way, and they gave back the love and kindness so that their daughter could learn to share. They encountered many difficulties and challenges along the way, but both father and daughter insisted on not giving up. No matter how much wealth you bring to your children, it is better to let them see the breadth of the world. Only in this way can he open his horizons, look forward to a bigger world, and fly high and go far when he grows up. ▽Yu Guangzhong said in \”Written to You in the Future\”: \”No matter how the world trend changes, people\’s excellent qualities are eternal: integrity, courage, responsibility, and independence.\” I think this sentence is relevant to all parents of ordinary families. It has reference significance. People spend their lives on the road. Instead of giving your child a pair of brand-name shoes, it is better to give him a pair of walking feet. Wise parents never enrich their children materially, but enrich their children spiritually and personally. Excellent qualities are a child\’s ability to be independent in the world. Give it a thumbs up and may you raise children who are spiritually rich and grateful.