Mothers who don’t know how to control their emotions cannot raise children with sunny personalities.

There is a relatively famous TV show that invites some talented celebrities and guests to play games. In one episode, they invited an internet celebrity boy who was under 5 years old. During the break in the recording of the program, the little boy may have been too tired and suddenly became unhappy. He walked off the stage and walked to his mother, puffing his lips and not wanting to move. The director and guests came over to coax him, but to no avail. He was unwilling to go on stage and continue recording. Just when everyone was helpless, a surprising scene happened: the little boy\’s mother suddenly slapped him several times, crying and scolding him. The host and guests quickly tried to dissuade him. Faced with all this, the little boy did not cry loudly, but shed tears silently. His young and tender face was full of forbearance and fear. After the program clips were circulated on the Internet, people criticized the child\’s mother one after another. I also felt sorry for the child from the bottom of my heart: he became famous too early and did things that maybe he didn\’t understand at his age, and the mother who accompanied him was not gentle. If you are not satisfied, you will get angry with him. Not only did he lose his freedom, he also lost his happiness. Mother is an important role in influencing a child\’s life. Some mothers educate their children in a strict but measured way. However, some mothers use random expression of emotions as a means to control their children, which destined their children to have an unhappy childhood and make it difficult to develop a healthy and sunny character. The more you yell, the lower your child\’s self-esteem will be. My colleague, Sister Xin, is an HR executive in the company, but she is helpless with her 10-year-old son. She said a typical day at home with her children would leave her with smoke in her throat, and she would go into rant mode whenever school report cards came in. Sister Xin deeply feels that in this highly competitive society, it is difficult to survive without good diplomas and talents. Her son is naturally gentle and reserved, but in her eyes he lacks \”wolf nature\”. When speaking to her son, she, who has a stronger personality, can\’t help but raise her voice: \”Hurry up, you are moving slowly, why are you acting like a girl!\” With your grades, you can\’t even get into a better junior high school. How can you get into a high school or a good university?\” \”I ask you to do homework, but you only think about having fun all day long. I don\’t earn money to support you just for you to play! \”… The yelling day after day did not bring about the child\’s progress. Instead, it made him tired of studying, even more listless, and even refused to communicate with his family. Sister Xin found a psychiatrist, and the doctor said that the child actually had great potential, but she just didn\’t believe in herself. His mother\’s yelling was a time bomb in his heart. He felt that no matter what he did, he could never get his mother\’s love, and all he got in exchange was roaring and blaming. Therefore, he was introverted, had low self-esteem, and had a weak aura at a young age. Sister Xin did not expect that her impatience and loud voice could hurt her child so deeply, and she blamed herself very much. At that moment, she didn\’t care about grades or further education. She just wanted her child to believe that she loved him and that he was the best son in the world. Mother is the closest person to a child in the world, and your attitude towards your child will go deep into their hearts. If the mother is hysterical about her child all day long, constantly denying him and scolding him, it will make him lose his sense of self-identity. The formation of many low-self-esteem personalities is caused by verbal blows from relatives. What you yell out is not the mother\’s majesty, but what you yell away is the child\’s self-confidence. Your complaints will make your children lose theirMy best friend Xiao Sang, who has a sense of security, is almost 30 years old and is still not married and has no stable relationship. It\’s not that she isn\’t beautiful, but that she has a personality disorder. Xiao Sang said that she has been an insecure child since she was a child. Her parents were in a bad marriage, her father didn\’t like coming home, and her childhood was spent with her mother complaining endlessly. My mother\’s complaints have long been a habit. She not only complains about my father, but also complains about life and everything around me. Her mother said that men have no good things, and everyone is selfish. There are no good people in the world, and God is not fair… What\’s worse is that Xiao Sang has been with her mother for the longest time since she was a child, and she firmly believes in her mother\’s words. No doubt. Even though she grew up and learned that this was not good, the feeling of insecurity was still deep in her bones and lingered. In life, Xiao Sang will always have a negative view no matter what she encounters; when she encounters a slight setback, she will make it worse; even the slightest reaction from others to her will cause her heart to fluctuate. She is sensitive and suspicious, and every time she has a boyfriend, eventually others can\’t stand her suspicion and leave her. She is replicating her mother\’s tragedy and allowing herself to live like a fragile cartilaginous animal. Everyone is more or less trying to reconcile with the harm caused by their original family, but it is so difficult to truly be calm and relaxed. Xiao Sang\’s mother did not expect that her emotions would be transmitted to her children, and that her complaints would single-handedly destroy her children\’s right to pursue happiness. The scary thing is that if Xiao Sang gets married one day, it is difficult to guarantee that she will not end up like her parents. The mother\’s complaints will become a thorn in the child\’s heart. If the thorn cannot be removed during the growth process and becomes deeper and deeper, it will grow into a tumor, destroying the child\’s sense of security and giving the child a melancholy life. Xiao Sang is just an extreme example, but there are indeed many mothers who like to complain, which is detrimental to the development of healthy characters in their children. Pay more attention to your words and deeds so that you will not leave any regrets in the process of educating your children. If you are unhappy, your child will also be unhappy. As mentioned before, the mother\’s emotions are a reflection of the child\’s personality. Mothers who cannot control their negative emotions will raise unhappy children. Most of the mothers I see in life who have a cheerful personality, love to talk, laugh, and have the same qualities as him: they are optimistic about life, like to give their children a smile, have a gentle and tough personality, and do not talk to others casually. conflict. Writer Mo Yan once said that his mother is \”an indelible spiritual force\” for him. Mo Yan\’s family was poor when he was a child, and his mother suffered most from hunger. There was no food at home and she could only eat wild vegetables, but her mother would pound wild vegetables and hum a tune. This gave Mo Yan a huge shock. He thought his mother should cry, but she chose to sing. At that time, many rural women could not bear the pressure of life and committed suicide. One day, Mo Yan came home and cried anxiously when his mother was not there. Who knew that his mother walked in from the door at this time, understood Mo Yan\’s worries, and said, \”Don\’t worry, my child. The Lord of Hell won\’t go unless he calls me!\” His mother\’s low-pitched tone suddenly gave Mo Yan a sense of security and hope for the future. It was also his mother\’s optimistic and positive character that gave Mo Yan a sound personality and endowment.The inspiration that gave him life eventually became a generation of literary giants. A happy mother will raise happy children. The famous British educationist Spencer proposed the theory of \”happy education\”, which specified that the biggest forbidden areas are \”rude and harsh words, excessive criticism of children, neglect of children, punishment of children, and damage to children\’s self-esteem.\” And if the mother does not know how to control her emotions, she is touching these forbidden areas. The more out of control the mother\’s emotions are, the more likely the child will inherit this character flaw, or even worsen it and become hopeless. Controlling your emotions not only controls your life, but also controls the happiness of your children. Every child is a genius, and the child’s sunshine needs the tenderness of the mother to protect it.