My child, even if you are far away, you still have to remember to look back occasionally

I haven’t been home for a long time, and I found that you have grown a lot taller. During dinner, grandma cooked a lot of delicacies for a feast. Finally, she suddenly brought a steak and placed it in front of you. Needless to say, I guessed at a glance that this was a special treat for you. Food, and based on everyone\’s accustomed attitude towards this steak, it is estimated that it has been specially available for a long time. While I was still deep in thought, you suddenly looked up and said to me: \”Uncle, this steak is delicious. Mom bought a lot of it, and grandma cooks it for me every day.\” I smiled and nodded to you, After everyone was seated, I took the steak and cut it into small pieces. First I cut a piece for my grandparents, and then I cut a piece for your dad. The last piece was left on your plate, and then you put it in your mouth to taste it, laugh Then he said to you: \”Well, grandma\’s frying is pretty good. Let\’s all try it.\” This move seemed to shock everyone. Grandma and grandpa thought it was funny. While giving the meat to you, they turned around and smiled at me. Said: \”Why are you fighting for food with your children?\” I glanced at your mother and found that she was looking at me with a guilty conscience. Then she stopped my grandparents and said: \”This grandpa and grandma also have a try, can\’t always I’ll give it to you to eat alone.” After all, we are siblings, and your mother will instantly understand with the look in my eyes. But in this matter, I want to criticize your mother and grandparents, because I always hope that there will be no such special treatment in our family. They regard this kind of treatment for you as love, and this kind of special treatment for you. I don\’t agree with the expression of love to a certain extent. I can only say that I understand it very well, but this is not conducive to your education. I remember that you started eating by yourself when you were very young. You are the first child in our family in the past three generations. You are truly loved by all. When you were 2-3 years old, you were in poor health, sweating a lot, and were weak. You were still small, and the special food for you at that time was so small that even your vegetables had to be cooked separately, not to mention the special cordyceps soup you drank. Raising children is never easy. Later, you slowly recovered and started to grow well. When you were shaking with chopsticks, I started to let you learn to eat by yourself. At that time, your grandparents were firmly opposed, thinking that you were too young and would choke if you did. , what should I do if I get burned? They argued with me a lot about this, but guess what, after just two months, you became proficient in using a spoon. At first, you were really a headache. We turned the bowl over once and for all, and then we laughed together with you. We didn’t scold you, nor did we blame you. We encouraged you to do better slowly, and you never let us down. Later, when you went to kindergarten, your teacher said that you were such an amazing child. You rarely stained your clothes no matter what you ate, you ate cleanly and orderly, and you were not picky about food. Later, grandma and grandpa finally admitted that they were wrong. You know, because they always ignore your learning ability and creativity as a child. They think you don\’t understand anything, but how can you understand if you don\’t learn? Just like today, they don\’t study and observe your success, and they still don\’t understand why today you understand everything they think you don\’t understand. Then when you get a little older, I let you start to take on your responsibilities at home. At first, I started to encourage you to help me.Carry the folded clothes back to everyone\’s room, and then every time I wait for you to send them into the room, I have to overlap again. You enjoy it and I enjoy it. Gradually, we form a tacit understanding with each other. And habits, I know you treat it as a game, then that’s fine, as long as you get used to it. Then, little by little, as you get older, I will share the household work with you, such as folding clothes, washing dishes, and sweeping the floor. In our family, our grandparents often struggle with us on this point. They always think that this will take up too much of your study time. Anyway, in the name of love, they still have so many noble reasons to protect you. , but, I object, and today I’m here to tell you why. Let me tell you a real example first. You have an uncle in the United States. He has a child who was admitted to the finance department of the best university in Boston last year. They also have a Chinese couple next door with two children of the same age. In the same year, all three children were admitted to the finance department of the best university in Boston. Good university. Undoubtedly, they are both successful in educating their children, but the biggest difference lies in their attitudes towards their families. Your uncle\’s child went home to see his parents first thing during the summer vacation, and then communicated his vacation plans with his parents. He went on a trip with his parents in the first week, and during the rest of the time he decided to go to Europe for a working trip. And their neighbor has two more children. After calling his parents during the holidays to get money to travel, he didn\’t bother to go home to see his parents throughout the summer. After your uncle talked to me, he said that this was mainly due to I very much agree with their efforts to cultivate children\’s sense of family responsibility from an early age. The most important thing about why I want you to share the housework is that I hope I can let you know from some details and little things that every member of our family is responsible for our family. I hope that your family\’s love and understanding for you will be respected and reciprocated accordingly. We are not that selfless. Those who say that their parents\’ love is selfless will often go to the other extreme when they are not reciprocated. Comments: A dog will be smarter than you. We will be away from home often, and grandparents will grow old. We will never kidnap you, and we hope that you will be free to go your own way, but please don’t forget that the life you can live today is the result of the older generation. I bear it for you, bear it for you, and sacrifice part of my freedom in exchange for more freedom for you. So, even if you are far away, occasionally, you still have to remember to look back.