My child, I forgive my mother for not being able to accompany you.

Many years ago, I often saw this scene: a child calling for his mother at the door, with tears in his eyes. The mother ran away with her bag on her back, and the child followed behind. When she got tired of following, she squatted on the ground. cry. The grandpa or grandma next to her held the child and comforted her: Mommy has gone to work, so please don\’t cry. At that time, I couldn\’t understand the tears in the mother\’s eyes, nor could I understand why for the child, this was an ordinary job, but it felt like a separation. Is the mother too sensational, or is the child too fragile? Is \”Watching Off\” by Long Yingtai a dialogue rendered in literature and art, or is it the ultimate journey of every parent? But I still know that that deep affection is the mutual encouragement that I share with my daughter every time we are separated for a long or short time after many years. She asked me: Mom, can you stay with me? I said, I\’m sorry, mom can\’t just accompany you. In fact, we have all accidentally become parents who are constantly parting in the eyes of our children. Every time Lao Chen said goodbye to his daughter when he returned to the army, her daughter would stop at the door and say, \”Dad, don\’t leave.\” When Lao Chen took a step, his daughter hugged his legs and cried. When I was on a business trip, my daughter cried on the phone: Mom, are you not coming back? When I lived to be in my thirties, I had seen many things in the world, and thought I was invincible. Only then did I realize that family love is a softness that cannot be let go, and tears that hurt when poked. You have to endure it to get over it, saying dialogues like \”it\’s okay\” and \”it\’ll be fine\” to yourself. However, I also think about who has not experienced this in the cycle of reincarnation. We grow up with every farewell, which is actually the greatest meaning given by farewell. Our strength in every separation is actually the best new life that strength can give us. The same is true for children. There was a time when I was too busy at work and had to work overtime at home every day. Once when I just turned on the computer, my child climbed up to my desk and closed the lid of my laptop. My daughter sat on my laptop and cried: I don’t want my mother to use the computer, and I don’t want my mother to make money. I said, what are you going to do? She put her head on my face: I want my mother to stay with me. I couldn\’t hold back the tears. But I didn’t want to tell her how tired and miserable my mother was, and how irritable she was from time to time, full of complaints and nowhere to vent. I also don’t want to perform painful dramas such as “All my efforts are for you, mom” in front of her. I just touched her head and said, \”Are you getting better and better when you go to kindergarten? Mom also wants to get better and better, so you must work hard. You can read books and play with toys next to your mother, Mom works, so we are still together.\” My daughter dragged in a bunch of toys and books. She sat next to me while reading and building blocks. Although it made a mess on the floor, time passed very quickly. She was in her In the world, just because she is by my side, she gets the company she wants. It\’s companionship, not pampering. I remember that for a long time, I couldn\’t get into the role of a mother at all. I often have self-doubt: If I work so hard, will my children alienate me? I often work overtime, will I really miss my child’s childhood? If I can\’t be with my child sometimes, will she really alienate me? am i notIs it really not as warm as those mothers who often accompany their children? However, I have to admit that those chicken soups are right: child, I am a woman first, and your mother second. My child, you have to learn to be alone. Loneliness can happen at any time. In the role of mother, your children are also watching you grow up, get better, and become your best self. You act dignified like a cooking woman in the kitchen, and you work hard like a strong woman in the workplace. You love to dress up and put on makeup, and others praise you for your good looks. You work very hard, and you have some small achievements. In front of others, the child\’s cuteness is magnified because of you. She needs a mother like this. Stay-at-home moms are great, but so are working moms. What full-time mothers accomplish is other people\’s time. They sacrifice half their life\’s efforts and retire, willing to take care of the most trivial and in the eyes of others the most useless things. What working mothers achieve is their own growth. They fight hard and shed tears. They want to be their own pride and the pride of their children. All great. Kindergarten teachers said that their daughters would always tell them: My father’s name is so-and-so, and my mother’s name is so-and-so. With pride. Yes, innocence in the eyes of others is a great honor in my heart. More than anyone else, she wants me to be better. I often say in many readers\’ exchange meetings that women must keep their innocent heart at all times. Just like you did before, don\’t regard getting married and having children as a watershed in life from high mountains to low waters, but as another starting over. Many people will sink, but the one who never fails is the woman who always works hard and always has tears in her eyes. Therefore, there is no need to feel guilty, the choice you make now is your motivation to move forward. And I also want to say something: Son, I forgive my mother for not being able to accompany you. Mom hopes that she will become better, worthy of your perfection, and really worthy of your pride.